Empty Nest...before or after? - YorkieTalk.com Forums

ashley_ · 03-31-2012, 06:38 AM

Hi,

Just a random question I have after reading lots of different posts by people and I kind of want to see where most people are at. I got my yorkie(s) because I want kids and love to take care of things, but I am not "ready" for kids aka in grad school, not married, etc. I feel like there are probably lots of reverse empty nesters like me as well as after your "skin" babies grow up and leave you (like my mom and her Maltese(s)).
So question being how many of you are pre-baby or post-baby yorkie baby lovers? Or have nothing to do with babies at all, so don't want babies or also have kids at home now and that has nothing to do with you also wanting a furbaby?

rdoyle · 03-31-2012, 06:52 AM

Hi I have a year old little boy, we have been talking off and on about having other child. So we got a puppy, I dont know if I can have anymore kids.

Cha Cha · 03-31-2012, 07:05 AM

My oldest dd got our Moka when she was a senior in high school. I knew she would be leaving home for school but I was also at a place where I thought a dog would be a good fit. Boy was Moka a blessing in the adjustment and I love the love between dd and Moka when she is home. Ha she still "thinks" Moka is her baby. Two years later when the youngest dd left home we got Mylee

yorkietalkjilly · 03-31-2012, 07:06 AM

Before and after here.

Tayluvheryorkie · 03-31-2012, 07:16 AM

Well Corky is NOT really my dog, he is really my daughters, who is 13 (I just pay for everything). Before my husband died he wanted her to have someone to look after her and something to take care of. I am not having anymore kids. I told her to find a college that will allow her to take Corky with her. She said she will go to school local, and live at home. I do not think I will get another dog after this one. I will not want to take care of anything else.

CouversMom · 03-31-2012, 07:53 AM

Well, we don't have kids and don't really plan on them. We have two yorkies and wonder why people even need children? lol

Joyce Adams · 03-31-2012, 08:04 AM

Mine after too.

BellarousasMom · 03-31-2012, 08:42 AM

Mine after empty nest before losing another family pet. The best decision I ever made. She fills the emptiness that is created when kids leave and you lose a furkid.

Harrysmum · 03-31-2012, 09:06 AM

We had, in general, 'bigger' dogs when my 2 children were at home (labradors etc).

It happened that our Rosie lab got arthritis in her back legs/hips at 12 years old, just when I was diagnosed with degenerative disc disease in my back. I couldn't lift her in and out of the car etc....

It was then that I realised - when we had lost our Rosie, both my kids had left home, and after holding out a couple of years - that I really didn't enjoy our home so much without a dog in it, but I knew I couldn't physically cope with large dogs any more...

We researched (yes, including on YT!!

) - and that's how Harry came into our lives. Thank goodness! Sally + Harry x

Perrella · 03-31-2012, 09:06 AM

Both our daughter & son have been out of the house for quite a few years, with families of their own.

My dh and I have always had pets. Lost both our outside cats, one was 18 yrs and the other was 17yrs. That left us with our chi and our mini pen both a month apart in age 14 yrs. Out vet had bee telling us...they were both getting bad and to prepare. Dh said, you have got to pick a pup and get it in our home before anything happens.

Well...needless to say, I picked a yorkie

We had Zhoie 3 mos to the day before we lost our mini pen-Molly and the following Monday our Chi-Nicky.

Now...we have only one and will stay that way. But Pat always...why in all these years did we not have a yorkie before..LOL.

I do know....I could never ever be without a dog....I need it, hehehe

PiePiper · 03-31-2012, 09:22 AM

I have 4 grown children ages 27 to 38. I got Piper 4 years ago when I realized how much I needed something to mother. Piper is my baby now and I always refer to her as "The Baby". I now have 3 baby grandsons but they live far away and I only see them a few times a year. I love taking care of and mothering Piper.

MidnightUnicorn · 03-31-2012, 09:41 AM

My husband and I don't have children, and don't plan to have any. We made this decision well before I discovered my love for yorkies. Thus, in my opinion, us not having children and having a yorkie have nothing to do with each other.

Well, maybe they do relate to each other a little bit. Oftentimes, we refer to our yorkie Tatiana as our only child.

gracielove · 03-31-2012, 10:20 AM

I have been on both ends of the spectrum. Before I got married I guess I had a motherly instinct or something. I had like 30 house plants and an outside garden. I also had a beautiful little Maltese that was my "baby."

