Princess has a buddy!

[capt_noonie]

Originally Posted by dexterandalana

i have a feeling we wont ever see this smilebox...and am worried we might not even see a box sent now. if this is the case...how do we go about organizing a box to get to this buddy? i will gladly donate!

That is so sweet of you!

[diannenet]

I agree, doubt that a box will be sent out at all.................she mailed ours 2-3 weeks AFTER everyone else had theirs. No PMs explaining why, no "I'm sorry" .............. NUTTIN'

I went back to page one to read about her thank you to her Secret Buddy. I see she has been suspended!!!!!

[carsou]

Originally Posted by diannenet

I agree, doubt that a box will be sent out at all.................she mailed ours 2-3 weeks AFTER everyone else had theirs. No PMs explaining why, no "I'm sorry" .............. NUTTIN'

I went back to page one to read about her thank you to her Secret Buddy. I see she has been suspended!!!!!

I have been super busy but have been checking to see if pictures have been posted and saw that she hasn't sent her box out either. She had us in another GE on a different forum and she also shipped weeks after the shipping deadline.

I am so sorry that her SB still hasn't received a gift.

[Furbaby Friend]

I think people should refrain from judging about a situation they do not have the whole story about. I do not have the story either, but I'm just saying it is not good to judge. I tend to err on the side of compassion and understanding in situations like this.

Some stupid gifts are not as important as showing someone understanding when they are going through a tough time. Chemo (to treat constant pain like RA), a leg injury, a depressed immune system, family members in an accident... those things deserve a little understanding in my opinion.

Would I be sad that I didn't get my gifts on time? Yes. However, I don't think ripping someone apart when they are going through a rough time and already feeling remorse is the best road to take.

What to you seems like excuses could be someone's real pain, and THEN how would you feel for picking at them? Karma certainly wouldn't smile upon you.

[Furbaby Friend]

On another completely personal pet peeve note:

I think it is super tacky to go after someone for the contents of their boxes. Just because YOU choose to spend a lot of money on a box does not mean that all can afford that.

The GE gives a minimum, meaning you CAN give the minimum. If you don't like cheap gifts, change the rules.

Not everyone can afford the world and they would still like to participate. Maybe they could split up buddies by price range so that everyone thinks it is "fair."

Personally, I give to give. I don't give to receive. If you whine about sub par gifts, you aren't giving to give... you are giving to receive, period.

I, for one, will never be participating in a GE here because I don't think I could live up to the lofty standards of the unwritten minimum. I'd be paranoid that what I did just wasn't good enough and I'd be ridiculed to no end for it.

Just not right in my opinion.

[Cha Cha]

Originally Posted by Furbaby Friend

I think people should refrain from judging about a situation they do not have the whole story about. I do not have the story either, but I'm just saying it is not good to judge. I tend to err on the side of compassion and understanding in situations like this.

Some stupid gifts are not as important as showing someone understanding when they are going through a tough time. Chemo (to treat constant pain like RA), a leg injury, a depressed immune system, family members in an accident... those things deserve a little understanding in my opinion.

Would I be sad that I didn't get my gifts on time? Yes. However, I don't think ripping someone apart when they are going through a rough time and already feeling remorse is the best road to take.

What to you seems like excuses could be someone's real pain, and THEN how would you feel for picking at them? Karma certainly wouldn't smile upon you.

Let me tell you about real pain. In the last GE, I lost my closest brother. I certainly had as good an excuse as anybody to withdraw completely from the GE, but it was my obligation. When I commit to something, I commit fully. Even through my mourning, I got my package out, and did my best to give my buddy some hints to let them know I was here and thinking about them.

[Furbaby Friend]

Originally Posted by Cha Cha

Let me tell you about real pain. In the last GE, I lost my closest brother. I certainly had as good an excuse as anybody to withdraw completely from the GE, but it was my obligation. When I commit to something, I commit fully. Even through my mourning, I got my package out, and did my best to give my buddy some hints to let them know I was here and thinking about them.

Good for you!

I'm not saying that someone shouldn't stick to what they say. I'm just saying that people should be a bit more understanding if people can't. Some people just aren't as strong as others. Everyone is an individual and handle emotions differently.

For instance, to some it is not as big a deal when their pet dies as when a family member dies. To others, it is worse. Still to others, it is equal. To some a more "minor" injury is crippling and to others it is just a scratch they can work through. Different pain thresholds exist. You cannot compare one individual's situation to another. It is like trying to compare apples to oranges.

As I said, I am not saying it is RIGHT that things turned out like they did. What I am saying is that *I* would take the higher road and show understanding. Me, personally. What everyone else wants to do with their own karma is their own business.

[107barney]

Originally Posted by Furbaby Friend

I think people should refrain from judging about a situation they do not have the whole story about. I do not have the story either, but I'm just saying it is not good to judge. I tend to err on the side of compassion and understanding in situations like this.

Some stupid gifts are not as important as showing someone understanding when they are going through a tough time. Chemo (to treat constant pain like RA), a leg injury, a depressed immune system, family members in an accident... those things deserve a little understanding in my opinion.

Would I be sad that I didn't get my gifts on time? Yes. However, I don't think ripping someone apart when they are going through a rough time and already feeling remorse is the best road to take.

What to you seems like excuses could be someone's real pain, and THEN how would you feel for picking at them? Karma certainly wouldn't smile upon you.

Oh please, cry me a river and do it to the tune of violins. We all have problems and some of us are EVEN busier than this person is.

You are right that it is not about the dollar amount. But when someone capitalizes over and over on gifts they receive and they send a box of garbage in return all the while investing in embroidery software (which can cost several hundred to several thousand dollars by the way) and they stockpile fabrics to make dresses and barrettes and toys then they have the means (and possibly the talent) to do something better.

