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Joy, I know I made lots of posts here.. but deep down, I felt this was some one close to you.. My thoughts were right.. If I could have made my sister live longer and better by having to go to drastic measure's.. I am sure I would. As for the negative and sarcastic posts.. I hope those people are never in a position to need a caring post to help you along.. I also do not feel you needed to go all the way to say who the person really was to you, in order for the bad posts to stop coming.. It is always easy to make judgement.. until you walk a mile in some one's shoes.. "some times we have to do the walk in order to do the talk." God bless you for being such a caring daughter, I am sure there are many here that have never been put to the test. It is a hard test at that. My father brother brought us up with this.. " do unto other's as you would have them do to you" |
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I think you're trying to do the best for your mother and her dog, and I know you and your mother will make the right decision for all of you. You're exploring all options and researching. Like I said before, this is a really difficult situation. Most dog lover, including you, don't like this surgery...too many people are quick to have it done before exhausting other options..they just want a quick fix. But there are rare circumstances where it may be the only option. I know you are weighing the pros and cons...I'm sure once you find a vet to council you on this, that will help a lot. |
Lets give Joy a break here. We are not in her shoes. A lot of dogs die from greiving themselves over the loss of their owners. I would like to see these two get to remain as companions as long as they can. Best of luck Joy and I truly hope things work out for all of you. Hugs Deana Prestigeous Yorkies |
I just read this thread, and have no comments on debarking, as I have no experience with it. I just wanted to express that my thoughts are with you, and I feel sure that the best decision for the situation will be made. There is rarely an issue that is "black and white", although many tend to make it that way. I applaud you for showing such concern and care for your mother; it seems that respect and consideration for the elderly and infirm are often sadly lacking nowadays. Your mom is truly fortunate to have you! |
Look, I have read everything and really started thinking about what if it were me and my dogs - what would I do? I don't see that y'all have any good answer for your problem. Is the home saying she can have the dog if it doesn't bark? I have been around a dog that after surgery they can't make any sound and it is very disturbing to see him go through all the motions of barking but no sound at all comes out. I would have to do a lot of praying and sole searching to make that decision and I don't envy y'all having to make it. I will pray for you both that you have peace in whatever decision you make. None of us know what y'all are going through and how can any of us judge you. |
I would talk to the neighbors at the assisted living, tell them that a no bark training is being worked on, and ask for their patience!And if this does not work,another solution will have to be tried! I think they need to stay together- at least the effort made for them to stay together! the surgury, which to me would be a very, very, last option. I would go to the new neighbors, put it straight out there! You might be surprised! My aunt was living in one- we took my sisters dog-she told her neighbor we were leaving him in apartment for a few hours, to bear with if he barked- the lady said it wouldn't bother her- her hearing was bad- she wished she could hear him bark! so talk to the neighbors right away!!! Try the training first- then go to other options, if you have to. The dog will probably be the hit of the place anyway! Good luck with the training, and best wishes to your family! |
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How about other alternatives. Moving the furniture so the dog cannot see out the window. Also, keeping the T.V. or a radio on so the dog cannot hear outside noises. These are both triggers for my dogs to bark. Hopefully if you can remove the triggers and/or distract the dog the barking will lessen or stop. |
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Widsmom, I would do whatever necessary to keep the two of them together. And if that means debarking, then so be it. Don't listen to the naysayers, they aren't in your position. The most important thing is for your mom and her poodle to remain together. Best of luck to you because I know how hard this must be for all of you. :thumbup: ;) :animal36 |
i just read thru this whole thread and what you are doing for your mother is wonderful. Debarking should be done as a last resort when nothing else has worked and the final decision is either debark or rehome/euthanize/animal shelter. what state do you live in? |
Joy, I just now found this post and I am deeply sorry for what your mom is going through and yourself. I know you will do everything in your power to keep your mothers dog with her. Besides debarking her the only other thing I can suggest is that you get a soft muzzle for the dog to wear. That would keep her from barking but your mom would have to be able to take it off and put it back on her for eating and drinking. It might help in training her to quit barking. I have a friend that has a debarked Yorkie and he can still bark but it just is not very loud. i will be praying for you and your mom. |
Joy, My husband and I have lost all 4 of our parents in the last 2 years, the last being my FIL that was buried 1 week ago today. We have been married 33 years, so they were all elderly. My mom was the best friend I have ever had and I would have done anything for her. Do whatever it takes to help you and your mom make the transition easier. Regrets are hard to live with. All we can do is make the best decisions we can at the time. I will pray for you and your family :) May God bless you all. Betsi |
I just read this whole thread....Joy, I'm so sorry for your whole family to have to contemplate such an emotional and difficult decision......It's clear from your posts your not deciding on this lightly.....I hope your mom and Bea can remain together, either way is not perfect or ideal, all you can do is what is in the best interest for everyone involved...Good luck in what ever you decide..... |
Joy, what a difficult decision to have to comtemplate. But I absolutely understand that some circumstances require that we do what must be done, not what we wish we could do. You will make the best decision for your mother and yourself cause it's quite obvious from your posts that you are a loving, caring person. I wish you the best.:) |
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