just have to get something off my chest
 

Have you ever noticed when someone posts a thread how it just takes off in a completely different direction? Just one little word can throw people into a tizzy! This is a site that is SUPPOSED to bring people together with their likes and dislikes. We are not all the same...what kind of world would this be if we were..BOOOOORIIIIING!! So somebody uses a word that somebody doesn't like...SO WHAT! if it offends you don't read the rest of the post! We are ALL guilty of doing this at one time or another...I don't think it's right to get so upset with a person and make them feel like crap...I have read ALOT of posts on here that I didn't agree with or made me angry...instead of making my thoughts public...I kept them to myself and carried on to the next post.

I'm sure I am going to get blasted for this but, this is how I am feeling right now...I just needed to vent about this..

Thanks for listening.

well you can't make everyone happy and some people take things the wrong way or way to personally but we can't help how others are.

I absolutley couldn't agree with you more. I just feel bad when someone posts something and it gets totally out of control. I'm sure that person must feel horrible, especially when they didn't think they said anything wrong. Then they get ganged up on...I have seen this happen with many posts then, the original post never gets answered or responded to.

I can totally relate, for the most part I read, and move on, and somethings I stay hidden because I am to afraid to say anything due to being up at, we are all adults and like you said we all allowed to have our own opinions, this is what makes one and all special. But all in all there are alot of very nice and thoughtful ladies here, and I want you to know you are great!

I could not agree more!! It happened to me. I said something and everybody felt offended. From now one I keep writing after my sentences (I do not mean to offend anyone! ) :rolleyes:

This exact same thing happened with one of my threads this week and I've seen it happen to many others. It's unfortunate.

I think a lot of the problem here is that we're all SO passionate about yorkies and their care that sometimes we get a little carried away. We forget that for the most part, the users here are the people out there who DO take care of their yorkies and love them unconditionally. We shouldn't be beating up on each other!

Thank you :) you are very nice for saying that! I wasn't sure what to expect when I wrote this...I have been a member for a while now and read 100's of posts. There are ALOT of very nice, helpful, kind, thoughtful people on the site and when someone makes one "politically incorrect" comment or word it bothers me to see what happens.

Brenda,

I totally agree with you. When I joined in July I did not see alot of this, I also went through some of the old, old threads trying to educate myself on what exactly happened to Phoebe and see if anyone else had experianced it. I did not see any what I would call blasting. But lately there seems to be alot of it and I am not sure what turned the tide(so to speak). The one thing I know for sure is that it is hard to see emotion in black and white and sometimes people take it wrong and get upset and then it just goes from there.
I am pretty sure there are people on this site that are upset with me because Annie is in a coffee cup,(now we all know that there is no such thing as teacup yorkies, but what about coffe cup yorkies? Just kidding lol:p ) but that is the picture that I have, I can not figure out how to get the other pictures out of my program and onto this site.

Brenda I also want to thank you for bringing this up, I have wanted to, but frankly I was to afraid. So to you I say.....Way to go :p

I think the picture of her in the coffee cup is adorable!! We have pictures of Autumn in my husbands shirt pocket when we first brought her home!

I think we all have to remember that not everyone buys into political correctness. And we have to also remember that we are only responsible for ourselves and not for others.

Thank you:) This is something I've wanted to say for some time now but, like you was afraid to. To tell you the truth I am surprised I am receiving so many positive responses! Maybe it's making people think? I have noticed as well that things seem to get heated more quickly now...I don't know why. I posted this because of one particular post I read tonight...It was like....THAT'S IT!! People have to stop being so sensitive and stop reading into things so much...we are all going to have different views on things and say things that are not "the right thing to say" ...Well, sorry we are not all perfect! Again...thank you :)

And by the way...your "coffee cup" yorkie is absolutely adorable!

I think the picture of her in the coffee cup is adorable!! We have pictures of Autumn in my husbands shirt pocket when we first brought her home! Willow


Thank you Brenda & Willow. We can not wait to get her, she needs to make it to 2# before the breeder will release her. As of Friday she was 1# 8oz.

Having been on the receiving end of some of those posts, I can tell you it is not pleasant. At one time I felt like I was being attacked by a pack of dogs, only I think the dogs would not have been so relentless.

I explained myself over and over yet there were a few who insisted that I meant what they thought I meant and not what I really meant. I had asked a simple questions about something I had read in a book about a method of euthanizing a newborn puppy with a birth defect.

