Danni- I'm going to try to say this in the nicest way possible. Abusers ALWAYS swear they have self control. But the very fact that your Mother's idea of discipline has escalated to beating with a belt tells me that she doesn't.

Please heed the advice given here and talk toyour dad immediately. The next time this happens might be too late.

what your Mom is doing is wrong and abuse and you are doing your best to justify it which is what victims do. I know there may be changes if you let your dad know what is going on but as your other parent he needs to know. Sometimes the right thing to do is also the hardest thing to do. Please get help

please!!!!

Please, Please!

If your measure Luke's waist and length, I will make you a belly band and send it to you, at my expense. Also, have you thought of contacting a yorkie rescue and surrendering him? If you do end up moving in with your father and can't take Luke, I hope you will consider surrender! You can pm me with the information about the bellyband, if you decide that you would like one, I would be more than happy to help.....my offer is genuine.

Spr377 that is very sweet of you. I didnt even know who on here even made the bellybands anymore so its great that you have offered to make one. Danni I hope you know we all care about you and are worried about you and are just trying to help you. Honestly Ive seen some upseting situations on here but I think this one tops it. We just want whats best for you and Luke

Chachi, I have made tons of belly bands for my Leo! Doesn't take much time at all, and I have all the materials.......

I also wish I hadn't read this. The best thing for Luke is a better home where he will be properly trained on how to go potty, he should be PRAISED and given a treat when he goes where he is supposed to go and NOT hit when he is scared or has an accident! I think you can help Luke by training him the RIGHT way, by providing a designated place where he can relieve himself and enforcing the good behavior with a reward. NOT VIOLENCE!

Well that was really sweet of you to offer your time and resources to make her one. I hope she takes you up on your offer

Danni, I am quite concerned with your situation. I know as you have told us that you are only 16 yrs old, many of us who have responded are quite a bit older, and mayhap wiser.

Please oh please don't take this the wrong way, but if your situation is as you described, where your Mom hits you, and as described by you beats the family dog; this is a very unhealthy and dangerous situation for YOU and for Luke.

I don't know how much your Dad knows, or even if you feel comfortable talking with him, but if so, then you need to now. Not tomorrow, or when next he visits, but Now.

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I will be seeing my dad on Thurday, and I will explain everything to him. Especially how my mom's abuse of the dog has escalted. He came over the day he peed on the couch, actually, but he left too soon and I didn't really have a chance to get out the full story, just a few warnings that I think she's beating the dog too hard. She will probably listen to him better than she listens to me.

I am beginging to think that Luke did not have an accident on the couch, but might have been marking territory. He's hasn't exhibited anymore symptoms of a UTI, so I think he may be OK in that case.

Also, I will have to turn down the offer for the bellybands, spr337. It would make my mom too suspicious if I recieved a bellyband through the mail. I will just have to tell her to pick one up at the store if he does it again. I told her neutering may stop him marking territory, so she might just do that.

And, like I said, if my mom does hit me for saying anything about the dogs, I will tell my dad that as well. My dad does belive in coporal punishment, but the proper kind. A few taps on the behind and you're done, but I don't think he would agree with if my mom hit me for offering advice/telling her that leaving bruises is wrong.

Also, I will have to turn down the offer for the bellybands, spr337,

I meant spr377! Sorry.

Im glad your going to open up to your dad he really needs to know what is going on

I talked to my dad today, he said he would talk to her about it. He seemed surprised when I told him she left bruises, and he understood how much that upset me. But my dad may actually not be able to talk to her. He's got a lot on his plate right now, so I'm not sure.

My hopes are high, though!

Im glad you confided in him and If she ever hits you, you need to let him know right then dont hesitate. We have been very concerned for you and Luke and Im glad you kept coming to the thread and giving us updates.

I hope so. What could be more important than his daughter's happiness and well being ?