Now I have been married and my kids are grown. I have almost always had a small dog and a big dog through the years. I have just always loved the little dogs. I had a Shih Tzu for 15 years before I got Gracie.

navillusc · 03-31-2012, 11:36 AM

I am not an empty nester, a pre-nester, or a non-nester...just have a fondness for fur babies.

I grew up with animals and had my own animals growing up and took my Yorkie-Poo with me, my children grew up with animals, my children have animals now, as do I, and only one of my kids has a child so far, but my grandaughter is growing up with animals as well. It is a very interesting question, however!

KazzyK810 · 03-31-2012, 01:00 PM

During nesting & empty-nest

I got my first yorkie, Chelsea when my kids were 3 & 5, and she grew up with them. Chelsea passed away just before my daughter's senior year in high school. I then went 3 years without a dog...convinced I could never care about any other pup the way I did Chelsea.

Once both my kids were away at college, they felt bad that I was home alone & wanted to get me a puppy as a Christmas gift. They looked at breeders & found one they liked, but she wouldn't sell her a puppy as a "gift" and required that they talk to me about it first to make sure I wanted the responsibility and commitment again. I thought long & hard (so long, I almost missed out on a pup at all, as they all had deposits on them by then) and finally decided yes! I ended up with the female yorkie the breeder was going to keep for herself....that's my ZoE

Never again will I be without a yorkie...I don't know what the heck I was thinking those 3 years I went without.

03-31-2012, 06:38 AM	#1
ashley_ Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Houston, Tx Posts: 122	Empty Nest...before or after? Hi, Just a random question I have after reading lots of different posts by people and I kind of want to see where most people are at. I got my yorkie(s) because I want kids and love to take care of things, but I am not "ready" for kids aka in grad school, not married, etc. I feel like there are probably lots of reverse empty nesters like me as well as after your "skin" babies grow up and leave you (like my mom and her Maltese(s)). So question being how many of you are pre-baby or post-baby yorkie baby lovers? Or have nothing to do with babies at all, so don't want babies or also have kids at home now and that has nothing to do with you also wanting a furbaby? __________________ Ashley and my gimpy, little bit Somi

03-31-2012, 07:05 AM	#3
Cha Cha Donating YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Where the deer and the antelope play Posts: 7,069	My oldest dd got our Moka when she was a senior in high school. I knew she would be leaving home for school but I was also at a place where I thought a dog would be a good fit. Boy was Moka a blessing in the adjustment and I love the love between dd and Moka when she is home. Ha she still "thinks" Moka is her baby. Two years later when the youngest dd left home we got Mylee __________________ Shelly and the girls Moka Mylee

03-31-2012, 07:06 AM	#4
yorkietalkjilly ♥ Love My Tibbe! ♥ Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: D/FW, Texas Posts: 22,140	Before and after here. __________________ Jeanie and Tibbe One must do the best one can. You may get some marks for a very imperfect answer: you will certainly get none for leaving the question alone. C. S. Lewis

03-31-2012, 07:53 AM	#6
CouversMom and Khloe Mae's too! Donating Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Eastern Washington Posts: 14,732	Well, we don't have kids and don't really plan on them. We have two yorkies and wonder why people even need children? lol __________________ Michelle- mommy to Couver and Khloe Mae! http://yorkiehavenrescue.com/

03-31-2012, 08:04 AM	#7
Joyce Adams Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: Kentucky Posts: 2,995	Mine after too. __________________ Have a great day... Mommy to Yoshi and Miss Priss

03-31-2012, 06:52 AM	#2
rdoyle YorkieTalk Newbie! Join Date: Mar 2012 Location: Louisiana Posts: 4	Hi I have a year old little boy, we have been talking off and on about having other child. So we got a puppy, I dont know if I can have anymore kids.

03-31-2012, 07:16 AM	#5
Tayluvheryorkie Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Pooler, GA USA Posts: 200	Well Corky is NOT really my dog, he is really my daughters, who is 13 (I just pay for everything). Before my husband died he wanted her to have someone to look after her and something to take care of. I am not having anymore kids. I told her to find a college that will allow her to take Corky with her. She said she will go to school local, and live at home. I do not think I will get another dog after this one. I will not want to take care of anything else.

03-31-2012, 08:42 AM	#8
BellarousasMom YT 500 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Indiana Posts: 793	Mine after empty nest before losing another family pet. The best decision I ever made. She fills the emptiness that is created when kids leave and you lose a furkid.

