I Can't take much more BAD News !!
 

I don't know how much more bad news I can handle. On top of Miah's resent diagnosis with diabetes now my husband has health issues, some very serious.

He was on the roof doing a minor repair and hurt his back. He was laying on the floor to try and relieve the pain and was in excruciating PAIN. This man was in tears and I was at a loss of what to do to help him. All I could do was try to comfort him and urge him to seek medical attention. I knew it was serious but he hates needles and doctors and being burdens with the medical cost and never ever goes to the doctor. Finally by the following morning he was in so much pain that he asked if he could go to urgent care. While there his blood pressure was through the roof, partly do to the pain and his nerves of being in a medical office but he's has HBP since his teens but he chose to not continue his meds. No matter this injury or illness he has always just bared the pain at suffered but not this time. He's always had high blood pressure but hasn't been on meds for a very long time. Well his BP was 247/140 and lowered to 224/140 before he left but it gets worse. They heard something in his heart and when they did an EKG they found out that he has a heart issue. I wasn't there, I was as the vet with two of the pups. From what I understand its something with the lower left vertical pumping in blood but not pumping in out quickly enough. They were shocked that he was still standing and urged him to go directly to the ER but her refused. He didn't have any other issues that would lead them to believe it was life threatening such as headaches, numbness, chest pain, dizziness. I doubt that the result would have been any different even if I had been there. He's not only as big as an ox he's just as stubborn as one. They made him sign a waver releasing them of any responsibility if anything should happen after he leaves their care. So he left the office with 3 prescription meds for his back and a Hail Mary !!

So I think this was the wake up call that he needed. It scared the crap out of him, and me. So thank god he is going to see a doctor, he has a follow up visit to see about getting back on his high blood pleasure meds after being off of them for 30 years. Of course we are uninsured so it will be an out of pocket cost but will be worth every penny if it will help regulate his PB and save his life !!

The hear issue is a whole other story, we'll see what they say at the visit and go from there. Doc apt isn't until Aug 19th. It was the earliest we could get in to see anyone.

Hubby
 

Oh no, what a shock!! I am so sorry that something else has shown up as you are already stressed out!
I must say that your hub needs to take his heart issues seriously and accept the advice to go to the ER. With such high BP and other symptoms I would try and get him to the ER fast!! Good luck! He needs more tests and cardio treatment ASAP!!

So sorry this is happening to you. I'm sure all the stress from your pups and now your husband will effect your health as well. I hope you can find some answers and get a break from all of this and I'm glad your husband is finally taking his health seriously.

OMG! That BP is unbelievable. Why don't you have health ins? I thought everyone had to have Obamacare? My husband has had high BP forever also. It is a silent killer. Now, after not controlling it properly he has kidney failure and will start dialysis in a few weeks. Your husband MUST get his BP under control.

I am so sorry you are and you husband are going through this hell. Please keep us informed on his progress.

Dawn, I am praying for your husband and that he gets the treatment he needs for his BP and especially his heart. Hoping he goes to a cardiologist and has a complete work up and find out what they will recommend.

So sorry Dawn. Sending prayers and hugs the pup and him get regulated and feel better soon

Thank you for your concern. There is no doubt that this is something that we MUST get on top of and get under control asap. We never every go to the doctors for anything. We had no idea that his high BP when left untreated could do this type of damage to his health. We are just so use to handling our health issues at home with self diagnoses and treatment via the web. guess that was a huge mistake that now has irreversible results. I am praying that it is early enough that with a proper diet, meds and a life style change can help prevent any further damage.

Praying for you and your husband.....praying for resolution of your husband's ill health, and praying for patience and tolerance for you!!!

My God, dont you want to just run, waving your arms wildly, screaming at the top of your lungs, across fields, hills, and thru woods!!! Sometimes I want to just sit in the middle of my floor, screaming, kicking and and crying!!! You are clearly up to your neck in alligators, thank God you dont have a chicken in your arms! So I guess it could always get worse.....

I am praying for your situation to lighten, and a clear path of decision falls open to you. Also praying for your husband's obstinate, hard headed (he is a man and this is normal behavior for him!!!), defiant, uncooperative attitude becomes manageable for you! Hard headed men unfortunately often require the living bejessus scared out of them before they stop and listen to reason.......Throw a hissy eyed fit, start squalling uncontrollably and point out to him you think it is very selfish of him to opt to ignore what is obviously going on with him, allowing him to take the easy way out, leaving you all by yourself, having to face a future without him and his help!