All I can say is those people don't usually last long, because eventually everyone gets their number and stops responding to them, so they move on to another forum.

It's a natural form of selective reduction.

well I'm glad you posted this too, I was thinking about saying something but I still consider myself a newbie yet and didnt want to hurt anyones feelings but..............
lately when i have time to sit and read I see alot of arguing as I call it......for use of the wrong words or explaining things wrong..or someone just didnt like what the poster said .so I read and read and really I dont post much anymore...not like I was..kinda afraid to lol so I figured it will pass.....
maybe its because summer is over...here comes winter....you know I heard peoples moods change with the seasons....maybe thats it.....
But, I do like it here very much, I have learned so much from all of you and I sure do appriciate it :)

Thank you! They do have lights for people with seasonal depression...My daughter calls them "happy lightbulbs"! My son in law has this as well as my husband. Maybe we should start sending some out lol!

I agree! and you are right! some seem to come on here and do just that! Cause an argument. And usually they haven't been a member for very long. (hated to say that!)

You know....I thought after 9/11 people would change and become more understanding and not reading into things...to come together more (I guess is what I want to say) but, it hasn't.

Good post!

I think this has even been mentioned before on here. Some people think that everything is there way or the highway, and everyone needs to bow down to them. We just gotta learn to ignore them, no matter how hard it is sometimes!

About Seasonal Depression Disorder, I think I got that! I always get hyped up when the weather turns warm, and just wanna go out and party. This week is got really cold, like 40's in the morning (and it's only going to get worse) And the other day I really felt depressed. I got my baby to cheer me up though!

Brenda,

I totally agree with you as well. There are times that people's opinions receive all kinds of unfair judgment. I've always loved YT for the fact that I can come here, find useful information about my Yorkie and also read about others. I like the diversity and different personalities - it makes this site great. Unfortunately a few negative comments can really hurt people and ruin things for everyone.

I've had times where I've been so angry about a comment that I either just sign off or I come close to posting a nasty reply. I think on some issues - there will always be someone who made a mistake. But that's how we learn! And this site can help us ALL learn.

This is a really good post.... I usually don't put my two cents in, but I did the other day cause I really get tried of people coming on here and trying to start stuff...I have most of the time felt like this is a place to learn, discuss and make friends with people that are as crazy about their furbabies as me. Lately if you ask a question, and your not standard or maybe have something usually different you can get bomded..I just wish that some of the people that start this would realize that most of us are here because of the love with have for animals and not treat some like we are stupid or not perfection...There is no need of being rude if you ask a question....:)

Thank you for starting this thread. I quit posting for a bit because I got crucified for saying something that meant nothing but I read a post quickly, made a "first thought in my head" response since no one had responded to the original post, but by the time I got it posted, others had. It was then that I realized I shouldn't have said what I said and tried to edit it, but it was too late. There was nothing I could do but hope it just got read over but someone caught it and WHAM. I now feel like an outcast simply because I was not aware of the situation. I think people sometimes read too fast and misinterpret things that are said in complete innocense. But instead of just giving someone the benefit of doubt and letting it go, they have to blast the person, embarrass the heck out of them, make them feel small and belittled, and hurt their feelings. I've noticed alot more bitterness in some of the responses like these and it is unfair to those who are only expressing an opinion - the opinion they are entitled to - or making a statement. Nobody deserves to get crucified on YT. (Yeah, this will probably get me blasted again. :) )
CAN'T WE ALL JUST GET ALONG?

I was wondering were you was? I for one are glad you have come back on :)

I wasn't going to say much....I've seen it ALL here :p - and think for the most part -this site does really really good considering how big it is...(there are some other sites that are way worse). I don't agree with totally bashing someone - but sometimes a thread can really interesting when people are seeing opposite ends of things - that's how people learn...you take what you want - and leave what you don't need.

but things DO go off track sometimes and to me - that's just normal....Look at it this way - when's the last time you and 2 women friends got together and STAYED on a subject ? :p :p :p :p

I think 99% of the time - the threads do stay on topic - its just the few that get a little heated that people remember and FLOCK to. It's funny - we see people saying they don't like it - but those are the threads that always.... and I mean ALWAYS.... get the most views. It's our version of Yorkie Reality TV

