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onlyambs · 08-01-2005, 03:50 PM

Ok so Bentley just turned 9 months and we have actually had him for like 5 months. Anyway when we first got him he was nice and quiet and loved being held so we were like this is def. the one! Well after about a month or two he got really hyper. He draws off of your attention and if he doesnt get it he whines like whimpers and he like dances around and jumps on the furniture like he wants to get up but then he runs away. He also used to be really good at going in the box but just recently he started peein in other places. We figured it was him marking his territory so today we took him to get neutered and I will pick him up tomarrow morning. Oh he also begs really really badly at the dinner table and we really never started feeding him from the table so I dont know how that started. But getting to the family part, I am an only child and will be living at home till end of August when I go to college. But he really gets on my parents nerves and my mom says things like we should never of gotten another puppy I forgot how much work it is and then today at dinner we were talkin about him and my dad was like yea I really dont miss him, I just hope he calms down after the neutering. Though he said it jokingly,I like almost felt like cryin I mean yea he can be alittle annoying at times but hes a puppy and I love him! So I was just wondering if any of your yorkies do this lil whimpering thing and if they can be annoying at times, also if there is any hope of him being more calm tomarrow after the neutering.

Trevor's Mom · 08-01-2005, 03:56 PM

My Trevor is also 9 mo and he does exactly the same thing. I think yorkies are just prone to wanting lots of attention, especially when they were showered with it at a little puppy. (My 5 yo grandson is the same way!!!).

Trevor brings his toys and will "demand" that I play with him, even if only 5 minutes. He needs to know that I'm his playmate and after 5 minutes, if that's all the time I can spare, he will go entertain himself or play with the other dogs.

I know it's disheartening to hear others "dis" your baby.... hope things work out okay.

Cyndie
Trevor's Mom

milliecorrales · 08-01-2005, 04:21 PM

for your problem with Bentley, however, yorkies are usually a bit hyper for the first couple of years LOL. I solved my hyper problem (have two boys) with lots of exercise, even when it is the last thing that I want to do, and it does help having two, cause they each have someone to wear out. You must stop his bad behavior, especially since you live with your parents and he is driving them nuts. Discipline (not physical), training (your local rec center may offer something cheap), and time outs (isolated or in the crate) may help. Hope that you can work this out with your folks. Good luck.

Joy · 08-01-2005, 07:05 PM

Awwww. Hang in there. It sounds like he's just testing you like kids will do. I agree a bit of discipline and a time out for bad behavior does wonders. I hope everything works out for you and Bentley. Please keep us posted.

Latuya · 08-01-2005, 07:34 PM

Gus used to do the same thing. What I did was put him in his crate while we ate. The crate is located in the family room right next to the kitchen. But he really didn't like it. I didn't want him to dislike his crate and think it's there for punishment. So I put his harness and leash on and tied him up to the tv stand with his pillow right there. He cried at first, so then I moved him to the the other room. He really cried then, so I got him and put him back on the tv stand so he can see us and it really helped. Again if he cried,, back to the room he went. After a while he new it was better for him to be right in the next room where he can see us. This took about 3 weeks. After that I didn't have to tie him to the stand, he knew he had to stay there on his pillow while we are eatting. He'll will come running if anyone drops anything, but all we have to say is get back and he'll stop right in his tracks. After dinner he will search for any food that may have fallen on the floor but that's ok, just as long as he's not begging for food at dinner time. Good luck!!!

SoCalyorkiLvr · 08-01-2005, 08:03 PM

Sounds like typical yorkie misbehavior to me. Will you be taking him to college with you? You should work hard to correct his problems before you go either way. I find they are actually pretty easy to train but things that don't rritae me drive others up the wall. Like when Hefner barks at Chai because she has stolen his toy, everyone else is like "shut him up" and I am like "how cute". He will also bark at me if he wants me to feed him or put a treat in his bowl. I think it is his way of communicating and I don't mind, but people who are not as in tune to him think he is just being annoying.

jesscruz · 08-01-2005, 09:31 PM

coco is the same. he always wants attention

i know this must be hard for you, but hang in there

do you have recent pics i would love to see him...

