Hugs to you Dear Michelle,
Remember anytime :)
Love and prayers.Grannie Patti :)

I pray you can forgive him, I can understand where he's coming from, and I certainly can understand why you felt like that.

Just wanted to say that I watched and took care of my father as he went through these same feelings. You weren't being stupid sweetie you were being human! I'm so sorry that your husband did not have the strength and courage to help you fight through this. But it looks like GOD had other plans because you have a wonderful support group right here on YT!:)
Now I don't know you and you don't know me, but I just wanted you to know that I will be praying for you and am here if you ever need some encouragement or just an "ear".
I watched my father go through the radiation and chemotherapy etc. and I personally think you have earned the right to snap or feel anyway you want. It's okay to be sad, angry or whatever but when your done stand up brush yourself off look in the mirror and say "I am fearfully and wonderfully made and I love me and most importantly GOD loves me and I can handle this".
I would like to add you to our church prayer list if you don't mind. Please PM me your name so that we can call your name out before the Lord in prayer!
Take care :).

Michelle, WHY didn't you call me? Sweet heart you know I been through the whole Chemo, Rad's and everything in between.

I hope you found a wig you liked. I know I bought 3 of those darn things and only used each one once. In this Texas heat I found I was more comfortable wearing different scarves done up real pretty.

Also does your Cancer Center have the Look Good, Feel Pretty class? It really does wonders for you, and they should also have a person on hand that you can talk with you about feelings.

You do know that many prayers certainly continue for you. If you ever need to talk, you know all have to do is call.

Michelle, I am thinking of you and sending prayers.

My mother battled breast cancer. She wore the wig during the day and scarves at night. I think I would be like Vicki and go for the scarves. Do whatever is most comfy for you.

I saw your other thread about your plans for doggie spa day. You spoil your dogs nicely. It's nice to snuggle with fresh doggies afterwards. Enjoy!

Just now seeing this thread, Michelle. I'm really glad that you decided to open up about this journey, here on YT. It's a big burden to carry and we can all use more supporters and many more :hug: :ghug:

Praying DH has a change of heart, or that whatever happens is for the betterment of the family, not detriment.

I know you have had trials with DD19 as well. You also know that my story with DD (the same age) is similar. She is going through a lot emotionally right now too, and at 19, isn't yet hardwired to handle these things in an even close to mature way ;)

We all love you and are here to offer any support that you will accept :heart to

Now go spoil those babies and make them beautiful THEN go spoil YOURSELF. You are worth it :thumbup:

I didn't even tell you what happened Tuesday and yesterday, but I was mean mommy.

She bought her car from us in may when she moved out (because she's a grown up and we refused to treat her like one). I told her then she needed to transfer the title and get it in her name.
So, imagine my surprise when I go to the office and I'm opening all the stacks of mail that I've been ignoring and there is the registration renewal form, still in my name and address. So I texted her and asked about it. She says no, I haven't had the money to get it changed yet. I need the renewal so I can get my tags though, I'll come by and get it and my mail (4months worth)
I said no. You have had 4 months to get this done, and you would rather go get pedicures and go out to eat and go to 6-flags and rangers games then to spend your money on your PRIORITIES. You aren't getting the renewal, and you need to get the title transferred. (in Texas, whoever name the title is in and the registration belongs to is responsible for the vehicle-meaning hit and run, red light tickets, tolls, etc).
Her reply? I will when I have the money.

So, being the mean mom I am, who wants her to act like the grown up she wants to be, went and took the license plates off the car and told her she could obtain new plates by going to the local tax office and transferring the title and registering the car in her name and they would give her new plates.
(I checked with the tax office and local police first, to make sure I wasn't breaking any laws, and since the car is registered to me, it's technically my car and I can do whatever I want)

She deleted me off Facebook, blamed ME for not being able to drive to work or school and basically told me I don't want her to grow up and I am trying to hold her back. She tried to fight back when I told her I had thrown out her 4 months of mail by informing me it was a federal offense. I told her since she couldn't afford to change the car title, I wasn't too worried about her hiring an attorney to sue me.

