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Brookef18 · 02-24-2008, 04:26 PM

When you decide to get a dog.... you are adding to your family. You can't know what that pet is going to be like. They all have personalities. They have feelings, and you get what ever they are!
Only you know how you truely feel about this little guy. If this is not the pet for you, rehoming is a good answer as long as you find some one who will except him for who he is. This is not to say you are a bad person. it is better for you to rehome thinking of the dog's best interest, then to keep him they way things are. But if you LOVE this little boy, and you truely want to make it work, find some one who can help assess this boy and help you to decide how to help him. I'm sure there are things you can do to help him become a more confident, loving pet. In any case please help this baby have a better life.

Potter · 02-28-2008, 07:33 PM

What happen to this thread? Bump.

jrincon17 · 02-28-2008, 07:36 PM

i think with all the negative comments, i dont think id come reply back

Rocco1 · 02-29-2008, 08:01 AM

Just my quick 2 cents worth but I agree with everyone else. I think re-homing is a good solution for both you and this baby.

People must think I'm crazy then because I enjoy loving on my Rocco even when he's smelly. LOL LOL LOL

MindieRose · 02-29-2008, 09:00 AM

Kids and dogs make smells and messes. Lord knows that I know that all too well. We have 6 kids under 10, 5 dogs, and a cat. I think if you decide to rehome your dog, you should still try to get some help on your obsessive cleaning issues. I can understand wanting to keep a tidy house, but you are not only creating tension with others, but you are also putting a tremendous strain on yourself with the high expectations you have.
I have a clean freak for a friend, and I never want her to come over, and I dont even like to talk to her when she is talking about how clean she keeps her house. Its flat out annoying and feels like she is bashing me. I am a wreck the whole time she is at my house because I feel like she analyzing everything.
I keep my house moderately clean, meaning that I do my dishes daily, I do laundry daily, I vaccuum, and I keep things semi picked up. I do my weekly things like toilets, and my company things before company comes (wipe down walls, any spot cleaning, etc). You have to let kids be kids and dogs be dogs. Niether children nor animals are dolls that were just meant to be looked at and sit still.
I think that getting rid of your dog isnt getting rid of the whole problem. I think you have to address your issues as well.
It would be great if you could get some help now, and you and your dog can start over.

Jeri Cunningham · 02-29-2008, 09:15 AM

There is no reason you cannot have a clean house with dogs. I have 7 and clean all the time. I mop alot , this is a great form of excerise!

I have 7 happy dogs that are welcome to play with their toys and there are beds everywhere. If company is coming over it takes about 1 hour to clean up and put the dogs home ( master bathroom a big 8x10).

I would never put anything above their happiness. My little 10 month old Kayla got a turd stuck on her butt for the first time yesterday and freaked out ran to me to fix it, a butt bath did the trick... BUT a few times my older dogs cleaned their butts on the carpet!

Oh well so we shampoo more than most...

They are so worth it.....

jrincon17 · 02-29-2008, 09:26 AM

nikkinack · 02-29-2008, 09:38 AM

I had obsessive cleaning issues to the point my new husband could almost not deal with me, having lily has been great for me. Now I would rather spend time playing and cuddling with her rather than running around the house chasing dirt that is not even there. But everyone is different and you should do what you think is best for the pup. Good luck

vanessa19 · 02-29-2008, 09:45 AM

LOL if I had a dollar everytime Jasmine rubbed a "dingle-berry" on my carpet I would be a rich lady!

janelles · 02-29-2008, 09:58 AM

the poor little guy sounds awfully lonesome to me
Janelles

4gracealone · 02-29-2008, 09:59 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by vanessa19

LOL if I had a dollar everytime Jasmine rubbed a "dingle-berry" on my carpet I would be a rich lady!

LOL @ this!

scoobiedooiscoo · 02-29-2008, 10:03 AM

maybe rehoming would be good, but have you tried to go pick up the puppy and sit with it on your lap instead of watching it sit on the pee pee pad? timid dogs need to know they are loved. sometimes taking the dog out for walks ect... more often will also help. as far as toys all over you can teach them to put them away, we have a dog that loves to clean up. although that 1 out of 5 dogs lol. some dogs get their feeling hurt really easy i have one like that and it takes alot of work to make her feel secure and safe. timid dogs are hard to understand and it might not be the right fit for you to keep this dog. but for me once i get a dog its part of my family and i do everything i cant to make it work and except them for who they are. but thats me i fall head over heals in love to easy lol. in the end its up to you to decide whats best

good luck

mypreciouspups · 02-29-2008, 10:10 AM

I need to say that I feel sorry for this yorkie.. I would say that is the humans making him the way he is...

