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I need your advice....PLEASE Ok, You guys may all think I've lost it, but most of you know about what happened to Maddie and that I'm getting a new puppy Macy in a few months.... Well I just can't bare the thought of Macy wearing Maddie's clothes. Don't ask me why...I just can't. The whole time she would be wearing Maddie's clothes, instead of thinking how cute she is in them, I'd be thinking that was Maddie's and it will make me sad. Is this stupid of me? Do I pack all of Maddi'es clothes up...Never to be used or do I keep a few for memory and sell them to another furbaby that I don't see everday? Would that be bad of me to sell them to get new clothes for Macy? I have so many and to pack them up would be such as waste, and to never let Macy wear them is a waste to, and then I'd feel bad to sell them....UGGGG I don't know...Please give me your honest advice. THANKS!! |
IF it were me......I'd consider it a tribute to Maddie and keep the clothes. You have so many cute ones and your new baby will never ever replace Maddie...She'll be cute in her OWN way wearing them |
Denise, I would have to agree with Villette. Keep the clothes for Macy. I think it would be so much easier to see Maddie's little sister wearing the clothes than seeing them on someone's else's Yorkie. What a great tribute to Maddie, having Macy wearing her big sister's clothes. |
Another thought... Do you know of someone who would love to have clothes for their yorkie, but really can't afford them? If so and they fit, maybe you can send them to his/her furbaby! I am sure they would appreciate it! Keep a few favs for your new girl and send the others to a good home! Surely someone on YT knows someone personally who would love the clothes, but is struggling financially. Good luck in whatever you decide! |
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Denise, you don't have to do anything right now. If it were me I would go through Maggie's clothes, toys, etc. and pick out the one that harbor the happiest memories and carefully and lovingly pack them away forever. Then I would box up the rest of her things and just set them aside. You don't have to do anything right now. In fact, you should probably wait until you are past the initial grieving phase and are in the healing phase. Then you will be able to make a clearer decision about what you want to do. You could always donate some of her things to a dogsoul in need or sell a few of the items and use that money to plant a tree/memory garden in her honor. Hugs to you, my YT sister :ghugs:e that your new Macy will help to bring some healing to the hole in your heart. |
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Thanks guys...I think I'm just having a really bad missing Maddie day:( :( :( I mean, why shouldn't Macy wear her big sisters clothes. Thanks for the advcie. I knew I could count on all of you to keep my head straight..lol and if something don't fit when she grows up, I can always sell it or donate it. |
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HI, I know exactly how you feel :( I think maybe you could wait just a bit, and when you have your new girl....try it out. If it too hard to see her in Maddies clothes, then there is your answer. Maybe just give it some time. You may not know how it makes you feel until you actually see her in them. It may be too hard, or it may bring you happiness. Whichever you decide....I wish you happieness!!! Quote:
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Denise, I know exactly how you feel! When I lost Kloey, I felt the same way. I kept a few things that meant a lot to me and I sold the rest. I sold them to some people on here who I know and trust and it made me feel good to know that Kloey's items was going to someone who knew how much I loved Kloey. Don't feel bad if you part with some of her items, just think of it as spreading some love from Maddie. You can never replace her, but she will always remain with you in your heart. Macy is not Maddie, she will probably have a completly different personality. Putting Maddies clothes on her will just make you think of Maddie. You will know what the right thing is to do. HUGS! |
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i dont know about her wearing them when shes older you might change your mind but i wouldnt get rid of them eitherway |
Aww, Denise, I am so sorry that you are having a tough day. Hugs to you! You are the only one who can decide what's right for you. I think it would be a nice tribute to little Maddie for Macy to wear her clothes, but donating them isn't a bad idea either. I know, I'm no help! :p Hope your day gets better! |
Denise, I know it is hard to make that decision. You need time, just put them aside and wait. I had my 17 1/2 year old Bichon put to sleep 4 years ago and put his collar and tags aside in a drawer. Since then Bubba and Sissy have come into our lives. This summer I came across his collar and tags again and felt I cound finally bring myself to dispose of them. A few weeks ago I came across an article about mixing cement and making personalized stepping stones for the garden. It talk about putting your pets footprints etc. in the cement and now I feel bad that I don't have his tags-I could have made a nice stone for my garden. So please think it over before you do anything. |
Denise, I think it would be so nice for little Macy to wear her big sisters clothes too. BUT the other thing I was thinking is that you really do not have to make this decision now. Why don't you just think about it for a little while and see how you feel once you get little Macy there at your home. No reason to rush into a decision that is too emotional still. You know? Hang in there girl - there will be bad days and good days but you know we are all here for you and love you! :ghug: :ghug: |
