Bella fell of the top bunk!
 

What can i do my 17 year old daughter (18 next month) will not listen to me or hubby we told her don't let Bella sleep with you on the top bunk put her in her cage if she whines just walk away she has to be in the cage at night no matter what because #1 it is safe there #2 she still needs a heat light 3# we are trying to crate train her well she tells me this morning that Bella fell off her bed i started freaking out WHAT HOW!? so she tells me that she was whining so she let her sleep with her AGAIN so i am guessing she lets her sleep with her alot :mad: I am yelling by now asking what happened did she fall on the floor? She tells me that she fell on a pile of clean laundry that she had on the floor (she is lazy kid) well i start checking Bella over scared something is totally wrong and she gets all crappy with me and says MOM SHE IS FINE I ALREADY CHECKED HER! well i ignore and check her anyway then i said i can't believe she fell when i was really wanting to say i can't believe you let her sleep on top bunk with you and she snaps back I KNOW YOU DON'T HAVE TO REMIND ME I FEEL BAD ENOUGH ALREADY! I mean she is getting really snotty to me about it what can i do if anything? If i tell her what to do with Bella she will just send her to stay with her boyfriend (the one who bought her for her) and he doesn't watch her at all! and no one is home at all for hours and hours at his house during the day guys please tell me there is something i can do to save this baby from her own mommy :( :(

I would call your vet and see if they need to see her. That is atleast seven feet and she might need to be seen. I don't know what you can say to your daughter but that could have caused a concussion and/or death very easily. Two feet would be a long way to fall.

I am really not sure how to handle this, does your daughter really want her her or is it just that Bella was a gift? If she really only wants her because she was a gift, maybe you and your husband could offer to buy her from your daughter &/or her boyfriend. Seems like you would be a better mom for Bella & teenagers are usually more attracted to money than anything else.

I am sorry i got so caught up in asking what to do i left out the vet part yes i took her in first thing this morning and everything was okay i am sorry about that...that was one of the most importnat parts to.

Iam so happy she is ok, thats a long fall for a small dog:( talk to your daughter and tell her just how fragile these little ones are, Have her look on her for an hr, that might give a better idea as to what can happen.

That is a good idea. Sentence her to reading the injury threads on YorkieTalk.:p

I like Jen0225's idea. Maybe your daughter isn't ready for the responsiblity of Bella. She might welcome some help. For Bella's sake I hope she can stay under your care. That would be so sad if she sent her to the neglectful boyfriend's. :( So glad the vet said she wasn't injured...it's a miracle she fell into something soft. I would talk to your daughter about this... but not in an accusing way. Being a teenager she would resent that. Good luck and hope it turns out all right.

The only thing I can think of to tell her is, if you had a baby and it was crying in the middle of the night would you put the baby next to you in
a top bunk bed and go back to sleep?

I do hope she say's no. Sometimes when you can relate something
else to kids they understand. Hopefully she does and you won't be stressed worring about it any longer.
Good luck,

No it isn't because she is a gift because she ask for her and has wanted one forever but it isn't for the right reasons she only wanted her so she could be another brittney spears or paris hilton she wants her as a fashion accessory but she don't want me to have her.

Good idea!! :thumbup: :thumbup:

Well i did and she just thinks i am being a smartass about it she is at that stage where if i say anything she snaps back at me about it no matter what it is.

That's a really good idea :thumbup: :thumbup:

I will try to get her to come on here and read some of the injuries that other have had or that can heppen

okay, I'm only 21 and i just got married 5 months ago so I still lived at home until then, and if I would have talked back to either one of my parents they would have taken everything away from me (epecially if i was 17-18) they would have taken my car i wouldnt have been able to see my boyfriend the only thing i could have done is gone to school and they would have taken me to make sure i was there. I would threaten her with that, the puppy is a living being and needs to be taken care of it's not fair to the baby, but when my parents threatened taking my car, cell phone, and boyfriend away my attitude completely changed!!! I hope this advice works for you!!

Ah, I remember the teenage days and how 17 was the worst age. :D

With that said, you must remember that you are still her mother and she is living under your roof. She must abide by your rules whether she likes it or not. If she screws up, like she just did, there are consequences.

First, I would take Bella to the vet to be checked for injury. Your daughter should be responsible for every penny of that bill if she has to lose her allowance for months. Make her work off the bill doing chores. She will hate it - that's part of being a teenager, but it will teach her some responsibility about pet ownership.

I would not allow her to have Bella alone in her room unsupervised until she has proven she can care for her. Again, she will hate it, but we are talking about a living creature, not something that can be broken and tossed out.

While Bella is living in your house, you will have to be her mommy, not your daughter. She is obviously not responsible enough for pet ownership.

Did her boyfriend consult you before getting her a puppy for Christmas? This is a perfect example of why pets as gifts are such a bad idea.

Here's one of my threads that show how easily they can be hurt. http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/sho...ght=concussion This was a concussion as a result from falling from a desk chair. Does she at least have a bottom bunk she can sleep in?

