I need some honest advice please.
 

My beloved Dixie was killed today. I am absolutely devastated.

She was only 6 months old and we went out of town for about a week. Our breeder that we bought her from pet sits, so whenever we go out of town, we leave her with her. Well, she was about to bring her home and was carrying her to her car and Dixie jumped out of her hands and ran in the street and was hit by a car. She died immediately.

I understand that accidents happen. I honestly do. But of course this was my baby, so I am totally devastated. Dixie was the sweetest thing ever and I am hurting so bad to have her back.

I don't even want to think of another dog at the moment. Dixie was everything a dog could ever be-and she can't be replaced. But I can't get something out of my head. The breeder said to me "I will sell you another dog for half off." Here I was being so super understanding-and she first of all brings up another dog, and then offers it to me for half off? Am I being unreasonable to think that she might offer me another dog from a future litter? If I am, please just tell me. I don't even care right now, I just want my Dixie back. I just can't believe it. I am so in shock.

I know accidents happen, so I am not mad at her, but I don't know what to think. Any thoughts?

How horrible!!!! I am so sorry that this happened to you.

The only advice I can give you is to take your time. Allow yourself to heal completely before you buy a rebound dog.

Best wishes!

How awful! I am so sorry for your loss.

I'm very sorry for your loss! You must be heartbroken! I'm sending prayers and hugs to you and your family.

I am so sorry about what happened.

I am so very very sorry. This is so awful, by heart aches for you.
It wasn't the right time for the breeder to bring it up, but really she probably just didn't know what to say and the wrong thing came out. She probably feels so bad too and would like to do something to make it right, and this is the awful thing that popped out of her mouth.
Again, I am so sorry for you loss.:cry:

I am very sorry for your loss and even thought you have only had her a short time they worm their ways into our hearts very quickly, and please know that you are being thought about in this time of your loss!

Thanks everyone. I am just devastated.

I will keep reading the responses to this thread, but I doubt I will be around much otherwise. It is SO hard to see pictures of little precious yorkies when my baby is gone.

What a horrible thing to happen. I am so sorry for your loss. As for the breeder, I think she should have given you some time to accept what happened and grieve a little before she even mentioned another dog. I can't imaging how much you must be hurting right now. Hugs and prayers to you and your family.

My heart breaks for you! I don't know how I would react in that situation and no matter how you feel or what you write, it comes from your heart and that's never wrong.

I'm sure the breeder is feeling horrible too and blaming herself for the accident. Take your time in healing. You will know when you are ready open your heart to another puppy. When the time comes, call the same breeder. I'm certain she will be more than happy to hear from you and it would help both of you heal from your terrible loss.

My prayers are with you.

I am so very sorry for your loss. Tears are streaming down my face. I cannot imagine your pain and sorrow. Allow time to grieve and heal.... Please please know that you have a huge family here that knows the pain of losing a Yorkie baby. We are here for you.....:ghug:


About the comment the breeder made.....it is possible that she, too, is hurting and something stupid just slipped out of her mouth. Shock and grief makes us say things sometimes that we wouldn't ordinarly say.

I'm so sorry for the loss of your Dixie. I've felt the sting of unexpectedly losing my boy Boog...I know how you feel...I'm sending hugs and prayers your way. :girl_hug:

OMG That's horrible ! I'm so sorry....That's just awful to hear :( :( :( Bless her heart - and yours too - I know you must be wanting to take back time and have your Dixie back with you.

At the risk of sounding insensitve - did that breeder really feel bad ? I know she must have felt guilty... but my God - to talk about selling you another ???? She should be GIVING you another ...and trying to make another sale when she was solely responsible for the well being and safety of YOUR puppy is a bit coldhearted in my opinion.

and as far as being upset - you're a bigger woman than I am - I realize accidents happen -
but have a hard time understanding how someone who pet sits can let something like that happen. :( :( :(

Sorry....I know you're hurting and dont want to make you feel worse. But in time ...if you think another puppy will help fill the void in your heart ....I think the breeder owes it to you to do all she can to help you....If it weren't for her ...you'd still have your Dixie.

I'm really really sorry for your loss. Your Dixie sounds like she was very loved ...& she is just adorable in your avatar......my heart goes out to you.

First and foremost, I am so sorry for the loss of Dixie. I can tell that she was truely loved.

Ok, I will be completely honest with you and its my opinion so here goes...

If I were in your position, I would totally be mad at the pet sitter even though - yes mistakes do happen but you really can't help it but to place blame. you know that you SHOULDN'T be mad at her but sometimes you can't help it. On top of letting go of your dog, since she's a breeder that you buy from. she should've offered you a free pup IF you wanted one. Out of all people, she should know how it feels to lose a dog.

I'm not saying my opinion is right but I'm being completely honest.

Aww, gosh, I am so sorry. You are being very understanding to this woman considering the circumstance of such a horrible accident. I am truely so sorry you are having to go through this.

YES YES YES....I was writing my post while you posted so I didn't get to read it. I totally agree!