Perhaps you missed the part where she was going to a sewing expo because she wanted to and all the photos she put on FB. Her RA, chemo, floors refinished, daughter's car accident, depressed immune system and the whole host of other excuses did not stop her from doing those things that she wanted to do. But she could not put together a smile box for Juicy or a box for Remy.

Again to your post.

[107barney]

Originally Posted by Furbaby Friend

Good for you!

I'm not saying that someone shouldn't stick to what they say. I'm just saying that people should be a bit more understanding if people can't. Some people just aren't as strong as others. Everyone is an individual and handle emotions differently.

For instance, to some it is not as big a deal when their pet dies as when a family member dies. To others, it is worse. Still to others, it is equal. To some a more "minor" injury is crippling and to others it is just a scratch they can work through. Different pain thresholds exist. You cannot compare one individual's situation to another. It is like trying to compare apples to oranges.

As I said, I am not saying it is RIGHT that things turned out like they did. What I am saying is that *I* would take the higher road and show understanding. Me, personally. What everyone else wants to do with their own karma is their own business.

High road? You call your posts a high road? I call it a kick in the face

[107barney]

Originally Posted by Furbaby Friend

On another completely personal pet peeve note:

I think it is super tacky to go after someone for the contents of their boxes. Just because YOU choose to spend a lot of money on a box does not mean that all can afford that.

The GE gives a minimum, meaning you CAN give the minimum. If you don't like cheap gifts, change the rules.

Not everyone can afford the world and they would still like to participate. Maybe they could split up buddies by price range so that everyone thinks it is "fair."

Personally, I give to give. I don't give to receive. If you whine about sub par gifts, you aren't giving to give... you are giving to receive, period.

I, for one, will never be participating in a GE here because I don't think I could live up to the lofty standards of the unwritten minimum. I'd be paranoid that what I did just wasn't good enough and I'd be ridiculed to no end for it.

Just not right in my opinion.

Oh you are welcome to particpate in the GE, as is anyone who meets the requirements set by YT. And those requirements include posting photos of your gifts and spending the minimum. There is nothing lofty about taking a piece of $2 fleece when you can sew and making your buddy something special. There is a big difference with doing something like that then there is going to the garbage bin at the dollar store and sending ill fitting trash to your buddy. You're right, it's about the GIFT exchange, not the GARBAGE exchange.

For the record, take a look at the # of smileboxes etc that chronicle the gifts given. There is nothing extravagent there. There are adorable items and many of the vendors offer deep discounts for GE purposes. No one is draining their bank account.

This is not about emotions, pain of chemo, or the like. This is about a choice. A deliberate choice to proscrastinate and be selfish all the while collecting her own loot.

[jadabug]

Originally Posted by 107barney

Oh please, cry me a river and do it to the tune of violins. We all have problems and some of us are EVEN busier than this person is.

You are right that it is not about the dollar amount. But when someone capitalizes over and over on gifts they receive and they send a box of garbage in return all the while investing in embroidery software (which can cost several hundred to several thousand dollars by the way) and they stockpile fabrics to make dresses and barrettes and toys then they have the means (and possibly the talent) to do something better.

Perhaps you missed the part where she was going to a sewing expo because she wanted to and all the photos she put on FB. Her RA, chemo, floors refinished, daughter's car accident, depressed immune system and the whole host of other excuses did not stop her from doing those things that she wanted to do. But she could not put together a smile box for Juicy or a box for Remy.

Again to your post.

Originally Posted by 107barney

High road? You call your posts a high road? I call it a kick in the face

[Furbaby Friend]

Originally Posted by 107barney

High road? You call your posts a high road? I call it a kick in the face

I didn't call my posts the high road. In fact, in nature my posts are somewhat judgmental since I am also speaking of a situation I know nothing about.

What I DID say was that I would have taken the high road in the situation if I was in it and been understanding. I said no such thing about my posts here being the high road. Stop twisting my words to your own end.

I'm done here. I said what I needed to say.

I just wanted to put a word out that MAYBE people should show a little compassion. However, I see that is not going to happen. ::shrug::

[jadabug]

Originally Posted by Cha Cha

Let me tell you about real pain. In the last GE, I lost my closest brother. I certainly had as good an excuse as anybody to withdraw completely from the GE, but it was my obligation. When I commit to something, I commit fully. Even through my mourning, I got my package out, and did my best to give my buddy some hints to let them know I was here and thinking about them.

Shelly I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. I didn't know about that. I know that had to be one of the hardest things you have ever dealt with. ((hugs)) and condolenses.

[107barney]

Originally Posted by Furbaby Friend

I didn't call my posts the high road. In fact, in nature my posts are somewhat judgmental since I am also speaking of a situation I know nothing about.

What I DID say was that I would have taken the high road in the situation if I was in it and been understanding. I said no such thing about my posts here being the high road. Stop twisting my words to your own end.

I'm done here. I said what I needed to say.

I just wanted to put a word out that MAYBE people should show a little compassion. However, I see that is not going to happen. ::shrug::

Compassion? Where is YOUR compassion for the hurt feelings of the person who didn't have her gift properly acknowledged or the one who hasn't received a box? By the way, don't strain your neck looking down from your high horse up there on your high road. Oh, and if anyone is done here, it's me.

[Cha Cha]

Originally Posted by jadabug

Shelly I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. I didn't know about that. I know that had to be one of the hardest things you have ever dealt with. ((hugs)) and condolenses.

Thank you. It was a difficult month for sure. But I should have explained my point further. I have witnessed compassion here more than once in the GE because life gets in the way. If I am not mistaken, there is another example of that this time around. The thing is, "most" people come back to say the GE was the high light of their low spot. It's what put a smile on their face, or gave them something else to focus on through their rough patch, including me. It helped me get throuh it.