centralnewyorki · 08-02-2005, 05:23 AM

I wish Olivia would wimper to get my attenion. She usually starts barking if I'm not doing what she wants! Yorkies are a demanding breed and want that attention. (one of their best features, if you ask me!) I would give Bentley a firm "no" when he's begging at the table. If that doesn't work, I would use a spray bottle and spray him (not in the face) if that behavior continues. Do you have a bone that you could give him during dinnertime? If it's a special bone that he only gets during this time, it might keep occupied. If you're family's like mine, you may need to have a talk with everyone to make sure that they're not sneaking him food under the table. My mom is the biggest culprit of this! The other day I was at my aunts for dinner and was amazed that Olivia was being so well behaved during dinner (on a leash, outdoors at someone else's house.) Turns out my mom and boyfriend had been slipping her little pieces of meat during the meal! Like Kim said, though, I really think when she barks at me that it's her way of communicating with me. I usually talk to her and she gets really excited by this and starts licking me or "hitting" me with her paws in a playful way.

Julz · 08-02-2005, 05:34 AM

Choose your battles. You can't solve everything at once. Pick two things you want to correct and work on them diligently. The begging at the table is the easiest one. I put Tiah in her crate every time we eat. It just isn't worth it to be nagging a dog the entire time (she doesn't get table scraps either, but she can still smell LOL). Your pup is just a pup and does need guidance. I am guessing he is going with you when you move out. You do need to exercise him in regard to his hyperness. That really is a Yorkie puppy thing and you still have over three months of seeing that calming down AT ALL. Make him YOUR dog, and show him that YOU are the boss. The simple beginnings of training teach him that. You must talk in a firm, deeper monotone and not get excited when working with him. Well, I better not run on and on......Good Luck!

Deegan's mom · 08-02-2005, 06:15 AM

Deegan is pretty much the same way. As a matter of fact I picked him up last night and looked him the eyes and asked him where that sweet, quiet, cuddly little puppy that I brought home went to?

He has changed alot. Much more rambunctious and always on the go. I don't mind, but the part that is frustrating for me is when he also "demands" like the other dogs, that he wants our attention. He doesn't whimper or whine, he just flat out barks. Right at us to.

So I try to involve him in everything I do or everywhere I go ( as long as it is possible), and try to give him plenty of exercise so that he will be tired when I need or want to relax. Winter is going to be a pain though, as I hate the cold weather and he probably won't be able to take much of it either.

Ladylavender · 08-02-2005, 06:29 AM

I agree, I think Bentley may be the boss right now. When we eat, we always put Millie in her x-pen, whether she likes it or not. (if she barks to get out, we ignor her. and we never let her out when she is barking, only when she gets quite). We eat in our family room watching tv. so she is with us, but just penned and she never bothers us while eating. Also, I take Millie for 15 minute walks 2 x day. I let her run, still on a leash, which makes me have to run sometimes too!

When Millie jumps up, around and overall crazy, when we are not paying attention to her, I tell her to "settle" in a firm voice and then I ignor her. The second she gets quiet I tell her "good girl" or treat her. That way she is learning the response I am looking for. I never give her her toys when she is jumping around. I always tell her to sit and wait for the toy. If she gets impatient and jumps and barks, I don't release the toy to her until she is sitting and quite again.

It really boils down to "control". dogs base their social order on who has the control. You need to remove the control from bentley and make him earn your time, his food, toys and other privledges. While this will require work and consistency, you will notice a big improvement and he will be a pleasure to be around and with.

StewiesMom · 08-02-2005, 06:41 AM

It sounds like we are in the same boat. Stewie is not my cuddly baby that he used to be, but he's still a blast to be around.

I'm pretty sure someone in your family must be sneaking him food. Either that, or someone mistakenly drops food and he eats it off the floor. That happens at my mom's house. My stepdad is always dropping things on the floor because he is diabetic and loses some feeling in his hands and is a little shakey w/ the fork and knife. It never fails that when we are eating, Stewie is under his chair watching like a hawk for anything dropped.

Stewie does the exact same thing where he makes it seem like he wants to get picked up, but instead he just runs away when you go to reach for him. He wants me to chase him all the time! Just refuse to chase him or ignore him when he gets very demanding. He'll learn that he'll get attention on your terms. Sounds like he's trying to test his stance at being alpha. I can totally relate.