How horrible....I'm so sorry for your loss of Dixie.:cry8: I pray that you will be given strength to cope. If you need us, you know we're always here to listen. (((HUGS))

Karen

RIP DIXIE :rbyorkie:

God bless



...............There are no words

Thanks so much for understanding. I am crying so hard right now.

I am mad. I am pissed. Dixie never got out of my arms. Never. We never had a problem with her getting loose from us. I was upset, and tried to be understanding, but I will be honest, I am so so mad. But I also do understand accidents can happen, but I am still floored that she mentioned selling me another pup. (for half off)

She was my baby! And she is gone. And won't come back. I can't deal with that. Why did this happen?

I agree with you V. She should be offering another puppy, not selling one. This is not the time for another puppy anyway. I also agree that I cannot possibly understand how someone who is an experienced yorkie owner could allow a puppy to jump out of their arms. You know, as do I, that you have to hold them very securely.

I am very sorry that you have lost your baby this way. It is tragic and heartbreaking. I know that your heart will be left with a great big hole in it. What a sad way to end a vacation.

first of all let me say, even though we all say we are TRUELY sorry for your loss. Only a percentage of us know what it's like to lose one of our beloved pets. I know you are suffering and need to grieve in order to get through this.
But when the timing is right and if you do decide to get another furbaby, she owes it to you to just give you one. If I was in her place I would feel horrible and want to make up for it any way I could. Either money or pup. I can't believe it happened first of all, but my baby almost got hit by a car tonight as well. So I don't have alot of room to talk, but I do think you need to have a serious talk with your sitter (breeder) when you have had time.
But we wish you the best and hope you will feel better soon. If you need to talk you know we are all here to listen. We are one big happy family afterall....:ghug:

BIG BIG HUGS TO YOU !! You just let it out....I don't really know what to say to help you but if you need to talk - we're here....I feel so bad for you, I really do. I don't want to make you cry worse...I wanted you to have her picture for your memories. If it's too hard to look at - I apologise....:( She was just precious....

Rest in Peace Sweet Baby...and fly with the angels

It did make me cry, but thank you for doing that. It truly touched my heart. She was my precious girl. She would just wiggle when she saw ANYONE. She just loved to be loved. Nothing can bring her back and that is what hurts so bad. :(

I am so sorry for your loss too. My heart aches for you, I've not lost a young dog before, but I've lost several along the way. I know it hurts. It takes awhile to be able to not ache, for me at least. I agree with what some others said. I think the breeder felt somewhat responsible and said the first thing she could think of to make you feel better and as a breeder, that was all she could think of, or the first thing. I think she should have waited to bring that up and WHEN she did, it should be FREE, not as a replacement for Dixie, but as a big I"M SORRY. Shoot, she should have just offered a refund right then and there if she doesn't have any CLASS at all!!! I'm sorry she said such a thing to you. I truly am!!! I'm praying for comfort for you tonight.

She was precious, and I'm so so sorry that this happened.

I'm sorry if this question brings more pain but....were you allowed to see her, or to have her body, in order to say goodbye, and have closure?

Again, my most sincere sympathy. These dogs are our BABIES, and it's so hard to think about something so awful happening to them.

Have to say, these would be my thoughts and feelings as well. I don't know if it would be the RIGHT way to feel, but I think it would be the HUMAN way to feel.

Maybe it's easy to say, when I'm NOT a breeder....but if I WAS....I def. think that I would have offered to replace her out of my first litter, and given you first pick. I mean, this was a service you were paying for, that she supposedly specializes in...if you were "that kind" of person, she could be looking at a lawsuit. Maybe that's what she was afraid of, and was trying to head it off by talking (immediately!) about giving you a "bargain" on another pup.

Ugh. It's not fair that these helpless and frustrated feelings of anger have to interfere with your grieving process. HUGS from us all, as we all remember your baby angel, may she romp in peace.

She did offer for me to come and see her. But I couldn't. Is that bad? I couldn't see her like that. I want to remember her wiggling, barking, loving, licking, cuddling. I can't remember her like this, it would hurt too bad. I called the cremation service to come pick her up. My breeder did offer to pay, but then quickly said "How much is it going to be, $100?" I don't care if she pays for it or not, the dog deserves a proper cremation.

I want to wake up and realize that this was an awful nightmare. But it isn't.

I want to curl up and sleep this off, but the pain will never go away.

I just wanted to say I'm very sorry for your lost...((Hugs to you))

Sorry for your loss. :(

I\'m so sorry for your loss :(

I think the breeder was just trying to think of how she can help you, but others are right: she should offer you a dog for free. But I still think it was too soon of her to suggest getting a new dog right away. She should\'ve waited awhile.

No, that\'s not bad....everyone grieves in a different way.

I confess, I was just being a suspicious old cynic, wondering if that actually WAS what happened to your dog. I\'m sorry if that makes you feel insulted on behalf of your breeder...obviously I don\'t know the woman. But there are just so many crooked people out there. :(

Again, I\'m so sorry this happened to your baby.