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02-18-2008, 03:05 AM | #1 |
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| I did a terrible thing to my puppy today, and I want to confess it I have to confess this, I am ashamed of it but at the time was so angry I just did it. I hit my puppy Bijou, then shook him and shouted at him NO NO NO NO, he had pooped huge one hour earlier outside, so he earned freedom to run and play with Bandit right in front me in the bedroom where the PC is. It was not more than 60 minutes after the huge poop outside he proceeded to POOP a huge lump and it happened so quickly that I had no time to stop him, it just fell out his bottom in a split of a second and I was shocked and angry, I grabbed him and slapped his bottom and then shook him and was very angry with him, then showed him it and then forced him in his crate. Now I know I will get murdered for this, but for this not to happen again, I am confessing it so I can get help as to how to deal with this kind of anger when he does this again. Just when I think he is understanding he is not. he is 6 months old today, and I feel he should know better than to crap in my bedroom which he seemd to love doing. he has access to doggie toilet and paper in the wash room, why must be come in here and do it and so fast? I feel badly for hitting him and I know you are not to hit a dog, but I just lost my temper with him because he had done it so soon before and so much of it I never would expect him to do this again so quickly. He earns freedom when he is a good boy, but if he will continue to do this then I have to crate him for longer, I honeslty feel the crating is not really teaching him that it is not allowed in the house, but only to hold. So let me hear the condemnation because I know I will be killed for this, but I just totally lost my temper with him. Last edited by soccbydo; 02-18-2008 at 03:06 AM. |
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02-18-2008, 03:13 AM | #3 |
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| First of all, I think if you have anger issues where you feel the need to hit an animal -- you should be seeing a therapist to deal with that. It's one thing to be frustrated, it's quite another to physically harm your dog and it's completely unacceptable. Your dog is **six** months old. He is still very much a BABY. Would you hit a human child for having an accident? I don't think so. Besides the physical pain I'm sure he experienced, you are doing a lot of emotional damage to this dog by hitting, yelling, and forcing him into his crate. He will never learn anything but to fear you and you will completely obliterate his self confidence and trust in you if you continue to do this. At the end of the day, it is *your* fault if your puppy has an accident... not his. You need to have your eyes on him at all times to be sure that he's not eliminating in the wrong spot and if you cannot be there you need to have him confined to a specific area. |
02-18-2008, 03:34 AM | #4 |
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| I hit him, on his bottom open hand not beat him brutally, he didnt even squeak it was a small lash like a tap not a brutal hit, but the fact that I did it I am sorry fo that. He was not brutally lashed. I wont do this. But I did use my hand which I have never done before. So again, condemn me, none of us are perfect, the fact that I was woman enough to come and confess this means I want to find a way to contain my temper. I DIDNT HAVE TO CONFESS this I could have kept it quiet to myself. |
02-18-2008, 03:57 AM | #5 |
Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member | I honestly think you may have temper issues - crating him for punishment isn't going to work - and one day you may have a very timid dog that won't be able to help himself out of FEAR and you don't want that. Hitting him was wrong and you know that - you said so yourself - but I'm more concerned over the anger you showed by shaking him - you've heard about 'shaken baby syndrom' right ? That can cause brain damage I've been having issues with Cheri - she's much older than your puppy and when she has an 'accident' I do the ' NO CHERI' thing - pick her up and take her to her pad and tell her "THIS IS WHERE YOU DO YOUR BUSINESS".....she knows cause if I catch her looking for a spot she'll run right to her pad. I don't 'punish' her because she already knows she wasn't susposed to go on the floor. She's getting the message but I'd never hit her or get mad....when you gotta go - you GOTTA go ! Your baby is just 6 months old - still a very young puppy and what's a little poop when they give us so much love ? I suggest you try to think of the worse things out there in life we have to deal with before you take out your anger on him.....and please - don't crate him over that !! It doesnt work like a time out for real kids.... Give him time - and BIG PRAISE when he goes outside or wherever you're training him to go and be consistent. Throw a parade if you have to when he goes but eventually he'll get it.....but no crate !! that's like throwing him in jail for a crime he didn't commit - he's a PUPPY - that's what puppies DO.