Hang in there. He'll be better after he's neutered. Get your cuddle time when he's sleepy

Kelz · 08-02-2005, 06:52 AM

Haha i guess i'm not the only one with these problems!!! Bentley barks all the time! but i agree with Kim it's his way on communicating..he doesnt get in trouble unless he barks for a long time and then we just say NO BARK. and 9 out of 10 times he will quit.. My parents dont really mind it.. my mom thinks it's cute..she will be saying something and Bentley will bark..then my mom will reply with "don't you sass me" and everyone laughs. We use to have problems at dinner too!! He would cry and scratch at everyones leg wanting food. Which i never really got b/c he's never had people food.. But everyone just started to ignore him and that has stopped too!

suzysmitt · 08-02-2005, 08:32 AM

We're having the same problem with Skippy who is 7 months old. We were use to Gwen who is three being so quite and cutesy. Skippy goes nuts. He cries to get picked up and then runs off. He barks at the other dogs and bites there legs if they don't get up to play. I started letting him run in the morning with the big dogs and they usually tire him out for a while. I just had him neutered a week ago, and he's nuttier then ever. I just keep telling myself he's a pup, and acting like one. It's just like raising a kid. When their little they get into all kinds of trouble, but if you stick to it you'll have some good kids when they grow up.

lnovack · 08-03-2005, 09:08 AM

Take heart! Gracie was the same way but now that she is a grown up lady, one year old, she is much calmer. We thought she was going to be a wild woman forever!!!

08-01-2005, 03:50 PM	#1
onlyambs Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Maryland Posts: 201	Bentley not winning over the fam... Ok so Bentley just turned 9 months and we have actually had him for like 5 months. Anyway when we first got him he was nice and quiet and loved being held so we were like this is def. the one! Well after about a month or two he got really hyper. He draws off of your attention and if he doesnt get it he whines like whimpers and he like dances around and jumps on the furniture like he wants to get up but then he runs away. He also used to be really good at going in the box but just recently he started peein in other places. We figured it was him marking his territory so today we took him to get neutered and I will pick him up tomarrow morning. Oh he also begs really really badly at the dinner table and we really never started feeding him from the table so I dont know how that started. But getting to the family part, I am an only child and will be living at home till end of August when I go to college. But he really gets on my parents nerves and my mom says things like we should never of gotten another puppy I forgot how much work it is and then today at dinner we were talkin about him and my dad was like yea I really dont miss him, I just hope he calms down after the neutering. Though he said it jokingly,I like almost felt like cryin I mean yea he can be alittle annoying at times but hes a puppy and I love him! So I was just wondering if any of your yorkies do this lil whimpering thing and if they can be annoying at times, also if there is any hope of him being more calm tomarrow after the neutering.

08-01-2005, 04:21 PM	#3
milliecorrales YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 516	Sorry for your problem with Bentley, however, yorkies are usually a bit hyper for the first couple of years LOL. I solved my hyper problem (have two boys) with lots of exercise, even when it is the last thing that I want to do, and it does help having two, cause they each have someone to wear out. You must stop his bad behavior, especially since you live with your parents and he is driving them nuts. Discipline (not physical), training (your local rec center may offer something cheap), and time outs (isolated or in the crate) may help. Hope that you can work this out with your folks. Good luck.

08-01-2005, 07:34 PM	#5
Latuya YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Rialto CA Posts: 3,243	Gus used to do the same thing. What I did was put him in his crate while we ate. The crate is located in the family room right next to the kitchen. But he really didn't like it. I didn't want him to dislike his crate and think it's there for punishment. So I put his harness and leash on and tied him up to the tv stand with his pillow right there. He cried at first, so then I moved him to the the other room. He really cried then, so I got him and put him back on the tv stand so he can see us and it really helped. Again if he cried,, back to the room he went. After a while he new it was better for him to be right in the next room where he can see us. This took about 3 weeks. After that I didn't have to tie him to the stand, he knew he had to stay there on his pillow while we are eatting. He'll will come running if anyone drops anything, but all we have to say is get back and he'll stop right in his tracks. After dinner he will search for any food that may have fallen on the floor but that's ok, just as long as he's not begging for food at dinner time. Good luck!!! __________________ Monica, Proud mom of Gus who is forever missed! And new mom to Leiloni Gus's Dogster page

