I need help to get my Yorkie from my mother!! - YorkieTalk.com Forums

tonya_renea2008 · 01-24-2008, 06:29 AM

My mother has taken over my puppy! We decided about 7 months ago that she would buy me a dog and I could take it with me when I move out....whose to say she wouldnt get attached to it! I plan to move into a small apartment in a big city and attend school and work, my mother tells me that my puppy will not be ok in the small apartment and that she doesnt want me to take her. This is my first yorkie pup but I have read many places that they are great apartments dogs. I love my puppy just as much as she does and I want her to live with me soo somebody please help me to convince my mother that my puppy will be ok in a small apartment!

jamiesaari · 01-24-2008, 06:32 AM

Yorkies tend to bark a lot, which is why most rescues never adopt to people in apartments. I would tend to agree with your mother. Sorry ...

grayxie · 01-24-2008, 06:40 AM

Considering all the hours you will be gone with school and work, it probably isn't the best situation with a puppy. Puppies can get bored and destructive, and start barking which would annoy the heck out of your neighbors.

saphire · 01-24-2008, 06:40 AM

While I can understand that you're upset, maybe your mom is right. My parents gave me a yorkie for my 21st birthday, 30 years ago - a few months later I got married and moved to another province. I chose to leave Muffin with her as I could see how close they had become. I then got 2 dogs for myself and then later, another. They have all passed now and three years ago I got my two yorkies. It was a long wait, but worth it.

How much time will you be able to spend with your yorkie? A lot of people have to rehome because they can't give them the time and attention then need.

I hope you and your Mom can find a solution

Sheilagh

MorkieAZ · 01-24-2008, 06:43 AM

I have to agree with the others...sorry. You do want whats best for your dog, right?

schldrs · 01-24-2008, 06:46 AM

I understand how upset you are. We bought my daughter a poodle when she was in the 8th grade. She stayed with us while Jessica was in college and while she lived in an apartment. She later moved into a house and took Ginger with her. She got married this past summer and has since bought a house. Ginger lives with her and we babysit when she's out of town. Ginger is now 12 years old. I am still attached to her and like your mother I wanted the best for both Ginger and my daughter. You may have to leave her with your mother for now and when your circumstances change in the future, your dog can live with you. Good luck!

autumn star · 01-24-2008, 06:50 AM

I am sorry to say that I would have to agree w/the others. If you are going to be gone for an extended period of time it would be very unfair to any dog, not just a yorkie.
I think it would be very hard on your pup as well - going from a home where there is someone around often to being left unattended for hours on end. I know it is hard to hear because I am sure you love your pup but your mom is right.
Maybe you could get a cat. (not that a cat would replace your yorkie) so you would have some company.
You never know if your life settles down a bit maybe your mom would be willing to give the dog to you then or maybe when you have more time to give a pup you could get another one on your own and then you and your mom will have something in common and the dogs can have a forever friend.

Reesee's mom · 01-24-2008, 06:50 AM

Well. I suppose that I will have to be the voice of dissent here. While the others are right about certain things I would like to tell you about me and my yorkie. I have a one year old yorkie. I have had her since she was 8 weeks old and I live in a condo. She is very well behaved, has never been destructive and only barks when I am home and someone comes directly to my door. I work full time and for the first 6 months I had her, I had a pet nanny come and visit with her at lunch time and take her out for a walk, feed her, and play with her. I just wanted to say that it can be done if you have been working with your dog, your dog respects you, and your dog has been trained to listen to you so that you can establish ground rules. Also important is that you make proper arrangments so that your dog is not alone for really long periods of time, specially at the beginning. So while I think it might be challenging, its not impossible if you really want it and you are willing to make the sacrifices required. For example, I used to go out after work to do my shopping, get my nails done, grab a drink with a friend etc. prior to getting my dog. Now if I want to do any of those I either come home first, spend some time with her, and then take her with me to do those things, or I call the sitter to come and visit with her at lunch and in the afternoon so that I can come home later. Look in your heart and figure out what is going to be best for your dog. That is the true meaning of love, doing the best for your dog.

YORKIEMOM2B2006 · 01-24-2008, 06:51 AM

sorry, but I agree with your mom too. you won't be home much, the dog will be mostly by itself..

JCarlson2004 · 01-24-2008, 06:58 AM

I'm going to the play devils advocate here and agree with you, not your mother. I think if you really want this BAD ENOUGH, you can make it work. Nothing is impossible. There are PLENTY of people (a lot right here on YT) that work full time and have a dog or more than one dog and they are successful at it. I can think of one right off the top of my head and that is my great friend Nobella (vainchick5). She had Coco all by herself and eventually she got Coco a baby brother, Rocco, and never had any problems whatsoever with it. It can be done.