Hearing bad news after bad does get very, very, very old, doesn't it? Fear and worrying are awful ways to have to spend one's time but bad news usually brings both to the fore and makes it hard to keep a hopeful attitude. Hopefully DH will be able to face his heart issues as not being so scary he feels he must ignore them altogether and realize he can almost always get real help, that he's not in fact dying and can feel much better with proper treatment and even prolong his life if he acts prudently.

Facing one's own mortality when we hear some scary health news is often too much to bear at first but gradually we deal with it bit by bit until we are strong enough to face is head-on. I know he's scared silly but he needs to take that BP medication or he could have a stroke, heart attack, CGH or kidney disease. Kidneys really suffer from unremitting HBP and once they are damaged, the patient gets very, very sick.

Does he have a pastor or buddy who could sit down and talk to him man to man about facing his cardiovascular problems now before they are many and complicated and he really compromises his health? Likely a bit of treatment here and there, a corrective surgical procedure could set him to rights and give him many more good years if he won't ignore his health and gets help early on.

If he needs heart tests and a surgical procedure, couldn't he get Obamacare or something for any needed surgical procedure and rehab and then come off it if you must after he's better, if he must? It could be temporarily expensive but a way to get surgery w/out costing the earth out of pocket.

With that BP so high, he's likely not feeling well and is tense, probably a sitting duck for hurting his poor back. All I can do is pray and hope that there are some answers for him and both of you and that baby dog with the diabetes. I'm so sorry times are so hard for you.

I'll be praying for you both as well. I have a hubby that hates doctors also, so I completely understand. Make sure he follows up and take some of the advice others gave you.

[QUOTE=Yorkiemom1;4579659]Praying for you and your husband.....praying for resolution of your husband's ill health, and praying for patience and tolerance for you!!!

My God, dont you want to just run, waving your arms wildly, screaming at the top of your lungs, across fields, hills, and thru woods!!! Sometimes I want to just sit in the middle of my floor, screaming, kicking and and crying!!! You are clearly up to your neck in alligators, thank God you dont have a chicken in your arms! So I guess it could always get worse.....

I am praying for your situation to lighten, and a clear path of decision falls open to you. Also praying for your husband's obstinate, hard headed (he is a man and this is normal behavior for him!!!), defiant, uncooperative attitude becomes manageable for you! Hard headed men unfortunately often require the living bejessus scared out of them before they stop and listen to reason.......Throw a hissy eyed fit, start squalling uncontrollably and point out to him you think it is very selfish of him to opt to ignore what is obviously going on with him, allowing him to take the easy way out, leaving you all by yourself, having to face a future without him and his help![/QUOTE]

I have though about this very thing and it scars the hell out of me. I has a little cry but for now I am trying my best to keep a positive mind. I fear the worse but until we get a better and complete diagnosis of his issues I choose to say positive. We both know what may lie ahead and are hoping for not do bad news bur are preparing for what may come.

I been doing some research on heart healthy food and life changes. It wont be easy but he has no choice. We are cutting out salt and caffeine for starters and will do what it takes to get his weight down. He's 6.7 and weighs 285. Its not much but its a start in the right direction. :thumbup:

You thought and prayer are very much needed and so much appreciated. :love:

Thank you for your prayers and the advise Jeanie, I sure am in need of all I can get right now. Believe me we do not live beyond our means in any way. We don't have any outstanding bills except a mortgage on our home. I looked into OC last year and we just didn't have the funds and as much as we now need it we cant give moneys we don't have. We had to take the hit on our tax returns which will be more this year. It was better to pay that cost then to starve. I came down to pay for medical or pay for food.

We have a family friend who is a nurse practitioner who has been very helpful and supportive. I've spoken to her a few times and she is of course concerned as are we all. Its pretty much a wait and see sort of situation until the 19th. Right now we are concentrating on getting his back healed, his weight down and start eating healthier.

Thank you !

Just checking in today to see how you are feeling....perhaps a little more resolute and less like a tumble weed blowing in the wind.....praying for clear sight and resolute determination for you and your husband. Try to keep your spirits up, even though it can seem like we have absolutely no control and everything around us is in chaos and confusion. Praying for clarity and options for you.....