he needs to be rehomed.. before he is ruined completely...
My good god, I cannot imagine... I love my yorkies, not matter what,..and if you are so obsessed with cleanliness, then the sooner you rehome the better..
My heart is aching for this little guy.. there are people that do not have motherly instinct.. they do not have children, when they do,, the child suffers.. so I think your probably a great person, but just not a doggie person..
abuse does not always come in the form of physical.. it is also a mental abuse that just does not go away..
Seems like he is penned up too much, and alone to much.. maybe just finding a yter close to you, to take this baby in for a few weeks to just see if he is better with other dogs.. I would not suggest getting a mate for him.. for if that does not work, now you could have to that live full of anxiety..
Yorkies do not ever forget these things..

janelles · 02-29-2008, 10:58 AM

I just had another thought. Instead of him huddled in the kitchen while you are sitting in the living room, why don't you go and get him and sit him on your lap, so that he feels wanted and secure. Perhaps if you were to pet him and talk to him a little bond would occur between you and him.It seems as though he is afraid that he is going to make a mistake, and it is making him nervous. Yorkies, as you know by now, are very sensitive.
Janice

ARCHIE · 02-29-2008, 11:08 AM

I have tears in my eyes reading this thread.
To picture that little one sitting in the kitchen all day alone and in the corner
all night alone and depressed because he lost his campanion and he dosen't know how to be a puppy
is too sad.
Maybe after reading these posts the OP will understand what it is
to have a yorkie or any pet for that matter. They need to be socialized
and be what they are, a dog.
Good luck to you. Don't be sad about re-homing your dog be happy
because you will be doing him a favor. Another home can give him
what he requires. Attention, attention, attention.

02-24-2008, 04:26 PM	#16
Brookef18 Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: Cape Cod Ma Posts: 1,855	When you decide to get a dog.... you are adding to your family. You can't know what that pet is going to be like. They all have personalities. They have feelings, and you get what ever they are! Only you know how you truely feel about this little guy. If this is not the pet for you, rehoming is a good answer as long as you find some one who will except him for who he is. This is not to say you are a bad person. it is better for you to rehome thinking of the dog's best interest, then to keep him they way things are. But if you LOVE this little boy, and you truely want to make it work, find some one who can help assess this boy and help you to decide how to help him. I'm sure there are things you can do to help him become a more confident, loving pet. In any case please help this baby have a better life. __________________ Brooke (Chewy's and Sadie's Mom) visit us on dogster dogster.com/dogs/700047

02-28-2008, 07:33 PM	#17
Potter YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jul 2006 Location: Canada Posts: 2,583	What happen to this thread? Bump. __________________ http://www.dogster.com/pet_page.php?j=t&i=410379 "No matter how little money and how few possesions you own, having a dog makes you rich."

02-28-2008, 07:36 PM	#18
jrincon17 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: santa rosa, ca Posts: 648	i think with all the negative comments, i dont think id come reply back __________________ IF EVERYONE OWNED A YORKIE, THE WORLD WOULD BE A BETTER PLACE Proud Papa of SUKI

02-29-2008, 08:01 AM	#19
Rocco1 Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Texarkana, TX Posts: 239	Just my quick 2 cents worth but I agree with everyone else. I think re-homing is a good solution for both you and this baby. People must think I'm crazy then because I enjoy loving on my Rocco even when he's smelly. LOL LOL LOL __________________ ROCCO (my man)...Proud member of the Little Gentleman's Club

02-29-2008, 09:00 AM	#20
MindieRose Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,280	Kids and dogs make smells and messes. Lord knows that I know that all too well. We have 6 kids under 10, 5 dogs, and a cat. I think if you decide to rehome your dog, you should still try to get some help on your obsessive cleaning issues. I can understand wanting to keep a tidy house, but you are not only creating tension with others, but you are also putting a tremendous strain on yourself with the high expectations you have. I have a clean freak for a friend, and I never want her to come over, and I dont even like to talk to her when she is talking about how clean she keeps her house. Its flat out annoying and feels like she is bashing me. I am a wreck the whole time she is at my house because I feel like she analyzing everything. I keep my house moderately clean, meaning that I do my dishes daily, I do laundry daily, I vaccuum, and I keep things semi picked up. I do my weekly things like toilets, and my company things before company comes (wipe down walls, any spot cleaning, etc). You have to let kids be kids and dogs be dogs. Niether children nor animals are dolls that were just meant to be looked at and sit still. I think that getting rid of your dog isnt getting rid of the whole problem. I think you have to address your issues as well. It would be great if you could get some help now, and you and your dog can start over. __________________ Proud Mommy of Gavin, Ethan, Morgan, Nia, Olivia, and Kiana and baby #7! Also Mommy to furkids: Cleo ,Lola, Lilly Appletini, and Diesel. and Sunny, Ethan's Golden therapy dog in training.