I don't think thats weird at all Denise! My baby boy died a horrible death also when he was only 5 months old (somehow got into rat poison and its a mystery to this day where he got it) but I got 2 more boys a couple months later and although I kept a lot of my other babies things, leashes, collars, favorite toys... I never let my boys now use or play with them! it would make me sad!! I don't blame you one bit! Its a constant reminder of the loss you had and how much it hurt you and made you sad. |
I also think that you should wait, honey. It's too soon to tell, and it's understandable that you are feeling this way now. When the time comes, you'll know if you can keep some items or they are reminding you of Maddie too much. Maybe the joy that Macy will bring will be so big that it won't affect you too much; especially is she's a lot like Maddie in her personality. If they are very different, maybe putting her clothes on her will bring certain memories that will make you sad. So, I would say, wait and you'll know what's the right thing to do... |
When my last maltese passed away I put all her things away. AFter a year or so passed I was ready to let them go and I sold some stuff and gave the rest away. I couldn't give them to my other dogs. I'm sorry you are going through this. I know your new baby will bring a special joy back into your life. |
Oh Denise, it sure must be so hard to see all of Maddie's wonderful clothes and know she will never wear them again. :( I think you should not rush into doing anything. There is plenty of time to decide later, especially when you are past the grieving stage :( If it helps, maybe put them away so you don't constantly see them and be depressed. When Macy finally comes home, see how you feel about it . . . and then decide. Either way, I am sure it is the right thing to do for YOURSELF. |
I agree. Keep some and pack some away. When Macy is in your heart, and soul you might reconsider letting her wear the clothes. If not you can deal with the clothes then. |
Denise, The ones that Maddie wore a lot maybe you could make into a patchwork pillow or blankie - is that silly? Our problem with Maxwell, is we still call him "Brutus" accidently, a lot. Brutus died unexpectedly Feb. 15 and I picked up Maxwell March 17. If Maxwell were wearing Brutus little jackets, well, I just don't know. Sharing your pain, and your thrill with your new baby. Debbie |
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I agree with Villette.. you should keep them and let Macy wear them.. BUT the ones that remind you the most of Maddie.. or whichever ones were your favorite on her, you should just store those away as a tribute to Maddie :) |
I would pack them away until you feel ready for the new furbaby to wear them. When the pain lessens, you will probably want Macy to wear Maddie's clothing. |
Dear Denise, Your heart will tell you what the right thing to do for all of you is. I agree with everyone that you should put them away until you know what you want to do. I'm sorry you're having a bad day. Prayers and hugs, Judy |
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I totally agree w/ V... The day my poodle Carina died (she had lung cancer), I was holding her in my arms while giving her oxigen to breath, at the hospital... Well, she didn't make it, and passed away in my arms...:cry: At that moment I felt something just broke inside of me... I felt powerless, because I was right there losing my baby and I could not DO anything to help her...:unlove: Long after I came back to an empty home... It's been 1 1/2 yr since Carina is gonne... And after 4 months that Caca'd passed away my Dad gave me Maggie. I STILL say Carina when I call for Maggie... and I could NEVER give away Caca's things/clothes... Maggie and Hannah DO use Caca's bed, but not the clothes because they don't fit... Best advise, IMO: take your time to decide... you'll know what to do when you stop grieving...:tinyheart :big_hug: |
I agree w/ the other posters who say you should get out the boxes...since you have posted that you DON'T know what to do, then I would do nothing...any decision you do when your head is not clear & your heart is still bruised may become a big regret later...if you just put them away til you are sure & clear in your decision, don't do anything...when the time comes you will feel very confident in the end w/ no regrets...take your time...:) |
I didn't read through all of the posts so I'm not sure if this was mentioned, but there are some really cute patchwork quilts you can make (or have made) out of old clothes - they do it with infant clothes, etc. I might be cute to make or have made a blanket out of Maddie's clothes - that way you can wrap it around you and it will remind you that she is here with you at heart. You don't need enough clothes to make an entire quilt - they can fill in with coordinating material to finish it off. You can also get her name, DOB, a nice saying, etc embroidered on it. |
Denise, sorry you are having such a bad day, I know how you feel, when i lost my dodger a few years ago, before i had my yorkies, I could not let go of anything, i put it all down in the basement for over a year, then slowly went thru some items and let my other babies play with his toys, after a few days i was happy i did, your heart will let you know what to do, you are in my thoughts, wish you the best:) |
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