08-01-2005, 09:31 PM	#7
jesscruz YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: seaside,ca Posts: 1,763	coco is the same. he always wants attention i know this must be hard for you, but hang in there do you have recent pics i would love to see him... __________________ mommy's little baby coco bear

08-02-2005, 05:23 AM	#8
centralnewyorki YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: Central NY state Posts: 1,741	I wish Olivia would wimper to get my attenion. She usually starts barking if I'm not doing what she wants! Yorkies are a demanding breed and want that attention. (one of their best features, if you ask me!) I would give Bentley a firm "no" when he's begging at the table. If that doesn't work, I would use a spray bottle and spray him (not in the face) if that behavior continues. Do you have a bone that you could give him during dinnertime? If it's a special bone that he only gets during this time, it might keep occupied. If you're family's like mine, you may need to have a talk with everyone to make sure that they're not sneaking him food under the table. My mom is the biggest culprit of this! The other day I was at my aunts for dinner and was amazed that Olivia was being so well behaved during dinner (on a leash, outdoors at someone else's house.) Turns out my mom and boyfriend had been slipping her little pieces of meat during the meal! Like Kim said, though, I really think when she barks at me that it's her way of communicating with me. I usually talk to her and she gets really excited by this and starts licking me or "hitting" me with her paws in a playful way. __________________ Susan & Olivia Visit Olivia's Dogster Page!

08-01-2005, 03:56 PM	#2
Trevor's Mom Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2004 Location: Texas Gulf Coast Posts: 96	My Trevor is also 9 mo and he does exactly the same thing. I think yorkies are just prone to wanting lots of attention, especially when they were showered with it at a little puppy. (My 5 yo grandson is the same way!!!). Trevor brings his toys and will "demand" that I play with him, even if only 5 minutes. He needs to know that I'm his playmate and after 5 minutes, if that's all the time I can spare, he will go entertain himself or play with the other dogs. I know it's disheartening to hear others "dis" your baby.... hope things work out okay. Cyndie Trevor's Mom

08-01-2005, 07:05 PM	#4
Joy BANNED! Join Date: May 2005 Location: Maine Posts: 2,094	Awwww. Hang in there. It sounds like he's just testing you like kids will do. I agree a bit of discipline and a time out for bad behavior does wonders. I hope everything works out for you and Bentley. Please keep us posted.

08-01-2005, 08:03 PM	#6
SoCalyorkiLvr BANNED! Join Date: Mar 2005 Posts: 8,246	Sounds like typical yorkie misbehavior to me. Will you be taking him to college with you? You should work hard to correct his problems before you go either way. I find they are actually pretty easy to train but things that don't rritae me drive others up the wall. Like when Hefner barks at Chai because she has stolen his toy, everyone else is like "shut him up" and I am like "how cute". He will also bark at me if he wants me to feed him or put a treat in his bowl. I think it is his way of communicating and I don't mind, but people who are not as in tune to him think he is just being annoying.

08-02-2005, 05:34 AM	#9
Julz Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Pennsylvania Posts: 4,347	Choose your battles. You can't solve everything at once. Pick two things you want to correct and work on them diligently. The begging at the table is the easiest one. I put Tiah in her crate every time we eat. It just isn't worth it to be nagging a dog the entire time (she doesn't get table scraps either, but she can still smell LOL). Your pup is just a pup and does need guidance. I am guessing he is going with you when you move out. You do need to exercise him in regard to his hyperness. That really is a Yorkie puppy thing and you still have over three months of seeing that calming down AT ALL. Make him YOUR dog, and show him that YOU are the boss. The simple beginnings of training teach him that. You must talk in a firm, deeper monotone and not get excited when working with him. Well, I better not run on and on......Good Luck!

