A Really bad day
 

ever had a day that you just wanna throw in the towel??? Just wanna go to bed and not wake up????

I had one of those days today. I am never a good enough wife to my husband, I will never make as much money him and he makes sure to let me know that constantly.
I have been in so much pain lately with my female problems, and yet I get up at 5am get the kids ready, lunches packed, take them to the babysitter, go to work, get off work, pick them up deal with whatever problems the babysitter may have dealt with. (today my son decided to cut her window screen with a knife) HELLO WHY WAS THERE A KNIFE IN THE ROOM THAT HE WAS SUPPOSED TO BE NAPPING???????

then i come home, fix dinner, do dishes, laundry, bills, clean house, feed animals, bathe kids, get everyone ready for tommorow.

but the house is never clean enough, the clothes never caught up enough, the house is messy, and HE WORKED ALL DAY.

ONCE I WORK AS MANY HOURS AS HIM OR MAKE AS MUCH MONEY AS HIM THEN I WILL HAVE ROOM TO TALK. FOR NOW I SHOULD SHUT THE **** UP AND CLEAN THE HOUSE.

Tomorrow I go to the specialist to start planning my hysteryctomy, I am in so much pain I can hardly stand up. Yet im ignorant.
thanks for letting me vent!!!:mad:

I'm so sorry you're having a rough time. I wish I could help you in some way. Hang in there and try to find some time to take care of yourself. I'll be praying for you - for the situation you're in and about your hysterectomy. I hope you have someone you can depend on to help you while your recovering from your surgery. Take care and let us know what the doctor says tomorrow.

I am so sorry to hear this. Men can be so stubborn. My husband is great as far as helping me. He helps put my son to bed, changes diapers often when he is home, he even loads my dishwasher at night. But out of all the things I do during the day I never get a simple thank you. We were raised in two totally different homes. I was always told to be thankful for what you have not everybody is blessed with that, always always say thank you and please. His family just assumes they deserve everything someone gives them and they are not well mannered. Gets annoying! I even thank my husband when he takes me on dates because I enjoyed it. There were times where we had no money and couldn't go anywhere. He takes for granted the little things in life and sometimes that's whats really important. They don't realize if you stopped doing all the things you do then nothing would get done and they sure would want mommy/wife back.

Oh sweety I'm so sorry you are going through this. No woman should go through that. Although some of us do not put in as many hours as our other half does that doesn't mean we don't work harder. The thoughest job out there is being a parent. You are working 24/7 and your husband doesn't realize it. Let him come home early and do all the things you do and he'll see that working and being a parent at the same time is not easy. Of course he's got the easiest job...he doesn't look after the kids like you do. He doesn't have to walk in the house and go straight to the kitchen, he doesn't have to anwer 101 questions from the kids while trying to cook, clean & do laundry. Honey please don't let no one put you down. Please know that we have the hardest job out there. There are times where I'm overwhelmed because I work and then have to come home and cook while my fiancee can come home and lay down. Yes he does that but he's in charge of the cleaning so it balances out and he doesn't tell me he makes more than I do. Also what helps too is that my boys are older and they can stay home so the running around after work is done for me.

I'm feeling the same way you are today because I just lost my Lilly but I know I have to be strong at the same time. Please know that if you need to talk you can PM me. I'm here. You shouldn't be going through this. The Lord will be with you when you get your procedure done. I pray for a speedy recovery,

I think most men are a pain in the @$$... I think it's going to be very hard for me to ever find one I want to marry. It just makes me sad and angry to hear of men treating their wives like this. I'm really sorry you are going through this

screw that! Forget whatever he says! Tell him when his ass does all the crap you do and NOT get paid for it...then his ass has room to talk!

LOL!

Sorry you are going through this. Can I smack him upside the head for you? Please?? :big_hug:

:eyeballpc What was she thinking??? :thumbdown

Yep! I have had days like that. Don't really want to start a man bashing thread......but...:thumbdown :thumbdown :thumbdown :mad: Put him in his place girl!

my husband is the EXACT same way to a T! it doesnt matter if i work or stay home. he isnt to fussy about the house but if its brought up or someone unexpectantlly shows up im in for it.

keep you head up maybe he will say something sweet and make you feel better...mine does that SOMETIMES!!:D

we're always here to listen

I am so sorry girl go do somthing for you .. i have Female issues too... PSO and Men do not understand that when the issues arise for us it tends to make us feel less than ...broken and worth less than those who can still reproduce... and as my bestfriends tell me girl im more suportive than a bra...you need your gf !!! and if your lacking in that department email me! just remember your yorkie adores you ;)

A lot of men make me more than mad. Let him clean his own house. I hate abuse (including emotional) and wouldn't stand for it. You are only one person. You are a human being, not a human doing. Oh, and if he insists that you cook dinner, hand him a bag of McDonalds.

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I understand exactly what you mean. I was with one of those types myself. Sending you HUGE HUGS! Please feel free to PM me if you ever want/need to talk!

I'm so sorry you are having to deal with a stubborn hubby as well as being in so much pain. I was lucky to have had a totally opposite dad and dh. But I've known many like yours'. If you have to have surgery, does he realize how long you will totally out of commission? Maybe he'll learn to appreciate you and all you do a little more. I sure hope so. Sending prayers and a huge hug. Hang in there, hopefully, he'll grow up.