Thank you . . it so nice to see how you and the other members care so much about my husband and I. I just love your way of putting things, makes me chuckle. :)

My stress level is alright at the moment but for hubby he returned to work today after only three days rest. My daughter went to check in on him and he wasn't doing well. I can just see it in his eyes, the pain it too much for him. He's holding off taking the pain meds for fear his won't be able to do his job. He has two more long days ahead of him. His pain threshold has always been great so I can tell this is a serious injury. SO I can only imagine that the pain along with the added stress of returning too soon, on top of dealing with customers is going to send his PB through the roof once more. Which I cant' understand why they didn't prescribe him anything at UC. Not sure he can wait til the 19th to be seen again.

I'll urge him to go again if he feels its too much for him to handle.

Hubby
 

Your poor hubby being in all that pain and having to work. Three days is not long enough to recover especially if his pain is not being managed. I can see that these meds make it hard to work and why he feels he cannot take them. What terrible choices, poor guy. Hope he can hang on for two more days before the pain and stress get to him.
My, he must be so exhausted when he gets home and can't wait to get to bed and rest. Hope he can take a pain pill at night so at least he can sleep?
Prayers for this misery to end soon and for your hubby to heal and feel better again.
Hugs.

Thank you . . and yes he took both the muscle relaxer and the pain med and he was able to get some much needed pain free rest. It wouldn't really be so bad on him if there were two people on the night shift but unfortunately he's the only manager on duty since the company made cut backs last year and of course the new manager who by the way had absolutely no history with the company refused to work nights or weekends. That's a whole other rant . . to much too worry about with everything else going on to let that bug me right now.

This is day two of him returning back to work. He is again working the night shift alone.

Dawn, I am very sorry you and your husband are facing so much at once. Can he talk to a benefits manager or govt case worker about health coverage? Definitely needs regular health care with these issues.

Praying for you.

I hear every day about this GREAT medical coverage for everyone that has been unable to have insurance.....fantastic deal, wonderful insurance coverage for everyone that does not have it...Supposedly, everyone is now covered by this fabulous, life saving answer for everyone that has not been able to afford insurance coverage, or who's companies do not even offer them coverage, as well as for people that have been deliberately circumnavigated by the companies they work for (deliberately cutting their hours so they are "part time" and do not qualify for company paid insurance coverage)....what about all THAT coverage that everyone is celebrating and running flags up flagpoles about???? Surely, your husband can apply for that lifesaving, most wonderful, government blessed provider of insurance coverage....?

As usual, I am sure it is somehow, an "exception", a "loophole" in "your husband's case"......seems like there are always "exceptions", at least with everyone I know.....I am sorry.....I am praying for you and your husband.....

Was he ever in the military? The VA has been a godsend for my husband.
Even if he was only in one year it would be worth checking out.

:thumbup:

I do not have any experience with the Affordable Health Care system, but I would think there would be some source of assistance navigating it to find coverage that would fit your budget, possibly with subsidies.

Praying for you guys! I know it sucks but I hope everyone will heal and get better soon. I know this isn't much but I hope it brings a little smile to your fave good luck with everything!!!!!

No he was not.

:) Thank you, everyone has been very supportive !

I haven't even discussed any of this with my family so having you all to talk to has been a huge help.

There of course is a government program that will pay a portion of our medical bills depending on our income. Last time I took one of the kids we were in the 90% of the income level so we had to pay 100% of the bill. Both his employer and OC have an enrollment period that doesn't come around until November. So will see what type of insurance we can get at that time.

We just had our 24th wedding anniversary on July 27th, we've been together for 30 years. That man is my whole world, he's been my soul mate, my best friend my everything since I was 20 and I love him with every ounce of my being. Of course getting the proper medical is first and foremost our most important priority !!

He needs to be here to see his grand daughter grow up. She just turned 3 weeks old yesterday . . she needs her grandpa to be healthy so that he can help spoil her. :D

So sorry you and hubby have to go through all this medical red tape. Congratulations on your 24th wedding anniversary, and so refreshing to hear you praise the man in your life. I wish for you many, many more years of a happy, healthy life together.

Thank you Joan . . Me Too !!

Lets just hope that his heart is as strong as our LOVE. :love:

Congrats:)
 

Such a sweet post, still so happy after 30 years:)
He will be ok and you will find a way to get your dear hubby treated and well.
Hope he is feeling a little better now and that the pain is subsiding.
Thinking of you all and praying all will be well again soon.

Less time = less Anxiety
 

Even though you all have been so Great and offer me sound advice and have shown me nothing but warm wishes its hard for me.

TY is like my extended family but I can feel my Anxiety level rising every time I come to YT and discuss everything we have going on. I know that it is nothing in comparison to what my baby Miah & husband are experiencing but some times it just feels like my heart is going to beat right out of my chest. I haven't felt like this since my momma's passing last May.