Thank you Dragonfly. I really didn't think I would be missed. I don't know why people react to things so quickly. I don't say anything if I disagree for fear of what might happen, but to just say something, that around here, is said constantly and have it blown out of proportion is ridiculous. I love this place and came here because of the caring and compassion of most members. I have learned so much here. I probably would have killed Roxy by now if it weren't for this place. I have always had outside mutts that never needed pampering. They never got sick either. So I would have treated Roxy the same way. Table scraps, all the stuff she shouldn't have, but really wants. Thank goodness she has been healthy because I never knew about all the things that they are prone to or that can happen, like hypoglycemia or collapsed trachea. But now I know what to watch for. Today she threw up white foam and a furball! Took me a little by surprise until a tried to get something out of her mouth a little later and she was guarding it with her life. I chased her all over the house and yard before I finally caught her and she had a huge fur mat off our cat. I have been trimming the mats he gets every fall but I can only do a few at a time. She got ahold of a piece of one and got it out. She must have thought she had a genuine vermine - she was tearing into that thing something fierce. I threw it in the garbage and she went right in after it. OOPS, got sidetracked again. Anyway, I spend all my free time here and most of the time I should be busy, here, too. LOL I am just sorry people get so upset over something being said. I guess since I am not the only one who has had a target painted on me, I will get my fingers back to typing. Thank you again, Dragonfly. It feels better not being alone.:)

I do understand what you are talking about V but, I am refering to a particular post that I read yesterday...where the poster used a "politically incorrect" word(not meaning anything by it) and that's all it took. I just didn't think it was fair how it got handled and it made the poster feel bad.

I know what your talking about, it mostly happens to the newbies. It happened to me when I first joined. Some just think they know it all and this world is just too big to know it all, you can learn something new everyday if your open to it.

Sometimes I will even side with the newbies even if I don't agree on what they are saying. I will just agree with them because I hate when they all gang up on one person, I guess it makes them feel special, that they belong somewhere :rolleyes:. This one post just got way OUT OF CONTROL when this lady said she sells her puppies at 6 weeks. Where did all the attacking prove, the lady still got all her puppies sold and ended her membership here on YT.

When I see those kinds of posts now I just go to a different thread. V is right though those are the threads that get the most views but, although there are those crazy threads there is alot of good stuff and nice people here YT. I know I view them just see who are the most rude and think they know it all, so when I ask a question I will know who to stay away from.

I wish we could all just get along if you don't agree on something so be it explain it to the person in a way that is not rude and leave it alone, don't keep going back and posting rude comments. If the person starts getting rude after you nicely told them you did not agree then be the bigger person and walk away (or should I say go to another thread).

Sorry just had to vent along with you

Was it the dreaded 'T' word ???? :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek:


most of us know I mean (teacup)...... I think. but when some things are said in passing - you're right - that doesn't mean someone has to get bashed for it - Educated maybe - but not Run out of Town before Sunset.....

See Villette is one of the reasons I stick around here she is one of the nice ones on YT and makes it fun, and if she does not agree with something she will explain it to them in a nice way. She doesn't start making little rude comments.

Brenda,

You're completely not out of line for thinking this way. I agree that we're all adults and should be mature about it. My boyfriend is on another forum all the time and people get their panties in a wad over retarded things.

Kudos to you for being the one to bring it up! :thumbup:

I TOTALLY agree with that.

Though I have seen you get a "little" angry at...someone...( ;) )...sometimes V, but that's only cuz I've been around here for a while. :p

But I agree with this thread. We all need to sip hot chocolate while sitting around the campfire singing "Kumbayah"! :p Seriously though, we should all be nice to each other. I come to this site to get AWAY from the drama of the real world!

I know things can get heated here...but I also know we are a great group of people. I love this forum and all of you here. I love that I can come here and chat about my furbabies and know that each of you feel as passionate about your dogs and I do about mine. I am probably guilty of saying the wrong thing but if I see that I did I will pm the person and apologize as what I meant to say usually comes out wrong and I certainly wouldnt want to offend ANYONE or hurt anyones feelings. I respect all of your opinions and learn so much from each and everyone of you!!! Time for a group hug!!

Dawn

hahaha Megan - oh yes...I remember well - and remember some pretty good posts by you too sweetie - :p :p I think that's the only person I EVER saw that pushed so many peoples buttons and loved every minute of it....Lucky for us - that's not normal for boards ...but yes... I know just what you mean.

I guess that's why I think the site is so much better - we may have a few thread here and there that get a little heated - but not the constant debates over and over by the same person like before....