Oh believe me it has came down to that i have threatened many times and it does work but onlt for a short time then right back to being herself see Brittany is a materialistic person i didn't raise her like that but that is how she turned out to be. Honestly she wouldn't have the boyfriend she has now if his family wasn't loaded she will only date rich boys and she has to have the best of the best like louios vuitton channel uggs tiffany you name it she has it most are gifts from boyfriends or their mothers i honestly think this child was switched at birth because i am just the opposite

I did take her and my daughter is paying the bill (she works) my fear is that she will send Bella off to be with her boyfriend and he does not watch her at all and no one is ever home at his house not only that she will be 18 next month and she can just up and go and take Bella with her and god only knows what would happen to the poor girl then :( And NO no one consulted us about anything she just calls me christmas eve and says hey mom i got my dog for christmas :mad: the thing is she had mentioned wanting one back in september october and november and we told her flat out NO you cannot have a dog! But you see how well she listens and now that Bella is here there is no way we can turn the poor baby away we love her to death and like i said in a prior thread Brittany goes to school all day and then works some day and dances on the dance team others so i have been with Bella alot and i have gotten very attached to her so there is no way i can tell her she has to find her a new home that would kill me :( I will talk to my husband about everything you guys have told me and hopefully he can put his foot down and get her to listen to him. She has papers for the dog and they are in her name so if i tried to stop her from taking the dog anywhere (like her boyfriends) couldn't she call teh law on me?

Thank you so muich for that i saved it to my favorites and i am going to make her read it when she gets home

Perhaps another way you can approach this....

You are the parent, but it sounds like you have a wonderfully willful child on your hands too. ;) And balancing setting rules, boundaries, and limitations (sound like Cesar, huh?) on your children while not alienating them completely is hard.

She does care about Bella. I mean her crying at least moved her to try to do something kind (although very dangerous and irresponsible). She didn't get angry and kick the kennel. So maybe start there on a good note. When our babies are hurting, crying, sad, etc., we want to reach out to them, but even when it goes against what we "want" to do, we have to do the responsible thing and "avoid" negative consequences. Perhaps there are baby stories about her that you can share. I'm sure that her cries broke your heart at different times, but because of safety issues or training issues or something else, you had to do something other than your first desire (like putting the baby in bed with you if your bed was not a safe place for a baby). Good luck. I know that preserving the relationship with your daughter is important just as the safety of Bella is.

She's your tiny one, right? She's the one w/ the hypoglycemia issues? Yikes, I'd be terrified if I were you too!

There is a member on here who dropped a calculator (while sitting in a chair) and it fell on her yorkie's head (a rather tiny yorkie) and the pup almost DIED. She had to give her mouth to mouth and revive her. Luckily, she lived. There are plenty of stories on here where a yorkie fell off of a sofa - and died.

I would share these stories with her, calmly, and just ask her to really put herself in these stories - and ask her to really feel how it would be afterward for her if something like this happened. It would be one of those things she might live w/ forever - and re-live over and over and over. I hope she changes her mind about how cautious she's being...

Maybe you could offer to Foster Bella until your daughter has enough maturity to handle the responsibility of Bella's safety and training?

Oh man that is a rough situation. Sometimes you just want to smack them kids upside the head... I know about that :p .

I agree if you can get her to read the postings maybe it will help out a lot.

Good luck.

Put your daughters mattress on the floor and get rid of the bunks. As long as she is living in your house, then you set the rules.

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I wont repeat what others are saying but it's common sense that a puppy or baby could fall off a top bunk and you all were very very lucky that poor puppy wasn't killed....

My husband never listens to me, he puts lily on the bed with him every chance he gets so I told him if she gets hurt you can be the one who takes her to the vet and explain what happened and pay the bill. I would tell her she needs to pay the vet bill mabe she will think twice about Bellas safety. It does not sound like she is quit ready for the big responsibility, I am glad she is ok.

I know this is going to sound harsh, but MAYBE it will work. Could you maybe perhaps offer to buy Bella from her? That way Bella really IS yours and you CAN tell her what she can and cannot do with Bella? Kids, they like to think they know it all once they turn 18. If that don't work, then I'd simply tell her, look, you're living in your Dad and I's house, you either follow our rules and show us the respect we deserve, or, the privledge of having a puppy while living in your home will no longer be an option for her. Hopefully now she understand that accidents can and DO happen and she needs to make better choices to ensure her puppy remains safe and doesn't get hurt. If she can't do those things, then perhaps she isn't mature enough to have a puppy. I'm glad the pups ok, but next time she may not be so lucky. Hopefully there isn't a next time though. Good luck!

.....That's what I was about to suggest! If she can't stand her whining....get down on her level to SAFELY comfort.

ok im 24... i live 2 and a half hours away from my parents.. If i would have thought about talkin to my mom like that i bet she could get here in 30min... I had anything and everything i wanted growin up.. i didn't even have to work i chose to when i turned 20... Then i moved out...I want a tattoo so bad i can't stand my self... But to hear my mom tell me she is Disapointed in me or hear her Cry cuz of something i did.. That hurts me worse then anything she could take.. oh my god then her not talk to me :eek: ... Thats why i don't have one... But her Rule was.. Until you move out of MY house these are MY Rules... and Don't let her hear you say but im 18,21 heck 41 she will go ape on you lol... She took my cell away from me for a YEAR cuz i ran the bill to 2000$.. i was 18...

That is brilliant! Yorkiedaze I'm coming to you if my daughter ever starts acting up.;)