So, if you were planning on presenting me with a mother of the year award, don't. Lol. I didn't earn one this year! I earned the my mom is a blt(h award instead. :)

I apologize in advance, but I guffawed out loud at that whole story. Been there done that, was presented that same award. In fact, I think I probably have about 19 of them :ladywinks

I especially love how she told you it was a Federal offense to throw out her 4 month old mail that she had abandoned :rockhard: :sfunslap:

Yup got the same award several years in a row!!!! I 'threw her out'...she was 24years old at the time and a full time nurse!!! That one earned me the silent treatment for 3mths. Got deleated off Facebook and her Blackberry messenger...Well I had peace for a few months anyway.... I will nominate you anyway...you definatley earned it!

I found this really great site for wigs and other products for cancer survivors.

TLC Direct


Hope you day is going well !

I cannot believe your daughter is putting you through this while you are going through all that you are! Just can't believe it. And with your husband acting like he did - well, my heart breaks for you. This is beyond the pale, girl!

Yes this is great place to buy from. I bought many things myself from there at the time. I still get the catalogues.

I thought I had told Michele about it.

You don't have to apologize for anything. It's very unfortunate that the man you trusted the most couldn't deal with his emotions, his fears, and was self-centered running throught the door when he spotted difficulties. Just remember that if he does this, he is not worth it. The only one that matters now is YOU. Concentrate on your well being.

Take care, hold on to faith, and I wish you can find peace of mind and acceptance, then strength to fight. Take that negative situation as a strength-booster.

I would tell her I was writing "Return to Sender" any uncollected mail over a week old and let her deal with getting address changes done. Taking care of those little things helps one to grow up.

Kids! They are so much fun when little,then they turn into teens. They LOOK like adults,they legally have some of the adult privilages,but the wiring just isnt connected yet.
Michelle you are doing what is right for you and her,therefore you owe no apology. You are a great mom! You have a mom's heart! Sometimes the right thing to do is not the easy thing to do,but in the end it pays the best.

Michelle as a child I watched my Mom battle cancer. I know first hand how horrible it was for her. She never let any of us see her without her wig. I applaud your courage and strength. You have every right to feel anyway you want. We are all here to support you. I will be praying for you.

All while not registering her car, which is ILLEGAL
Lol. Kids!!!

And this is why I text you lol!

I am just speechless. I can not wrap my mind around the daughter thing.....the cancer thing....and then, the husband thing. Look at how strong you are lady!!! You are still upright, and handling issues with your daughter, with gusto and deliberation! All I can say, two things that come to mind ....He wont put any more on us than we can handle....sometimes I have been known to look to the heavens and announce loudly He may be giving me too much credit for too much strength, that I have reached my load limit and He can reach down and help me just anytime now!!!.....the second thing that comes to mind....He will open doors for you as others close behind you. And He moves people out of your path that are impeeding your progress....stay strong, journaling is a wonderful idea, and pray....give it all over to Him and let Him work it for you. I will continue to pray for you, God bless your heart.....

Proud of you! You are certainly not an enabler and do understand about the trials and tribulations of a young adult daughter that has problems taking responsibility for things.

I do not know you either but I am so sorry for all you are going through and I admire you for your strength to have treatments and even have the desire to be here online and share your horrible situation!! First of all your husband is a real ******* you may not think so right now but you are better off without him and he doesn't deserve you whether you are sick or healthy!! Go online to PaulaYoung.com and get you a cute wig and make yourself feel better about yourself when you look in the mirror because I see you from the inside and you are beautiful. Trust in God and know whatever happens you are going to be better off in the end no matter how things turn out you are a survivor!! My thoughts and prayers are with you and I don't even know you so I am sure that your family and friends love you dearly and you are one special person!! Hang in there!! You are a winner!!

Dear Michelle, all I can say about the daughter situation is,
"YOU ARE ONE TERRIFIC GREAT MOM"
I have much admiration for you. Sometimes taking a stand with situations in tough times helps one to be stronger and gives us the gusto to push on, please be right and ready for the wonderful times God has planned for you ahead.
You have what it takes to beat this and whatever confronts you.
I continually am lifting you in prayer and also your family.

Something I have learnt in my ole life, during hardships and life's challenges I have found out who in family are there for me and also my supposedly close friends, sad to quote how many this is, but all are loved just the same, I come out with the mind over matter I am not one with a problem but they are, LOVE is the GREATEST GIFT from God. HIS will see you through whatever you are dealt with. YT has so many wonderful folks and their love and prayers are genuine, grab hold with each one Michelle and keep pushing on.
Hugs your adopted Grannie Patti and Grammpie Jack