Not Welcome

[Charlie Roo]

Personally, I would not take Charlie anywhere that he would not be welcome. I always ask if it's okay to bring him, and if they say yes, great. However if the situation occured while I was there, the same person that said it was okay would start to say negative things I would confront right away and put them on the spot, I would say something like, do you have a problem with my dog or is he bothering you, make them respond and if it is still negative let them know it would probably be best if you didn't bring your dog next time, put a little conviction on them. Luckily all my family adores Charlie, the only brawl we have is everyone fighting to hold him, sometimes I don't want to bring him because I don't even get to see my own dog. Best of luck to you and your brother.

[SexyJessi257]

to be honest, i wudn't take them. it sucks but its not ur house therefore u cant "argue" with him. just dont go over as much n like someone else said invite them to ur house. i had the same thing kinda happen to me. i alwaysssssss take abby w me to my b/f's house. his parents love her n pretty much let her get away w ANYTHING. however his bro lives upstairs n he's not tooooooo happy about her. in the beginning it seemed ok wen we went but then i notices weird stuff. he wud call her "dog" n i wud look him in the face n say "her name is Abby". n then the other day their 2yr old son kicked her on purpose. they saw it n wen i looked at the mom as sayin"well hello wat r u gonna do" she just looked at me n then turned her face. that was the lasttttttttttt time i took abby there. i told my b/f let's go n ripped him a new one wen we went back to his house. i told him if he ever takes abby there again i was gonna kill him. so i just dont go there anymore. but then... last week they brought the baby over to my b/f house n left us n my b/f's mom w him . he tried to kick her twice again but failed. i literally ate my b.f alive w my eyes n then he yelled at the baby. the baby got mad n the granma said well he didnt kick her n then i stared at my b/f n he told her "it doesnt matter he still tried n he knows its not right" my b/f will be gettin his own house in about a week or so, n its also my house , so believe me if someone who doesnt like my dog goes there n makes comments, that will b the last time they go....

sorry long reply but that just pissed me off

[Tammyh]

The next time you go there, don't take them. He'll probably ask why you didn't bring the dogs. Tell him the truth (nicely) and he'll most likely either (A) say "ok" which will let you know that he really didn't like having them over OR (B) he'll say he really doesn't mind that you bring them and tell you to bring them next time and maybe he'll stop complaining all the time (maybe he really likes them but doesn't want to admit it) See what happens.

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by Kimmy378

Unfortunately there are people out there that do understand the bond between us and our dogs. We love them as much as they love their own kids. Spoiling, making a fuss, and adoring them is what they deserve.

I have family that do not get how much my dog means to me. He literally is my own kid and I love him as such. I can tell in their voice that he is not that welcomed (eventhough they say he can come). I hate leaving him behind, but I respect my family members opinion (even if they are wrong, haha). I make my visits shorter, and when they ask me 'why do you have to leave so early' I tell them 'I miss MY baby'.

I know it sucks to leave them behind and you want to take them everywhere with you, but unfortunately you have to respect the person you are visiting. I make sure I have special niece/nephew weekends at my house so they can get used to and learn to love my dog.

i know many ppl do not understand that bond. It sucks, but everyone should respect what brings ppl their love. It's only right. I don't make fun of my brother cause he wants to be a navy seal or do all this crazy stuff.

[mizzwanned]

Thanks everyone for sharing your stories and advice with me. I think my brother just does it to bother me, that's what it comes down to since he doesn't do it to other ppl's dogs. He just likes to be annoying Next time im going to leave them home, i can't leave when i want cause i dont have a car, its usually my mom that drives me there so i have to leave when she does. I just go as less as i can cause everytime i go it is always something that ends up happening, he just seems like he is angry at life cause he still wants to do stuff and now has a family and can't..i dunno. W.E. it's not my problem. Too bad some ppl don't realize for those that don't have kids yet our dogs ARE our kids, they are missing out, not me

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by nvnvgirl

Awww, you poor thing! What a stinker your brother is! I started out with large parrots and I wouldn't go ANYWHERE unless they could go with me....so I think my family is REALLY glad I'm returning to something they can relate to somewhat (one Christmas, when I took one of my parrots, the only non-carpeted area in my mom's house was in the kitchen, so that's where I had to put her cage....my mom had to walk way around her to get to the fridge b/c once she got too close and Nova leaned over and bit her arm (she wasn't mean, she just got startled when someone who wasn't me walked so close to her)....tell your brother to be happy you love sweet little dogs and not big parrots with gigantic beaks.

lol i used to have a bird when i was younger, he was everything to me! My brother hated him too

[Lou]

I don't thing you should ignore your brother nor do I think you should continue to take your babies over there. There is something wrong with his whole attitude.

Leave the dogs at home and when he asks about them our comes up with a snide comment tell him flat out that he has hurt your feelings many times regarding your dogs and you decided that the only way you could deal with his remarks is to leave them at home. Then add that you would appreciate it if he would not bring the subject up again.

Brothers can be a blessing but they can also be a curse.

[mizzwanned]

Originally Posted by Betty'sMom

I don't understand why he liked other dogs, but not yours. To me, that sounds like he has a sibling rivalry thing going on too. How old are you and how old is he? Maybe he's jealous...you seem so happy, you love your babies and have a loving boyfriend...and you are beautiful! Maybe he is still being upset from childhood since you were the youngest and probably got a lot of attention. Next time he says something, I would give him a big gorgeous smile and kiss my babies in front of him!

I'm 21, he's 25. I don't think he's jealous...he's the one that has everything already, his fiance, a baby, 2 cars and a condo. He's settled, im not yet settled lol im still going to school and all that, so he's def not jealous about that but i do love my dogs and he sees that and says things out of spite idk why. He did used to get jealous that i got a lot of attention when we were younger but that is in the past, we're older and are both treated the same. He can't complain...he just says these awful things about dogs