please tell me what you would do :O(

[Izzy Princess]

Originally Posted by myteddybear

Thanks for your thoughts girls. I have just been in tears or on verge all day since this phone conversation. I may be over reacting but it isn't just about this day it will now be in my thoughts every single time we go there weather she gives in and lets him come or not...if that makes sense. She has had dogs in the past and likes dogs but hasn't owned any since her last one died probably 10 years ago more because of no time for them. They do have a cat who pees all over the house and it isn't as if her house is anything special...quite the clutered mess infact. There will be alot of people there so don't know if him being stepped on could be a thought.

I hate to say I just won't go because then that means that I am seperated from my husband and children for the holiday and don't know that it is something my husband would let happen anyway. Fact is though that we have just moved here this summer from Alaska (we are military) and don't have any close friends in this area so there isn't even someone to think about. The closest we can come is someone from hubby's work (people I really don't know at all) Cloe stays with someone from his work because they have another golden and they really love her but I don't know if that is even a possibility for her this time as it is a holiday and they will probably go to thier families house who also lives in Florida. As far as the hotel goes, Even if I had the money for that right now I don't believe she would let us do that so if I said it she would just say no and then I will be there with Teddy and feeling awkward the whole time knowing she didn't want him to come.

Worse yet is that this will be a problem now forever more especially since I am planinng on getting a baby girl after Christmas.

Thanks for listening to me ramble, I just need to get this off my chest!

Ahhh I wish you guys lived closer to me then you all could come for Thanksgiving to our house..hehehe. I feel your sadness....a long time ago when I had two male Yorkies I took them everywhere for the holidays to my mom's house. Then one year my brother wanted it at his house so my mom said ok. He told her to tell me that we were welcome but not our two Yorkies. Same problem as you but I decided they didn't want my dogs so I wasn't going. So to make a long story short my husband and I went out to dinner on Thanksgiving which still left the doggies at home for a couple of hours. To this day I feel bad about my decision but today I am older and wiser. I was a very young stubborn woman (now I am an older stubborn woman..lol) and if all possible have Thanksgiving with your family....your baby will be OK for a couple of hours. Leave plenty of toys/food/music/tv on and all will be good.

[stewartslucy]

I feel for you.
We have a 33 year-old niece that lives out of state who is very allergic to dogs.
For nine years, our first yorkie was the only dog in the family.
When she would come in for the holidays,
we couldn't bring our dog. ((
I would ask her nicely if she could puh-leez see an allergist and TRY a prescription for Claritan or Zyrtec.
She never really gave it a try.
Then, 3 other family members all got dogs, and the 4 of us dog owners seem to be the ones who take turns hosting.
Now everyone is on her case to at least try something so her visits can be more bearable.

Basically, my husband says he works soooo many looong hours at work,
that when he gets a holiday or vacation time-off,
he wants to spend it with his dog
because he gets to see her the least.
If we can't bring the dog,
then he won't go!

I think the fair compomise is the fact that you will be bringing a crate along. And it will be YOU tending to your pupster, not anybody else.
I just don't understand people who won't let the little dogs in.
I can understand the big dogs,
but we have 2 big labradoodles in our family that are invited for the holidays.

The more the merrier!

I am a little freaked out over leaving my dog unattended in a hotel room.
What if someone (maid, room service employee) comes in the room while you are out,
sees a yorkie and steals it????

Too bad you won't be in my area-I would babysit for you while you participated in your family gathering.

Maybe there is a YT member near where you will be going who can help???


Good Luck!

[Monday]

Originally Posted by chachi

Thats why we always have Thanksgiving and Christmas at Our house. My Husbands family arent dog people

Best answer ... problem solved ....

[Ichabob]

This is why I do all the holiday get together, this is also the reason we live out in the country, my kids all have large dogs, so all the dogs and all the people can all come and enjoy themselves, I do make sure the relatives know we have dogs before they come and how many and they are welcome to bring theirs, last year we had 15 people 8 large dogs and 3 little dogs for Thanksgiving, everyone had a blast, of course the big dogs stay outside. we do have a heated area for the large dogs if the weather is bad.

