Im going to be single forever!!!
 

Why is it that EVERY single man I go out with turns into a jerk? Either they lie to me about themselves, their feelings towards me, what theyre looking for. I dont get it.....im not a terrible person. I am an intelligent, attractive, funn compassionate woman....but all I get is jerks. Every time I think its different it just turns into the same thing over and over. Im seriously at the point of giving up. After my last break up I said that if I get hurt again thats it - im never dating again. So I guess thats it.....25 and going to be alone forever. How pathetic is that??

At least you realize that they are jerks and leave them alone!! You'll find the right one when you least expect it! ;)

Hon your not going to be alone forever. It really does seem to happen when you least expect it. Enjoy yourself, hobbies, friends, family etc and don't dwell on it. There is definitely someone out there for everyone. Your young yet to start worrying.

I guess im just impatient...but it does seem like guys my age are just looking for one thing...

My 22 year old dtrs last BF turned out to be a big jerk after 3 1/2 years togther and that has been 2 1/2 years ago and she hasn't found a single decent person to even date.

Your lucky that you find these things out "before" your married. You shouldn't be "looking" for a life-long mate. Just have fun being single. Being single isn't so bad. Living with someone is the hardest job you will ever have, so don't rush into it. ;)

You will really find the right person when you least expect it...When you stop looking, it will happen :)

not married
 

I dont think its pathetic!!!! I am 48 and never been married. Yep, I met all the jerks too. But please dont think you have to be married to define yourself!!!!!!!! Just be yourself, do what interests you, dont wait around for ANY man!!!!!! Follow your own dreams. If one is truely interested in you, he will wait for you. Hope that helps a little!!!Lynn

It really does. Thank you! It's just very frustrating, I know having a man does not define me, but it would still be nice to have a close relationship with someone...besides Buster :)

Seriously she's right! Don't wait around for any man, they will def. take notice that you are looking for someone. It's when you are not looking and don't give a care that they take notice in you and actually want to work hard to get you, so have fun, take some dance classes just for fun, go swimming, idk do whatever, just have fun! :)

not married
 

The more I am around men, the better I love my Yorkies!!!!LOL Yes, its frustrating and lonely sometimes. I want to marry a truck driver. They are gone most of the time and they send the paycheck home!!!!LOL Good luck, and dont be in a hurry!!!!!

I'm now 26 and I DON'T date guys my age. I find 5 years and above my age to be most appealing...give it a go! ;)

oh, i long for the single days sometimes. It was so nice to be able to make decisions on my own...and just to be able to drive without a "back seat driver". i could go on and on and on.

but then again...I remember how lonely I was for those 4 years. I longed for someone to ask me how my day was when I got home. I longed to have someone take care of me when I was sick.

I have those things now...but the "how was your day" is usually followed up with "well, this is how you could make it better", or, "this is what you did wrong". and when I'm sick...yes, he will bring me what he thinks will make me feel better...and I get my head rubbed when I have a headache...but I still don't get rest. I am still bothered to no end when I try and stay in bed when I am sick "Honey, where is this..." "Honey....Maggie did this..."

sheesh...it's late and I'm in a cranky mood...maybe I shouldn't respond to threads like this...I get on a kick where i convince myself I should not have gotten married LOL

but I do understand where you are coming from. I clearly remember those days. I hope you find exactly what you are looking for. My only advice...DON'T SETTLE. keep going until you find EXACTLY what you are looking for :)

Stop looking and the right one will find you. I'd rather be alone at 25 then with some jerk, and 4 kids.

4? How about just ONE and a jerk? ha ha

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you should date nerdy guys....they are probably the ones that will treat you the best :)

i used to have the idea that I needed to date the "hot" guys. i had a standard and I stuck to it. but you know, they all think they can do better...no matter who they are with. they are always looking out to see if there is something better out there. it's sad. so i met my nerdy husband :) yes, i have a hard time being married...because I am stubborn, independent, and very moody. but he adores me. he really does. i'm not saying it's because he couldn't do any better...i'm sure he could. but i'm saying that he was ready for a committed relationship. he wasn't on the look for the better looking person that might be out there. he was very happy to meet someone and allowed himself to love them. and allowed someone to love him back. a lot of the big macho guys out there....they may feel like they love or care for someone...but they won't allow themselves to REALLY feel it...and express it.

i am not trying to stereotype, but that is what I ran into during my 4 years of being alone. :) I'm sure there are some extremely good looking, macho men that are amazing husbands. :) I just couldn't find one LOL

Sounds like you have run into a few jerks! Too bad you don't live here in Atlanta! My brother is single (and if he was ever a jerk he would have to answer to his big sister ;) )! LOL!

hahahaha. TOO funny :)

Be careful for what you wish for! Enjoy your single life.

I so agree!!! :thumbup:

If you are happy in you life and with yourself. EVERYTHING else will fall into place. Just be greatful that the jerk showed his true colors before you married him or spent years with him.

I was at the same place you were a few years ago. And you know what I did? I became my own best friend. I asked myself, how was your day? I learned that I don't have to go to others for advice or support when I can really hold myself up. Granted, I have some great friends, and loved spending the time with them, but I had to learn that there isn't anything I can't handle, and I don't need anyone to support me emotionally. It made all of my friendships better, because we weren't friends out of necessity, but out of desire. And it was also wonderful to know that when I met a guy, he only had the potential to be my friend. They all knew that I wasn't going to pursue romantic interests at that time in my life. And don't you really want a guy who is a friend first, and then more? Once I stopped looking for it, got my head on strait, and started pursuing what I wanted, then it fell in my lap. And trust me, I fought it tooth and nail, told this guy I didn't want to go out with him, but he didn't give up, and he is wonderful. I can't tell you how thankful I am for the time I gave to myself and no one else, it has changed who I am today, and made me ready for the relationship I am in.

Girl, I am almost 25, and I don't feel the need to be married. My brother is almost 33, and he isn't married. And it was hard for him to spend 12 years out of highschool without anyone, but he is a better man for it. Hmm, maybe you should date my brother... ;)

I got married at 20 then divorced a year later. I didnt get married again untl I was 34. There were many times I thought I might be single forever, but that was fine with me. I had learned to spend time alone and enjoy it. I am happily married now, but it is like everyone else said, I wasnt looking for love. It found me. Go on trips, take a class, concentrate on you and what makes you happy, you will find there is more to life that you enjoy besides a man. Hang in there!!

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Okay I had to chuckle at this one! Don't tell my DH, but he is a very smart and intelligent NERD, with the biggest heart you will ever find. But, he is my night in shining armor. Now, remember...not telling DH...

i won't tell if you don't tell mine LOL

;) It's a deal...(lol)

You guys really do crack me up. :) :) It feels good to have somewhere to talk to and complain about things without having someone point out nonsense (which is what my friends tell me) But I understand what you are all saying and I am going to TRY to focus on myself and better myself. And if that doesnt work then i'll just become a nun! :D

LMAO.....okay ladies, now go google your screen names!!!

You can cache these posts if nothing else. It's just the way the site is set up.

uh oh....good thing my hubby doesn't care to take the time to look something like that up LOL

LOL...girl they are all looking for that one thing. I think a hard part of dating now is that there are a great deal of single parents out there. It's an added hardship if your someone that wants to be with someone that has no children and want to make a family yourself.

What part of queens are you in? I am in glendale. Maybe I know some good singles that might interest you.

Alright! Matchmaking on YT! Maybe we can see about a love connection forum!