I decided not to go
 

I posted last week about being upset by my MIL saying that we could not bring Teddy with us to Thanksgiving.

My husband called her last night and told her we could not find him a sitter and she said well you can't bring him. Hubby asked why and she said that she didn't want a dog pooping all over her house. :mad: I know this is her house and she certainly has the right to say if she wants a dog to come or not BUT Teddy has only been there one time and I was on top of him every single second. I even kept him on his leash most of the time. When he was off the leash he had a BB on and I watched him like a hawk. He also had his crate and if I couldn't be right with him that's where he was. Teddy NEVER pooped or peeed in her house. So I don't know why she would say that except to be ugly. :(

So, I have decided that my son and I will stay home and told hubby to keep the peace he should take the girls and go. He does not like that idea but I think he will go. So because of this my family will be seperated this year. In the future we will not make plans to go there. I will invite them here next year and they can come or not.

All so sad considering that we are military and have been away for the past 10 years. This is the first holiday we were going to spend with them in all that time and I would have thought she would be happy to have us. :confused: Oh well...

I am so sorry. I really don't know what I would do in your situation.

I'm sorry. :( I prob. would have done the same as you.

I am so sorry to hear that!

oh how terrible.

I can see someone in my family saying that too, but...they have met Gino and like him. He sits with me pretty much at all times (he wants to LOL), and I take him out often.

I am glad you are taking a stand because of this, but its sad she had to be this way. Its one day. :(

Happy thanksgiving to you, and BIG HUGS!


Stacy

awww I'm sorry. I'm glad we have Thanksgiving at home so I can be with my babies.

I'd feel exactly the same way. If my yorkies weren't welcome, then I'm not welcomed and now you have a great excuse to not go to see the in-laws. Like who really wants all that stress anyway on a holiday. You'll have a much more relaxing day at home with the ones you truly love and that love you unconditionally.

I'm perfectly happy sending my hubby on the plane next Mother's Day to see his mom and I'll be home with my babies. Let him go deal with his relatives while I'm comfortably at home. I almost feel guilty ... NOT. :^)

I am so sorry it came to this. I followed your other thread and really hoped you would find a solution. At least you know where she stands so that will help alleviate any future questions about where to go on the holidays. I will be sending happy thoughts to your and your baby that day since I will be stuck with my in-laws...:eek:

I like your style!

My mom does not like dogs and I have to respect that..with her it would be the fact that mine jump on furniture...but its her house and I dont take them there..in the summer I do take them there as we can visit outside and she is cool with that but she would NEVER let them in her house..lol..

Dawn

I'm sorry. I would have done the same thing. If you have to travel far and stay overnight, all members of your family should be welcome. And it sounds like you were a perfect dog mommy when you were there so I don't know why she wouldn't want him there.

I would have done the EXACT same thing you did if I were in your situation. My fur baby is just that - my BABY...if someone expressively said NOT to bring him, then I would feel like I wasn't welcome too!

I'm sorry things didn't work out. You can come to my house, all dogs are welcome. :)

Did she say anything when she found out you weren't coming?

I hate to hear that! But you are right! My sister's always takes her dog to any family gathering- she has no one to watch it! Her boyfriend is the same! He has a golden ret.- not a small dog- and my moms house was crowed when we got 20 + people in it- but we'd rather go around a big old dog- than not have them there! Her loss! You have a good Thanksgiving with your little furbaby! spend some quality time together!

There's no solution really is there? I suppose she is expecting you to put them in kennels or something? my dogs have never been in kennels before and i'm not about to start for anyone! My MIL is a doggy person and we have always taken our dogs there and she has dogsat for us a few times so i guess we are lucky. My hubbys sister is NOT doggy and she has just bought a new house that she is dying to show off to us, she will invite us overnight at some point but if i can't take Pixie with me then i won't be staying, I can't leave Pixie with anyone, she's just too tiny i wouldn't be able to relax.