02-29-2008, 09:15 AM	#21
Jeri Cunningham Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Hercules,CA Posts: 2,057 Blog Entries: 1	There is no reason you cannot have a clean house with dogs. I have 7 and clean all the time. I mop alot , this is a great form of excerise! I have 7 happy dogs that are welcome to play with their toys and there are beds everywhere. If company is coming over it takes about 1 hour to clean up and put the dogs home ( master bathroom a big 8x10). I would never put anything above their happiness. My little 10 month old Kayla got a turd stuck on her butt for the first time yesterday and freaked out ran to me to fix it, a butt bath did the trick... BUT a few times my older dogs cleaned their butts on the carpet! Oh well so we shampoo more than most... They are so worth it..... __________________ Mandy & Krissy & Teddy & Chelsey & Kayla Non-Yorkie: Rusty & Biewers: Darla & Spanky The Little Rascals

02-29-2008, 09:26 AM	#22
jrincon17 YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: santa rosa, ca Posts: 648	__________________ IF EVERYONE OWNED A YORKIE, THE WORLD WOULD BE A BETTER PLACE Proud Papa of SUKI

02-29-2008, 09:38 AM	#23
nikkinack YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Mid Michigan Posts: 1,510	I had obsessive cleaning issues to the point my new husband could almost not deal with me, having lily has been great for me. Now I would rather spend time playing and cuddling with her rather than running around the house chasing dirt that is not even there. But everyone is different and you should do what you think is best for the pup. Good luck __________________ Member of Petite Pups United and Spoiled Rotten Club Proud member of the CrAzYcLuB

02-29-2008, 09:45 AM	#24
vanessa19 YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2006 Location: Ft. Myers Florida Posts: 343	LOL if I had a dollar everytime Jasmine rubbed a "dingle-berry" on my carpet I would be a rich lady! __________________ Vanessa, Princess Jasmine and Princess BellaR.I.P. Nutmeg and Tinkerbell, you will always be loved and never forgottenl

02-29-2008, 09:58 AM	#25
janelles YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 324	the poor little guy sounds awfully lonesome to me Janelles

02-29-2008, 10:03 AM	#27
scoobiedooiscoo Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Texas Posts: 1,423	maybe rehoming would be good, but have you tried to go pick up the puppy and sit with it on your lap instead of watching it sit on the pee pee pad? timid dogs need to know they are loved. sometimes taking the dog out for walks ect... more often will also help. as far as toys all over you can teach them to put them away, we have a dog that loves to clean up. although that 1 out of 5 dogs lol. some dogs get their feeling hurt really easy i have one like that and it takes alot of work to make her feel secure and safe. timid dogs are hard to understand and it might not be the right fit for you to keep this dog. but for me once i get a dog its part of my family and i do everything i cant to make it work and except them for who they are. but thats me i fall head over heals in love to easy lol. in the end its up to you to decide whats best good luck __________________ [url]http://www.dogster.com/dogs/585863

02-29-2008, 10:10 AM	#28
mypreciouspups Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Florida/Canada Posts: 5,514	I need to say that I feel sorry for this yorkie.. I would say that is the humans making him the way he is... he needs to be rehomed.. before he is ruined completely... My good god, I cannot imagine... I love my yorkies, not matter what,..and if you are so obsessed with cleanliness, then the sooner you rehome the better.. My heart is aching for this little guy.. there are people that do not have motherly instinct.. they do not have children, when they do,, the child suffers.. so I think your probably a great person, but just not a doggie person.. abuse does not always come in the form of physical.. it is also a mental abuse that just does not go away.. Seems like he is penned up too much, and alone to much.. maybe just finding a yter close to you, to take this baby in for a few weeks to just see if he is better with other dogs.. I would not suggest getting a mate for him.. for if that does not work, now you could have to that live full of anxiety.. Yorkies do not ever forget these things..

02-29-2008, 10:58 AM	#29
janelles YT Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 324	I just had another thought. Instead of him huddled in the kitchen while you are sitting in the living room, why don't you go and get him and sit him on your lap, so that he feels wanted and secure. Perhaps if you were to pet him and talk to him a little bond would occur between you and him.It seems as though he is afraid that he is going to make a mistake, and it is making him nervous. Yorkies, as you know by now, are very sensitive. Janice

02-29-2008, 11:08 AM	#30
ARCHIE No Longer A Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: NEW YORK Posts: 16,218	I have tears in my eyes reading this thread. To picture that little one sitting in the kitchen all day alone and in the corner all night alone and depressed because he lost his campanion and he dosen't know how to be a puppy is too sad. Maybe after reading these posts the OP will understand what it is to have a yorkie or any pet for that matter. They need to be socialized and be what they are, a dog. Good luck to you. Don't be sad about re-homing your dog be happy because you will be doing him a favor. Another home can give him what he requires. Attention, attention, attention.