My brother passed away yesterday
 

I never knew him. Never met him. He was my brother from my dad's side...my dad re-married after he left my mom and i never saw him again. He had a son with his new wife. Robert. Well, my sister was also from that marriage but she was put up for adoption and during the time she was up for adoption, my grandmother (on my mom's side) took her in. My sister and My Granny were extremely close their entire lives. You couldn't tell them that they weren't related!!! I was raised with my sister and we were soooooo close. I know this is a confusing story...but bear with me :)

I just got the call from my sister. Her and Robert met when she was 18. I think he was around 16 or so. They immediately grew very close to each other. They became best friends. She would travel to Idaho to visit him, and he would travel to Oklahoma to visit her. They were inseparable. He was born with liver diseases...his parents were heavy alcoholics and drug users, even during pregnancy. He wasn't expected to live more than 2 years. But he did. He lived until he was 20. My sister called this morning to let me know that he died yesterday. She is trying to get the money to go to his funeral, i am going to try and help as much as I can. She is pretty torn up about all of this. I never knew him, but I am sad. I am sad for him and for my sister. And more angry than ever at my father and his wife. They doomed their child. I just can't care an ounce for either of them. I don't see how they could do that to their baby. I thank God that my sister did not have to go through that. Thankfully, she is perfectly healthy.

I just wanted to get this off of my chest. I am not sure how I should be feeling right now...but I am sad about it. I wish I had known him...but I didn't. I didn't even know he was still alive until he was 16 and I was told then that he could die any day. I just never knew anything about him. Except his name.

Thanks for letting me get this out....

Awe, I am soo sorry. I am praying for everyone in your family and his!

I am so sorry for the loss of your brother. What a shame the two of you
never got a chance to meet. He was so young to pass away. Your's is
truly a very sad story. I guess we all have a story to tell and wish things
could have been different. Never knowing him dosen't make it hurt any less.
Knowing what could have been must be painful to you. I am sure the
two of you will meet someday.
Sincerely,

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sending prayers your way for you and your family!

you are so sweet. it does hurt. I never thought it would because I didn't know him. But I did love him. it might sound crazy to some...but to me...he was still my brother, even tho we never got the pleasure of meeting.

Mandee I am so sorry for your loss. Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

I am sorry for your loss

Sorry for the loss....

I am so sorry to hear this! Very sad. You are a very compassionate, kind person - and this comes out in all of your posts, as it does here. I wish you some moments of serenity in all of this. All the best to you and your family.

I am very sorry for your loss :(

I'm so sorry you didn't get to know him, and for your loss. I'm glad your sister atleast got a chance at a good life. Prayers coming your way.

I am so sorry for your loss. :(

I'm so very sorry for your loss. :( I'm even more sorry that you never got to meet him. We've never met in person but I can tell you're a very kind and funny person. I'm sure you both would have been very close. I wish you and your sister all the best of luck during this difficult time. If you need someone to talk to or just plain vent, please PM me.

im so sorry sweetie for your loss..

I'm so sorry! I am sending prayers your way!

Mandee I'm so sorry. How sad he had such a short life because of his parents.

This must be a hard time for you and your sister. I hope you find peace with this and am sending caring thoughts your way.

So sorry for your loss and sending tons of prayers your way from Ohio. You are going through a lot right now - so if you need to vent - you do it here on YT. :(

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Even though you never met him, it hurts to lose a part of your family. Sending hugs

I'm so sorry for your loss.
We will keep you and your family
in our Thoughts & Prayers.

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The fact that you are sad says so much about you. It tells us how kind and caring you are. I'm so sorry you are going through this and I hope that you will take comfort from the kindness and support you will offer your sister. You may have never met your brother but you knew him. Your sister had to have told you many things about him. Just the fact that he was there is enough for you to love him though - that is how special you are. Thanks for sharing your story with us.

Sometimes you don't have to know a full or half sibling to have that connection. I'm so sorry his life was cut so short. I know your sister is very hurt, but I'm sure his parents are feeling a very deep loss and maybe even some quilt. I will say a prayer for everyone who is suffering.

so sorry to hear of the loss .... things can really get scrambled when people change partners ... You seem to be okay otherwise. Just be strong for your sister ....

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Sorry for your loss, I will keep you and your family in my thought and prayers!

thank you! you are all very very sweet.

I am so sorry for your loss. You have every right to feel sad (and angry). Even if you never met him there is still a connection. Prayers are with you and your family.

So sorry Hon. Thankfully you have each other to get through this hard time.

It always amazes me how selfish some people can be. Thankfully you all grew up to be good people and your dad's influence/issues didn't spoil things for you.

Hugs from Zoeybear and a yorkie kiss too.

Mandee,

I am so sorry to learn about your brother's death. Prayers for you and your sister and the rest of the family. I'm sure that part of the hurt is all the what ifs and what it would have been like - if you had had the opportunity to know him. I am so sorry he had such a difficult life. Thankful his body is at rest now and his spirit can live without that pain.

Your in my prayers:hands: :hands:

I am so sorry. SOunds like your sister can use your support