08-02-2005, 06:15 AM	#10
Deegan's mom YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Windsor, ON Posts: 1,271	Deegan is pretty much the same way. As a matter of fact I picked him up last night and looked him the eyes and asked him where that sweet, quiet, cuddly little puppy that I brought home went to? He has changed alot. Much more rambunctious and always on the go. I don't mind, but the part that is frustrating for me is when he also "demands" like the other dogs, that he wants our attention. He doesn't whimper or whine, he just flat out barks. Right at us to. So I try to involve him in everything I do or everywhere I go ( as long as it is possible), and try to give him plenty of exercise so that he will be tired when I need or want to relax. Winter is going to be a pain though, as I hate the cold weather and he probably won't be able to take much of it either. __________________ Jayde, Deegan & Trooper ~Be the change you wish to see in the world - Adopt a rescue pet~

08-02-2005, 06:29 AM	#11
Ladylavender YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Soddy Daisy, TN Posts: 733	I agree, I think Bentley may be the boss right now. When we eat, we always put Millie in her x-pen, whether she likes it or not. (if she barks to get out, we ignor her. and we never let her out when she is barking, only when she gets quite). We eat in our family room watching tv. so she is with us, but just penned and she never bothers us while eating. Also, I take Millie for 15 minute walks 2 x day. I let her run, still on a leash, which makes me have to run sometimes too! When Millie jumps up, around and overall crazy, when we are not paying attention to her, I tell her to "settle" in a firm voice and then I ignor her. The second she gets quiet I tell her "good girl" or treat her. That way she is learning the response I am looking for. I never give her her toys when she is jumping around. I always tell her to sit and wait for the toy. If she gets impatient and jumps and barks, I don't release the toy to her until she is sitting and quite again. It really boils down to "control". dogs base their social order on who has the control. You need to remove the control from bentley and make him earn your time, his food, toys and other privledges. While this will require work and consistency, you will notice a big improvement and he will be a pleasure to be around and with. Last edited by Ladylavender; 08-02-2005 at 06:31 AM.

08-02-2005, 06:41 AM	#12
StewiesMom Stewie Rox the Sox Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Chicago Posts: 6,306	It sounds like we are in the same boat. Stewie is not my cuddly baby that he used to be, but he's still a blast to be around. I'm pretty sure someone in your family must be sneaking him food. Either that, or someone mistakenly drops food and he eats it off the floor. That happens at my mom's house. My stepdad is always dropping things on the floor because he is diabetic and loses some feeling in his hands and is a little shakey w/ the fork and knife. It never fails that when we are eating, Stewie is under his chair watching like a hawk for anything dropped. Stewie does the exact same thing where he makes it seem like he wants to get picked up, but instead he just runs away when you go to reach for him. He wants me to chase him all the time! Just refuse to chase him or ignore him when he gets very demanding. He'll learn that he'll get attention on your terms. Sounds like he's trying to test his stance at being alpha. I can totally relate. Hang in there. He'll be better after he's neutered. Get your cuddle time when he's sleepy __________________ Kristy & Stewie

08-02-2005, 06:52 AM	#13
Kelz YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Yukon, ok Posts: 2,885	Haha i guess i'm not the only one with these problems!!! Bentley barks all the time! but i agree with Kim it's his way on communicating..he doesnt get in trouble unless he barks for a long time and then we just say NO BARK. and 9 out of 10 times he will quit.. My parents dont really mind it.. my mom thinks it's cute..she will be saying something and Bentley will bark..then my mom will reply with "don't you sass me" and everyone laughs. We use to have problems at dinner too!! He would cry and scratch at everyones leg wanting food. Which i never really got b/c he's never had people food.. But everyone just started to ignore him and that has stopped too! __________________ Kelly- momma to Parker, Star,Zoe, & Kegan.. RIP Silly Lily OK Yorkie Rescue - http://okyorkierescue.org

08-02-2005, 08:32 AM	#14
suzysmitt Currently Suspended! Join Date: May 2005 Location: Florida Posts: 2,150	We're having the same problem with Skippy who is 7 months old. We were use to Gwen who is three being so quite and cutesy. Skippy goes nuts. He cries to get picked up and then runs off. He barks at the other dogs and bites there legs if they don't get up to play. I started letting him run in the morning with the big dogs and they usually tire him out for a while. I just had him neutered a week ago, and he's nuttier then ever. I just keep telling myself he's a pup, and acting like one. It's just like raising a kid. When their little they get into all kinds of trouble, but if you stick to it you'll have some good kids when they grow up.

08-03-2005, 09:08 AM	#15
lnovack YT Addict Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: West Virginia Posts: 308	Take heart! Gracie was the same way but now that she is a grown up lady, one year old, she is much calmer. We thought she was going to be a wild woman forever!!! __________________ Gracie's Mama