[Erin]

I try to have the holiday parties, but I only get away with that so often. Loki and Sammy shouldn't have to spend the day alone, so we either bring them with and bring their crates or I stay home. Or we only stay a few hours. Some people just dont understand that you cant leave Yorkies home alone all day like big dogs, especially ours that are housetrained and go outside, therefore need to be let out, and because they are used to someone being home all day.

Good luck. I tend to dread Holiday season... Luckily MY mom is awesome and she loves her grandpuppies. She was over today and she's like, why dont we do crab legs and fondue so we dont have to cook a turkey or ham

[yorkiegirl83]

I feel so bad for you It's a hard situation for sure. My mom has decided that even though she has 2 dogs, and 2 cats, her bf's allergies are bad and I'm no longer welcome to bring my furkids over *rolls eyes*.

I'm not happy w/the decision, but I have to respect her wishes in her home. Sometimes I don't go over because I don't want to leave the furkids, and sometimes I do for short periods of time.

[momof4CA]

I think you need to take a step back and look at the situation for both sides:

You have every right to do what works for your family & dog. But, you have to respect what you MIL want and doesn't want. If you can't stay at your MIL, then what about a hotel. If you can not afford a hotel, then maybe your family will choose to stay home.

Your MIL has every RIGHT to ask you not to bring the dog! Her house, her rules.



**If I was going to visit someone who said they didn't want my dog. I would be completely respectful of that. I would then make other arrangments that worked for me.

[BamaFan121s]

Things like this make me glad all my family I spend holidays with live within an hour's drive.

[Baby Madeleine]

Originally Posted by momof4CA

I think you need to take a step back and look at the situation for both sides:

You have every right to do what works for your family & dog. But, you have to respect what you MIL want and doesn't want. If you can't stay at your MIL, then what about a hotel. If you can not afford a hotel, then maybe your family will choose to stay home.

Your MIL has every RIGHT to ask you not to bring the dog! Her house, her rules.



**If I was going to visit someone who said they didn't want my dog. I would be completely respectful of that. I would then make other arrangments that worked for me.

I agree with this statement. As hard as it is and as much as your feelings are hurt (mine would be too) you have to respect her wishes. You just have to do what is best for your family and accept that it may not make everyone happy.

[FlaYorkieGal]

If you're coming to Florida, you can leave the dogs with me. I'll gladly babysit. I'll be home all Thanksgiving weekend. PM me if you need my help.

[yorkiesmiles]

I pray you can work this out. Your actions could set a precedent for years and visits to come. I don't really have anything else to offer than what has already been said. I'm just imaging that if you have spent years living so far from family & are now close enough to drive, it might be very important to keep the lines of communication open with your MIL.

My heart breaks for you that you are in this predicament.

[charly]

That is a difficult situation. Some people just are not dog lovers. I personally just do not let how my family members reaction are feelings toward my furbaby bother me; hard for some but better in the long run. I respect there wishes if they do not want my furbaby in their homes. But if they come to mine oh well that a different story. I really feel bad for you. I hope it works out.

[Marina]

Maybe this is rude...but when it comes to my little monkey i dont think i'd care.... I dont have anyone who I trust enough to let her stay with except my parents. Since that wouldnt be an oprtion if they were in a diferent state i would say if she doesnt go i dont go.

She wouldnt expect you to leave one of HER Grandchildren at some random neighbors house so why should you leave your doggy.

[hha]

You can just tell her(if it's Florida), with gas prices like they are, that you won't be making it this year..then just make a meal at home for your family..
You can't really compare kids to dogs..a child is a human being..most people like kids, but aren't exactly dog lovers.. My in-laws love the g-kids to death, but when it comes to dogs, they just aren't dog people

[oceanair27]

I would start with asking your husband to talk to her and find out why, since she is his mother it would probably be easier for him to ask why she has asked you not to bring your baby. It may just be that she is afraid of him getting hurt or being in the way,and if he tells his mother how you would keep him in a playpen,keep a belly band on him and the such,ther may not be any problems.