Which is why I need a break . . . Please don't anyone feel offended or as if I don't appreciate you if I don't return for a few days at a time.
Please continue your Prayers, Advise and any discussion you feel may be helpful. I just feel like at this time I need to eliminate the cause of my anxiety which sadly is any discussion about Miah or my husband. Don't worry I will be back with update after Doc/Vet visits as they are available and will answer any questions you have at that time.


Much Love & Appreciation:

Time out.
 

So sorry that all the trauma around you is making you so stressed. I do understand that having a little time out from YT and the discussions is probably good for you right now. So take care of yourself and your family and know we will be thinking of you and praying for you.
Come back when you are ready and don't worry about posting until you feel you are up to it.
Healing hugs, Dot, xxx

So much has happened since I was last on this thread. I needed the time to think and to figure out what is best for our family. You can not even imagine how stressful it has been for me but thanks to some really great vets/docs and for some even better people who I choose to allow into my life I now feel that everything will be ok.

Unfortunately I got even more bad news concerning one of my other pups and things got way worse before they got better and some very difficult choices had to be made which I don't care to go into details. Just know that things will never be the same in our home again and it is very hard for us but we thought long and hard and in our hearts we know that it is for the best and are praying that things will work out.

Miah's diabetes is still not where is needs to be. We had an appointment yesterday and her glucose level had dropped but still are very high. She's doing well and we are doing what we can to help the process. She is now taking 4U twice a day.

My husband had his appointment on Weds and the Doc discussed his EKG results and said that the condition that he has is not as serious as the urgent care docs led us to believe which was a HUGE relief for us. We've been so scared of what could happen but understand more clearly now that we got a second opinion and things were explained to us better. His back injury is still not healed and is very painful for him so they are continuing the meds. As for his high BP that to is being managed now with medication. It's still new so hopefully with the meds and the changes that he has made to his diet and eating habits his health will improve. They ordered a full panel of blood work that he has to still do and which may take some prodding but its something that needs to be done and will give the doctors more information on his heart and so much more so that they can determine the right course of action if any.

Our only concern is the BP meds and the muscle relaxers make him very dizzy. When he took both together yesterday for the first time he said that he felt like he was high which is not a good feeling to have when you have to drive and work. So, instead he will now take them at night before bed with the hopes that that will help. I'd much rather him sleep off that feeling then to take the chance of injuring himself or god forbid someone else during a medication high.

As for myself my anxiety is still very high it seems to rise each time I come here for fear I will be judged and I have which is of course is no surprise to me since no one know the whole story. Sadly I will continue to be judged by people who think that they know me but until they walk a day in my shoes, pay my bills, live my life and know what takes place in my home they have no right to judge me or the decisions that I make on behalf of my family. We still have a long road to go before our hearts can let go of the losses and the pain within out household but we hope and pray that we are making the right choices for all involved and pray that all will be OK.

You know, you can sit here all day and say that people judge for no reason; but the fact remains that some of us actually READ what YOU WRITE. Here and on FB. Interestingly, some of the posts that painted a clear picture have been deleted. One thing you have not figured out yet, is that it is THE PUPS in your home I speak about...not you, not YOUR problems....We all have problems. I speak for the pups who have no voice.

You say you fear coming here...my question to you is why you come here if it is that unhealthy?. Is it to gain sympathy and make me out to be a bad guy? Seems to be my take on it.

All I can say is that we all must make tough decisions. That's life.

When a person sits here and pretty much draws a very clear picture that shows an animal is getting less than deserved I will ALWAYS say something...and it wouldn't matter if it was you or someone I personally know. I don't stand for seeing animals suffer. I actually offered to help one of them....Brandi...and you ignored me. Instead you euthanized her. Not that it was a wrong decision .. that was your choice but it only happened after you got called out on that thread where you were clearly not doing right by her.

I kept my mouth shut when you again drew a clear picture of how long it took to actually get Miah to a vet for care.... I avoided it. BUT to then come along and suggest that she should be rehomed because another pup was attacking her?? The same pup, Ruby, who was happy to "share" her litter with Miah in April???? If you ask me, it was an excuse, OR there was somethign wrong with Ruby because that would be a drastic change.

Ugh...enough of the poor me's please. Gets old

Oh, honey, just scary, bad, bad news. See if he can take his BP meds B4 bed - that helps side effects a lot. So sorry for all this happening to two so young. I'm praying fervently for you both! Courage - try to keep your chin up during this dark valley as folks are pulling for you and care for you both!