It does seem like your dog would be home a lot by him/her self. So if I were you, I'd hire a dog walker/dog sitter to come and walk your dog and also spend some time with him during the day. That would help your dog not be so lonely and also put your mind at ease while you're gone during the day. Dogs sleep most of the day anyway. I know on days I stay home work, my 3 babies sleep practically all day long while I'm cleaning or doing stuff in the house.

Also, keep in mind that while Yorkies are great for small apartments (since they's so tiny), they do need a lot of exercise as they are TERRIERS first and foremost. I'm sure you already know this since you had your dog for a few months already. So make sure your work schedule will allow you to have enough energy to take your dog out after you get home at night for a nice walk of at least 30 minutes. I always walk my dogs a AT LEAST 30 minutes a night, if not an hour on nice days. During the super cold winter months I limit it to 30 minutes because I don't want them breathing in the cold air but in the spring, summer and fall we go for looong walks at night and they absolutely love it.

That being said, you also need to make sure your apartment will allow dogs. This is very important. Don't risk it and try to sneak the dog in because you'll be heart broken if you get caught and then have to return the dog to your mom's house (not to mention you may hear a big "I TOLD YOU SO" from your mom in the process).

autumn star · 01-24-2008, 07:01 AM

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Originally Posted by JCarlson2004

I'm going to the play devils advocate here and agree with you, not your mother. I think if you really want this BAD ENOUGH, you can make it work. Nothing is impossible. There are PLENTY of people (a lot right here on YT) that work full time and have a dog or more than one dog and they are successful at it. I can think of one right off the top of my head and that is my great friend Nobella (vainchick5). She had Coco all by herself and eventually she got Coco a baby brother, Rocco, and never had any problems whatsoever with it. It can be done.

It does seem like your dog would be home a lot by him/her self. So if I were you, I'd hire a dog walker/dog sitter to come and walk your dog and also spend some time with him during the day. That would help your dog not be so lonely and also put your mind at ease while you're gone during the day. Dogs sleep most of the day anyway. I know on days I stay home work, my 3 babies sleep practically all day long while I'm cleaning or doing stuff in the house.

Also, keep in mind that while Yorkies are great for small apartments (since they's so tiny), they do need a lot of exercise as they are TERRIERS first and foremost. I'm sure you already know this since you had your dog for a few months already. So make sure your work schedule will allow you to have enough energy to take your dog out after you get home at night for a nice walk of at least 30 minutes. I always walk my dogs a AT LEAST 30 minutes a night, if not an hour on nice days. During the super cold winter months I limit it to 30 minutes because I don't want them breathing in the cold air but in the spring, summer and fall we go for looong walks at night and they absolutely love it.

That being said, you also need to make sure your apartment will allow dogs. This is very important. Don't risk it and try to sneak the dog in because you'll be heart broken if you get caught and then have to return the dog to your mom's house (not to mention you may hear a big "I TOLD YOU SO" from your mom in the process).

You make some very good points!

yorkieusa · 01-24-2008, 07:24 AM

With work, school, and the social life, won't the little one get awfully lonely? I would only suggest that you place the puppy's welfare first, above your own.

nikkinack · 01-24-2008, 07:27 AM

Lily is great in the apartment but she is rarely ever alone and has never been a barker so I think it all depends on the situation. You just need to remember to do what is best for her even it it is not what you or your mom wants.

teri88 · 01-24-2008, 07:53 AM

I do feel your pain! When I was in school I got a puppy and then ended up moving home after my father died. A few years later when I was getting married I said something about taking Holly and my mom was just heartbroken! She loved that dog as much as I did. I let her keep Holly for many of the reasons that people have pointed out on here already. Only you know if you will be able to give your baby the time and attention necessary. Like every good mommy, just put what is best for your baby first. You'll know what will work for you.good luck!

Lexi Rae · 01-24-2008, 08:13 AM

just puting my two cents in.

as a single girl,, you will have no life... youwill always worry about your
baby being home alone all day and then wanting to go out with your
friends at night.. and feeling quilty... i have no life.. i live alone , run
home so fast cause lexi is home alone all day and stay with her the rest of
the night cause i dont want to leave her again.. even though i have a boyfriend, its tough,, he wants to go out and i dont cause of lexi..
its rough . its not fair to them...i do miss out on alot of stuff, but im older
and did it all already. its not easy...