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02-18-2008, 04:10 AM | #6 | |
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Yes I understand waht you have said. I didnt shake him like a rag doll I will never do this, I shook him once very firmly by holding hims firmly as not to do him injury and said no no no. He has long since been out of the crate he was in there for a few minutes and he acts like nothing has happened which I am glad for. We will now go for a nice long hour walk. I wont hit him again no matter how light the lash was. This is the reason I confessed because I felt terrible about it. We all make mistakes in life and I did, and for that Iam very sorry for hitting my baby. | |
02-18-2008, 04:11 AM | #7 |
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| poop problems I am not going to condem you I think you have pretty much done that yourself. They can get to the best of us at times. just re-group and start over again. he has already forgotten, remember dogs live in the moment, although they remember they won't hold a grudge if you don't.
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02-18-2008, 04:12 AM | #8 |
Yorkie Kisses are the Best! Donating Member | can I add something - you just lost a puppy right ? Doesn't this puppy deserve better ? you sound like you want to do the right thing but lashing out in anger is never good and that goes for everyday life not just dealing with puppies. I really hope you step back, train them and don't expect immediate results. But hitting and yelling isn't going to help one bit. It just makes them cower in fear and they really don't understand what's happening..... I felt so bad reading your post for your dog. I don't want to condem you but I honestly feel you need to re-think how you handle yourself and your dogs....They'll be so much happier ! Good luck |
02-18-2008, 04:12 AM | #9 |
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| I am speechless! I have never commented on one of "these" threads before, I try to bite my tongue..but.. oh my God...I can't take it anymore. History is repeating itself. IMO you never treated little Scooby very well when you first got him and now this. I am in tears and I'm shaking!!! My CoCo is 3 and still has the occasional accident, but she is worth far more to me than a rug or the floor. If you are that angry, break a vase or a few plates but please please don't hit or shake your dog. Shaking can cause internal or brain damage. oh my God.. I just can't anymore. Sheilagh
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02-18-2008, 04:21 AM | #11 |
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| I am just sad and observing the thread. My prayers go out!
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02-18-2008, 04:26 AM | #12 |
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| PLease DONT EVER do that again, I know you are already feeling bad for it, But let me tell you, He will NOT forget it...My Joey is a rescue baby, and i know he was hit the first 4 mths of his life, before i came along, he is so head shy and submisive its a shame I thought he was doing so much better? Keep working with him, He is still a baby at 6 mths, But he will remember it
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02-18-2008, 04:31 AM | #13 | |
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scooby - you seem to have a history of troubles - I really hope things look up for your dogs and you step back and try to solve some of the problems....Have you puppyproofed your house yet ?? I remember your other puppy died from poisoning right ? or was it head trauma ??? We care about THE DOGS here - when you see responses it's to HELP you so please don't take the posts the wrong way ok .... you have a little 6 month old puppy that depends on you for his well being - make sure you live up to that expectation for him ok ? All they want is our love - it's not that hard to understand - with puppies comes a little work. Just go with the flow (so to speak) | |
02-18-2008, 04:32 AM | #14 |
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| Wow maybe you need to seek help with managing your anger. At 6 months he really is still a baby and is going to have accidents. I have a 3 1/2 year old furbaby who still has accidents around the house, but that's just what it is an accident and accidents do happen. I'm not going to hit her just a firm no pick her up and place her where she's supposed to potty. They are dogs and not people and so they can't understand why you yell, shake and hit it just confuses and scares them . Puppy are a lot of work and it can definitely get a little overwhelming, perhaps this is a bad time in your life and do not have the patience to deal with having a puppy. Maybe it would be in the best interest of this puppy to be rehomed.
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02-18-2008, 04:32 AM | #15 |
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