03-31-2012, 09:06 AM	#9
Harrysmum Donating YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Chessington, Surrey, UK Posts: 5,062	We had, in general, 'bigger' dogs when my 2 children were at home (labradors etc). It happened that our Rosie lab got arthritis in her back legs/hips at 12 years old, just when I was diagnosed with degenerative disc disease in my back. I couldn't lift her in and out of the car etc.... It was then that I realised - when we had lost our Rosie, both my kids had left home, and after holding out a couple of years - that I really didn't enjoy our home so much without a dog in it, but I knew I couldn't physically cope with large dogs any more... We researched (yes, including on YT!! ) - and that's how Harry came into our lives. Thank goodness! Sally + Harry x

03-31-2012, 09:06 AM	#10
Perrella Donating YT 5000 Club Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: VA Posts: 8,040	Both our daughter & son have been out of the house for quite a few years, with families of their own. My dh and I have always had pets. Lost both our outside cats, one was 18 yrs and the other was 17yrs. That left us with our chi and our mini pen both a month apart in age 14 yrs. Out vet had bee telling us...they were both getting bad and to prepare. Dh said, you have got to pick a pup and get it in our home before anything happens. Well...needless to say, I picked a yorkie We had Zhoie 3 mos to the day before we lost our mini pen-Molly and the following Monday our Chi-Nicky. Now...we have only one and will stay that way. But Pat always...why in all these years did we not have a yorkie before..LOL. I do know....I could never ever be without a dog....I need it, hehehe __________________ Tena & Zhoie Sweet Little Miracle

03-31-2012, 09:22 AM	#11
PiePiper Donating Senior Yorkie Talker Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Connecticut Posts: 759	I have 4 grown children ages 27 to 38. I got Piper 4 years ago when I realized how much I needed something to mother. Piper is my baby now and I always refer to her as "The Baby". I now have 3 baby grandsons but they live far away and I only see them a few times a year. I love taking care of and mothering Piper. __________________ Mom to Piper & Chipper

03-31-2012, 09:41 AM	#12
MidnightUnicorn YT Addict Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Southern California Posts: 443	My husband and I don't have children, and don't plan to have any. We made this decision well before I discovered my love for yorkies. Thus, in my opinion, us not having children and having a yorkie have nothing to do with each other. Well, maybe they do relate to each other a little bit. Oftentimes, we refer to our yorkie Tatiana as our only child.

03-31-2012, 10:20 AM	#13
gracielove YT 3000 Club Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: NY Posts: 6,582	I have been on both ends of the spectrum. Before I got married I guess I had a motherly instinct or something. I had like 30 house plants and an outside garden. I also had a beautiful little Maltese that was my "baby." Now I have been married and my kids are grown. I have almost always had a small dog and a big dog through the years. I have just always loved the little dogs. I had a Shih Tzu for 15 years before I got Gracie.

03-31-2012, 11:36 AM	#14
navillusc Donating YT 1000 Club Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Location: FL, USA Posts: 2,767	I am not an empty nester, a pre-nester, or a non-nester...just have a fondness for fur babies. I grew up with animals and had my own animals growing up and took my Yorkie-Poo with me, my children grew up with animals, my children have animals now, as do I, and only one of my kids has a child so far, but my grandaughter is growing up with animals as well. It is a very interesting question, however! __________________ - Cat Brody Mia BriaStormy

03-31-2012, 01:00 PM	#15
KazzyK810 Donating YT 2000 Club Member Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Michigan USA & Sheffield UK Posts: 4,119	During nesting & empty-nest I got my first yorkie, Chelsea when my kids were 3 & 5, and she grew up with them. Chelsea passed away just before my daughter's senior year in high school. I then went 3 years without a dog...convinced I could never care about any other pup the way I did Chelsea. Once both my kids were away at college, they felt bad that I was home alone & wanted to get me a puppy as a Christmas gift. They looked at breeders & found one they liked, but she wouldn't sell her a puppy as a "gift" and required that they talk to me about it first to make sure I wanted the responsibility and commitment again. I thought long & hard (so long, I almost missed out on a pup at all, as they all had deposits on them by then) and finally decided yes! I ended up with the female yorkie the breeder was going to keep for herself....that's my ZoE Never again will I be without a yorkie...I don't know what the heck I was thinking those 3 years I went without. __________________ Karan & ZoE (Chelsea )