You really need assistance from child protective social services or a pastor, couselor, some adult who can sit your parents down and set them straight if you are being abused.

I have some bad news. Luke peed on the floor today. But, I got to him first! My mom was on the phone upstairs, so I showed him what he did with a few, "No, bad dogs" and sent him on his way. Luke looked really guilty though, so I felt bad when When my mom came downstairs, she got him too, but she only hit him twice, then crated him. Not even close to what she did on that one night, and even though she hit him, I was still relieved.

My mom is convinced it is marking, and is planning on getting him neutered later on, after our female dog gets pregnant. I'm starting to think it's marking too, but I can't ignore the possibility of a UTI. My mom said that if I use my allowance money, we can take him to the vet to get checked, but only after we come back from Vegas.

If it's an unneutered dog, it's probably marking, and if you wait to long to neuter marking becomes firmly established. A neutered dogs urine isn't so strong though. Joey has been neutered, but he still like to mark on walks, I think it also cuts down on the urge to mark in the house. You might try taking your dog for regular walks, and as someone mentioned belly bands work great for when in the house. Best of luck!

The longer you wait, the harder it will be to break him of that habit. If he is allowed to mate, it will be even harder still. Your mom isn't doing herself any favors by breeding. She thinks having one boy is stressful? How about a whole litter of pups, who WILL pee and poop everywhere. I know you have no say, as these are your moms dogs, but you should know, that's a bad idea all around.

Danni, I want to pipe in here with my 2 cents worth. I know you have had a lot of advice but like everyone else here I am worried about your situation. My mother was abusive, just with me not my little brother or sister. She was also very abusive and cold with any pets we ever had. I have some quite horrid memories of pets dying at her hands. Please don't let this go on too long. It will only get worse and stay with you forever. I am glad that you feel comfortable coming in here and telling us and listening to our advice. It is a very good thing to have others to talk to. But you definitly need somone you can physically talk to and who can help with intervention in yours and your dogs situation. I will keep you in my thoughts. Feel free to contact me by pm at any time.

I'm just sitting here thinking no, no, no, no, no! You have said that this is her dog and yet she's making you scrounge up allowance money to get him checked by a vet. She beats these small dogs for minor accidents and then thinks herself capable of handling puppies? Doesn't she know that marking is a hard habit to break the longer it's allowed to continue? These are not good signs at all. Not only do I worry about the dogs, but I worry about what might happen to you if your mother should ever lose her so-called "control." I also want to say that abuse isn't only physical... it can also be emotional and psychological. You said your father has a lot on his plate... maybe there's someone else you can talk to?

Danni are you being honest with us because with each post your situation seems harder to believe. We are a very caring group and I hope you arent taking advantage of that caring. If your mom has hit you in the past whether or not it has left a bruise you need to make your dad aware. Your Mom shouldnt be breeding dogs and I dont think I have to tell you that for you to be aware of it. Yes Luke is marking and it will get worse if he is bred.

Another option is to talk to a school counselor. Most of them have already reported back to school. Teachers will be back soon as well. If this is really going on you need to talk to someone.

OP, I agree with the previous posts. YOU must take action and seek help from someone who can actually help you and Luke. There is only so much an online forum group can do in your situtaion. You have beend advised to get help from someone who can actually step in and help you and Luke, and that is the only option you have if you want to resolve you problem. If you feel you dad can't help, go to someone else, and keep telling until somone helps you.
I will pray for your strength and guidance to do what needs to be done.

I can't help but wonder how clean your mom thinks a litter of puppies will be.:confused::(

I honestly hope that this is a hoax. (even though I believed it) I can't stand the thought of the poor dog and the girl being abused.....at least the girl has options to get some help, the poor dog is defenseless! It really stinks that we have to be helpless to either put an end to the hoax; or get some help for these victims!!!! :(:confused:

Me too... but I can't just walk away. Maybe I'll have to.

I'm thinking I would sleep better at night if I walked away.