New mom really stressing...HELP!!!! Hey everyone: So I've had my little Romeo for about a month now and I'm feeling overwhelmed. I have read dozens of potty training books and articles but I still feel like I'm doing something wrong. I'm in law school right now, and while school is not so time consuming that I can't give him the attention he needs, I constantly worry about doing something wrong. I hate seeing him crated so much but according to a book I bought, it is the best way to potty train. I love him so much and can't stand the thought of giving him up but every time he whines in his crate, it makes me sick to my stomach. I'm just feeling very stressed. Did anyone ever feel this way and does anyone have any tips or advice for me? How can I get over this feeling of feeling bad for every cry and whine that he makes? :cry: |
First off... I think everyone feels "that" way sometimes.:rolleyes: Don't be too hard on yourself.:) Crate training does probably have the best success and is handy for sooooo many things. How long is he in the crate, at a time? :confused: If I were you, while you are reading, or doing homework, let him have Mom time, on your lap. Crate when you can't watch, and see that he gets some mum play time too. Keep going, you will both be fine..:D Good luck. |
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Allll moms worry! It's our job!!! It's must be written in stone somewhere. At least that's what I've always told my skinkids. You are completely normal. Yea! And yes, we screw up sometimes. That doesn't make us a bad mom & mistakes can usually be corrected. All babies whine at one time or another, but that doesn't mean we rush to their sides when we know they are fine, & it doesn't mean we've done anything wrong. Babies can become quite manipulative with whining when they see that it works to get their way - skinkids & furbutts both. So welcome to mommyhood! Take a deep breath & exhale slowly! Your anxiety rubs off on your baby. Keep reading & educate yourself. The more you know the easier you can deal with situations as they happen. Above all, remember your baby has NOT read the books, & doesn't know the rules. You will have to use your imagine & YT to come up with alternatives to solutions that you learn anywhere. There's always something new to learn & almost always more than one right way of doing things. You need to learn what works best for your little furbutt. Try to relax & enjoy. We all have our joyous, worrisome & sad moments, so you are not alone. There's lots of good company here. |
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We've all been where you are at one time or another :rolleyes:. Have you gone over to the YT Training Forum and looked around? You'll find lots of company there, too. There is a sticky there that you might want to read by AmeliaBadilia that addresses potty training with some helpful information. Just remeber, we're all here for you ;). |
Crate training is the best. When you have to crate him put a t-shirt that you have worn in with him, maybe a t-shirt you no longer care to wear anymore that can be his. Even when you are there have something of yours that has your scent on it that he can have in his crate or even laying outside the crate. This should stop the whining. When I crate trained Kobe, I made a divider for the already small crate so he could only lay sit and stand up. As he grew the divider was removed. He never peed. When I returned home and let him outside to use the bathroom, if he didnt use the bathroom, I would put him back in for a little longer, until he used the bathroom. He was having issues of going outside doing nothing then coming right in and peeing. :mad: So it did not take him long to understand he best pee when taken out of the crate to the outdoors in order to have mommy time. He was trained in 4 weeks by age 4 months, and I then at 5 months I added bell training and now he hits the bell to let me know he is at the door. He is almost 6 months and I still crate him at night and when gone. He never has cried being in his crate. His crate is in the main room which I have a open floor plan so that helps since he can see me in the kitchen, at the breakfast table, dining table, sitting on the couch and even the door entrance of my bedroom. If you plan to have him neutered, if he has a blankie sleep with that a few nights and take it with him to have in the crate before and after his surgery. This will help relax him smelling your scent and not be afraid. Good Luck |
Does the puppy go to the bathroom in the crate? If not, that's a great start. All first-time-puppy moms feel overwhelmed. Don't worry! I HATED leaving Bandit in his crate when we first got him, and the same with Nala, but now they both like their crates. Good luck and keep up the good work:thumbup::) |
I hear you, sister! I just got Baxter two days ago and I'm feeling absolutely in love with him, tired, frustrated, anxious, and just about everything you are! I think this is part of having a new puppy - but it has been helping me to know that I'm not alone, and that this is totally normal. Have you taken puppy classes or been to a puppy playtime? It's nice to talk to other new parents and realize that everyone has problems. :) |
Training Your New Puppy or Dog, Training Dogs Basic Commands I came across this site and found it very helpful in training. |
I hear you. I hated crate training Gypsy to the point where I almost gave up on the whole idea. But then I realized it was the easiest way to housebreak her and for her own benefit. It was so hard at first to hear her whine,but the less attention I paid to it,the less she did it. Now all I have to say is,"Bedtime,Gypsy.",and she goes straight to her crate. |
Thanks for all the advice. It's nice to know that I'm not alone. I think I've gotten over my breakdown and Romeo seems to be making a little bit of progress. I'm teaching him to ring the bell when he has to go outside. He's still working on the concept but it seems like it may be working. Slowly but surely :) |
One of my girlfriend just rescue a dachshund he was crate train, she said he is the best dog ever when it come to potty train, but she doesn't work. I have use the crate at nite only when my girls were little and not potty train yet, in the day I will use the play pen cover with the pads, food water, bed etc, then little by little I will remove the pads until one left, but I don't work so it is easy to change the pads constantly, you might want to leave more pads for your fur baby, also if he destroy the pads some members here use the washable ones;) |
Our little girl is so new we don't even have a name for her yet! And I, like many, am SO confused about the crate training, even after much research and reading. We both work so there is no way a tiny bladder can go 8 hours and I'm unsure of what people do while away that long. I've purchased the pads that are supposedly impregnated with a scent that will attract her, but it doesn't! She could care less about using a pad for anything else but a play toy. I've read that when you catch her eliminating anywhere but the pad to immediately pick her up and take her to the pad and "encourage" her to go there ( I've even put some of her own urine on the pad! ) HOW do you "encourage" a puppy to use the pad? She looks at me like I'm nuts! lol I have heard and read that Yorkies are notoriously bad at potty training, but the only reason I agreed to another dog at this stage in our lives is because they now have the pads, as the letting them in and out all day and night to potty was something I did not want to do again. Someone please tell me that these pups ARE trainable and your experience on how to do so? In the meantime, I'll take deep breaths and stop panicking... |
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