01-24-2008, 06:29 AM	#1
tonya_renea2008 YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Prague, Oklahoma Posts: 2	I need help to get my Yorkie from my mother!! My mother has taken over my puppy! We decided about 7 months ago that she would buy me a dog and I could take it with me when I move out....whose to say she wouldnt get attached to it! I plan to move into a small apartment in a big city and attend school and work, my mother tells me that my puppy will not be ok in the small apartment and that she doesnt want me to take her. This is my first yorkie pup but I have read many places that they are great apartments dogs. I love my puppy just as much as she does and I want her to live with me soo somebody please help me to convince my mother that my puppy will be ok in a small apartment!

01-24-2008, 06:32 AM	#2
jamiesaari Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Canada Posts: 241	Yorkies tend to bark a lot, which is why most rescues never adopt to people in apartments. I would tend to agree with your mother. Sorry ... __________________ "How wonderful it is that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world." - Anne Frank

01-24-2008, 06:40 AM	#3
grayxie Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Dresher, PA Posts: 2,779	Considering all the hours you will be gone with school and work, it probably isn't the best situation with a puppy. Puppies can get bored and destructive, and start barking which would annoy the heck out of your neighbors. __________________ Teapots = Happiness GraycieChipHarley Fakes Are Never In Fashion

01-24-2008, 06:40 AM	#4
saphire Lil' CoCo, Lotta Coffee. Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: South Africa Posts: 3,115	While I can understand that you're upset, maybe your mom is right. My parents gave me a yorkie for my 21st birthday, 30 years ago - a few months later I got married and moved to another province. I chose to leave Muffin with her as I could see how close they had become. I then got 2 dogs for myself and then later, another. They have all passed now and three years ago I got my two yorkies. It was a long wait, but worth it. How much time will you be able to spend with your yorkie? A lot of people have to rehome because they can't give them the time and attention then need. I hope you and your Mom can find a solution Sheilagh __________________ Sheilagh CoffeeAbigail-Ceana. CoCoMurfee & Winston

01-24-2008, 06:46 AM	#6
schldrs Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Pickens, sc Posts: 51	I understand how upset you are. We bought my daughter a poodle when she was in the 8th grade. She stayed with us while Jessica was in college and while she lived in an apartment. She later moved into a house and took Ginger with her. She got married this past summer and has since bought a house. Ginger lives with her and we babysit when she's out of town. Ginger is now 12 years old. I am still attached to her and like your mother I wanted the best for both Ginger and my daughter. You may have to leave her with your mother for now and when your circumstances change in the future, your dog can live with you. Good luck! __________________ Susan - Harley's Mom Little Gentlemen's Club

01-24-2008, 06:43 AM	#5
MorkieAZ Inactive Account Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Arizona Posts: 1,276	I have to agree with the others...sorry. You do want whats best for your dog, right?

01-24-2008, 06:50 AM	#7
autumn star Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Long Island Posts: 6,095	I am sorry to say that I would have to agree w/the others. If you are going to be gone for an extended period of time it would be very unfair to any dog, not just a yorkie. I think it would be very hard on your pup as well - going from a home where there is someone around often to being left unattended for hours on end. I know it is hard to hear because I am sure you love your pup but your mom is right. Maybe you could get a cat. (not that a cat would replace your yorkie) so you would have some company. You never know if your life settles down a bit maybe your mom would be willing to give the dog to you then or maybe when you have more time to give a pup you could get another one on your own and then you and your mom will have something in common and the dogs can have a forever friend. __________________ *PROUD MOM OF (SKIN KIDS) LEXI & HUNTER AND (FUR KIDS) AUTUMN, BLAZE & CHANCE (OUR RESCUE)*

01-24-2008, 06:50 AM	#8
Reesee's mom Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Celebration, FL Posts: 185	Well. I suppose that I will have to be the voice of dissent here. While the others are right about certain things I would like to tell you about me and my yorkie. I have a one year old yorkie. I have had her since she was 8 weeks old and I live in a condo. She is very well behaved, has never been destructive and only barks when I am home and someone comes directly to my door. I work full time and for the first 6 months I had her, I had a pet nanny come and visit with her at lunch time and take her out for a walk, feed her, and play with her. I just wanted to say that it can be done if you have been working with your dog, your dog respects you, and your dog has been trained to listen to you so that you can establish ground rules. Also important is that you make proper arrangments so that your dog is not alone for really long periods of time, specially at the beginning. So while I think it might be challenging, its not impossible if you really want it and you are willing to make the sacrifices required. For example, I used to go out after work to do my shopping, get my nails done, grab a drink with a friend etc. prior to getting my dog. Now if I want to do any of those I either come home first, spend some time with her, and then take her with me to do those things, or I call the sitter to come and visit with her at lunch and in the afternoon so that I can come home later. Look in your heart and figure out what is going to be best for your dog. That is the true meaning of love, doing the best for your dog. __________________ Veronica and Reesee