I feel sorry for your MIL, not knowing the joys of Yorkie-ness:( How could anyone NOT want that cutie there?!?:confused:

I would have done the same thing! I'm very lucky...My MIL loves Scooter...I have to watch so that she doesn't give him people food because she feels that if we are eating, so should he. Believe it or not, my Sister in Law had a Husky that she used to bring to every occasion (this is pre-Scooter) and while we were having our dessert in the living room, she'd fix the Husky a bowl of vanilla ice cream. We're a very animal friendly family!! Further more, I've always felt that there was something missing in people who don't like animals!! I hope you and your baby have a great Thanksgiving!!

Aww Sorry your family won't be together. :rolleyes:

Wow, I guess I'm lucky, We will be having thanksgiving at my son's and I didn't plan on bringing Romeo because we don't live to far away. We were just gonna check on him once in a while. My son wouldn't hear of it. He said he already brought the gates up from the cellar and to bring his play pen. He said he knew I wouldn't be able to relax and enjoy myself if I was worring about my baby. He said it would like leaving his little brother at home. LOL

I'm sorry to hear that your MIL didn't give in. I feel the same way you do, if my yorkies are not welcome, then I'm not welcome. Thanksgiving is a holiday to rejoice in the things we are thankful for and be with the ones we love. Two of the biggest things I am thankful for are my boys, and I couldn't be away from them on Thanksgiving. I applaud you for standing your ground and hope you all have a great day spending quality time together. Happy Thanksgiving!:)

I'm so sorry...I'd be staying home too!

I'm home for Thanksgiving also- Can't imagine leaving Baxter that long all alone. I hope everyone enjoys their Thanksgiving no matter where they are!:D

oh i'm sorry you have to go thru this. I understand how you feel, it's so frustrating! We always used to take turn between my house, my moms, and my aunts, but since my uncle doesn't want me to bring Bengi, we're not doing holiday dinners are their house anymore.

How far of a drive was it?
I have never been without my husband of almost 31 years at Thanksgiving, nor would I ever be...Dont get me wrong, I love my dogs, but, my family comes first..if it's a long drive, I would have found someone to watch my dogs(if they weren't wanted there), or I would have kenneled them for a day...I know you love your dogs, as I do mine, but, to me, Thanksgiving and Christmas are a time for family, and my human family has and always will come first if that choice has to be made...

this might sound nutty, but I have never actually thought of asking my MIL if it was ok to bring Hope.. LOL.. She goes there with me all the time, they are not dog people but I dont even put her down inside, she stays in my lap and I have never been told not to bring her, she is just there... they dont live far away from me but I choose to have her with me...
this year, I am bringing her to my mom's(next door) but leaving her at home with the other pups when we go to the in-laws, she is more comfortable at home...
Have a great day and enjoy a relaxing day at home.. I wish I could...
d

I am so sorry for your situation. Would she mind is you took him and kept him in a carrier. I have one of those front pack carriers and Murfee rides in it a lot. That way there would be NO chance of him pooping in her precious house. I guess I just don't understand people who don't allow dogs in their houses...what if one of her grandchildren had an accident on her floor. Sorry I sound so negative. I don't really mean to be mean. You can come here for Thanksgiving:D

I would feel the same way...... everyone from friends, family, inlaws know we are a clan we bring Toby everywhere. Whne inviting us they know Toby is going and if they don't want him there then were NOT going period. I know Thanksgiving and Christmas are family holidays but your MIL is just being ugly and I would totally cash in on a chance to not see them. ;)
Even though I can say this because my husband would be on the same boat, he would never dream of going without me or Toby. Sorry you have to split up for Thanksgiving, but think if it this way you get to eat dinner in your PJ's and more turkey for you ;)
Hope you have a great time.

you are doing the right thing! it sad that your mil will not let you bring your baby with you:( i guess she just dont understand the love we all feel for our babies my babies are apart of my family if they are not welcome to a family gathering i would not be going my dh feel the same way ,,my hubby, my 4 kids and all of my furbabies come first in my life and i want to be with them doing the holiday. if someone cant understand that than that their problem.... jmo

I totally agree with your decision.....I hope you have a Wonderful Thanksgiving.....Please do not let MIL ruin your Holiday....


Joyce