I am so sorry you are going through this rough patch. Let's hope it is just getting to you because of the pain you are physically in. It sounds like you are very busy and doing the best you can - which is all anyone can ask for. Next time the hubby speaks up, let him know if it (whatever he's complaining about) isn't good enough, he can feel free to do it himself from now on!!!!! Hugs to you!!

Don't ever let anyone tell you your not doing a wonderful job, with all you have going on. Hope your days get better soon.

Your husband and I wouldnt get along very well I am afraid. Sorry but he sounds like a total jerk. If I heard you right you said you work all day also. I hate it when men think just because they work they dont have to do anything else to help out. Can I ask what he does that is he so busy that he cant help out? Sounds like you are supermom to me. You have enough to deal with already without having to put up with his chauvenistic attitude.

thanks everyone. Im off to see the specialist, wish me luck. Im so scared, but tired of dealing with the pain. So anyways, here i go...............

Good luck. Hugs! Keep us updated please.

Ok hon first off you dont' work a 9-5 job as many hours as he does but you in acutality do work way more hours in a day that he does...so tell him to shut up. If we women were paid for all that we do we would all be multimillionares.

Don't let him or anyone get you down. Your a career woman that does it all. Yeah your job might not bring in as much cash as his does but they other million jobs you do is thankless and unpaid.

Hope that your feeling a bit better. Sorry for the health issues.

If he's that unhappy maybe you suggest he leaves, or does the work himself. After all he probably would do such a better job. Doesn't he know that mothers put twice as much time into their work day as a man. I'd like to punch him in the nose. Sorry.

I've had throw in the towel days, but they're a lot different than yours. I'm afraid I'd have to bash your husband upside the head with something really large and really hard. Perhaps multiple times. Could this be why I'm still single? :D

HELLO -- you are about to have SURGERY. Can he not see that you are ill?!

I wish that men's umm -- anatomy -- could just ONCE be affected the way ours is on a regular basis. A period would have them in bed for a year!:p I can't imagine what childbirth would do ...

I try not to man-bash, but guys like your husband make it soooooo hard.:mad: Your bigger challenge is try to make your son(s) a completely different kind of man, one worthy of being someone wonderful's husband.;)

Hang in there. You've got lots of folks rooting for you. :cheer: :cheer: :cheer:

Ohhhh ... I FORGOT:

Since he makes so much more money than you, let him fork some out for a maid and to send some of the laundry for drop-off service.:D That ought to limit the complaints -- or the bragging about how much he's worth.

My situation was a little different from yours. I made MORE money than he did and it really bothered him! But he sure didn't want me to quit...LOL! And I never did anything good enough!

What you are going through is call 'verbal abuse'. It's the same thing as 'physical abuse'! When my "EX" started doing it to my girls, and wouldn't consider counseling, I left. Hardest, but best thing I ever did!

I am now married (15 yrs) to 'Mr. Wonderful'. He treats me like a lady and tells me he loves me on a constant basis. I couldn't live without him! My girls consider him 'dad' as the 'sperm donor' (that's what they call my ex) has nothing to do with them.

I'm not suggesting that you leave, but I am suggesting that you seek counseling. Hopefully he will respond to your suggestion in a positive way. If not, please don't let your kids go through what you are going through.

Am I out of line fellow YTr's????

I'm sorry you're having a rough time. I wish your husband knew that being a mommy IS a FULL-TIME job! (I read somewhere that if "full time mothers" was an actual job, it'll cost well over $100,000/year for them). That's what we're worth!

I hope you cheer up and realize that you're important and sufficent! Don't let him put you in bad spirits! I'm sure it's fustrating..everyone goes through that. but you have you're kids and your furbaby! :)

Thank god my hubby understands that and constantly goes over his head to help me with everyday stuff (diapers, cooking, cleaning, screaming baby, pooping yorkie)...AND he is the main breadwinner with a FULL TIME job. I make sure to say "thank you" all the time. So to all you cynics out there, nice guys DO exist..still! :p

Nah your not out of line. He is walking a fine line of being opinionated and abusive.

Just last Saturday Hubby went on about how the house was not clean enough (he had some friends coming over)...boy did I cuss his ass out good. I had to clean three floors of a house and do a million loads of laundy. So if he was unsatisfied with how something was done he sure was welcome to fix it to his liking. He shut up really fast when the damn demon bi$Ch in me came out. I work a 35 hour week and the last two weeks each week I worked 80 since work was swamped with two big deals, I spend almost two hours a day in total on my commute to and from work, I maintain and manage a house, our finances, our children and our pets. So when he does all that on four hours of sleep then he can talk sh!t to me. Otherwise he can put a sock in it. Men always feel that their one job is so much. Let them try being us with all we do and the hormonal upheavals we get. Then they wonder when they are in the mood and we say we are tired why that happens...dumba$$es.

AMEN!!!

I just want to send you a big hug :ghug: and well wishes at the specialist.

You know what when he starts running his mouth do the charlie brown (pretend everything that he is saying sounds like wah wah awah waha wah). Shoot they do it to us. I am a strong believe in total equality. If you want to be the king of the castle then you better be able to provide the queen with chambermaids and servants to do what has to be done. Unless you can do that then welcome to my world and your just another peon in the fifedom.