01-24-2008, 06:51 AM	#9
YORKIEMOM2B2006 Owned by 3 furbabies Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2006 Location: Reading, Pennsylvania Posts: 2,546	sorry, but I agree with your mom too. you won't be home much, the dog will be mostly by itself.. __________________ Elaine, mom to 2 Yorkies Peanut & Dixie

01-24-2008, 06:58 AM	#10
JCarlson2004 Mommy To 3 Poochies Donating Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: New York Posts: 8,287	I'm going to the play devils advocate here and agree with you, not your mother. I think if you really want this BAD ENOUGH, you can make it work. Nothing is impossible. There are PLENTY of people (a lot right here on YT) that work full time and have a dog or more than one dog and they are successful at it. I can think of one right off the top of my head and that is my great friend Nobella (vainchick5). She had Coco all by herself and eventually she got Coco a baby brother, Rocco, and never had any problems whatsoever with it. It can be done. It does seem like your dog would be home a lot by him/her self. So if I were you, I'd hire a dog walker/dog sitter to come and walk your dog and also spend some time with him during the day. That would help your dog not be so lonely and also put your mind at ease while you're gone during the day. Dogs sleep most of the day anyway. I know on days I stay home work, my 3 babies sleep practically all day long while I'm cleaning or doing stuff in the house. Also, keep in mind that while Yorkies are great for small apartments (since they's so tiny), they do need a lot of exercise as they are TERRIERS first and foremost. I'm sure you already know this since you had your dog for a few months already. So make sure your work schedule will allow you to have enough energy to take your dog out after you get home at night for a nice walk of at least 30 minutes. I always walk my dogs a AT LEAST 30 minutes a night, if not an hour on nice days. During the super cold winter months I limit it to 30 minutes because I don't want them breathing in the cold air but in the spring, summer and fall we go for looong walks at night and they absolutely love it. That being said, you also need to make sure your apartment will allow dogs. This is very important. Don't risk it and try to sneak the dog in because you'll be heart broken if you get caught and then have to return the dog to your mom's house (not to mention you may hear a big "I TOLD YOU SO" from your mom in the process). __________________ Mommy Loves Codie, Tia & Baby Cali RIP My Precious Katie - I Love You

01-24-2008, 07:24 AM	#12
yorkieusa Crazy about Kacee! Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: Kansas Posts: 21,173	With work, school, and the social life, won't the little one get awfully lonely? I would only suggest that you place the puppy's welfare first, above your own. __________________ Karen Kacee Muffin 1991-2005 Rest in Peace My Little Angel

01-24-2008, 07:27 AM	#13
nikkinack YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Mid Michigan Posts: 1,510	Lily is great in the apartment but she is rarely ever alone and has never been a barker so I think it all depends on the situation. You just need to remember to do what is best for her even it it is not what you or your mom wants. __________________ Member of Petite Pups United and Spoiled Rotten Club Proud member of the CrAzYcLuB

01-24-2008, 07:53 AM	#14
teri88 Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: NJ Posts: 4,021	I do feel your pain! When I was in school I got a puppy and then ended up moving home after my father died. A few years later when I was getting married I said something about taking Holly and my mom was just heartbroken! She loved that dog as much as I did. I let her keep Holly for many of the reasons that people have pointed out on here already. Only you know if you will be able to give your baby the time and attention necessary. Like every good mommy, just put what is best for your baby first. You'll know what will work for you.good luck! __________________ Teri Owned by and completely devoted to Tucker... Maddie, we will always love you *Bandit, you are always in my heart* Proud Member SSLS

01-24-2008, 08:13 AM	#15
Lexi Rae Gina, (Lexi's Mommy) Donating Member Join Date: May 2005 Location: LONG ISLAND,NY Posts: 10,455	just puting my two cents in. as a single girl,, you will have no life... youwill always worry about your baby being home alone all day and then wanting to go out with your friends at night.. and feeling quilty... i have no life.. i live alone , run home so fast cause lexi is home alone all day and stay with her the rest of the night cause i dont want to leave her again.. even though i have a boyfriend, its tough,, he wants to go out and i dont cause of lexi.. its rough . its not fair to them...i do miss out on alot of stuff, but im older and did it all already. its not easy... __________________ Gina & Lexi CLICK HERE for our Photo Album ...