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I don't think thats weird at all Denise! My baby boy died a horrible death also when he was only 5 months old (somehow got into rat poison and its a mystery to this day where he got it) but I got 2 more boys a couple months later and although I kept a lot of my other babies things, leashes, collars, favorite toys... I never let my boys now use or play with them! it would make me sad!! I don't blame you one bit! Its a constant reminder of the loss you had and how much it hurt you and made you sad. |
I also think that you should wait, honey. It's too soon to tell, and it's understandable that you are feeling this way now. When the time comes, you'll know if you can keep some items or they are reminding you of Maddie too much. Maybe the joy that Macy will bring will be so big that it won't affect you too much; especially is she's a lot like Maddie in her personality. If they are very different, maybe putting her clothes on her will bring certain memories that will make you sad. So, I would say, wait and you'll know what's the right thing to do... |
When my last maltese passed away I put all her things away. AFter a year or so passed I was ready to let them go and I sold some stuff and gave the rest away. I couldn't give them to my other dogs. I'm sorry you are going through this. I know your new baby will bring a special joy back into your life. |
Oh Denise, it sure must be so hard to see all of Maddie's wonderful clothes and know she will never wear them again. :( I think you should not rush into doing anything. There is plenty of time to decide later, especially when you are past the grieving stage :( If it helps, maybe put them away so you don't constantly see them and be depressed. When Macy finally comes home, see how you feel about it . . . and then decide. Either way, I am sure it is the right thing to do for YOURSELF. |
I agree. Keep some and pack some away. When Macy is in your heart, and soul you might reconsider letting her wear the clothes. If not you can deal with the clothes then. |
Denise, The ones that Maddie wore a lot maybe you could make into a patchwork pillow or blankie - is that silly? Our problem with Maxwell, is we still call him "Brutus" accidently, a lot. Brutus died unexpectedly Feb. 15 and I picked up Maxwell March 17. If Maxwell were wearing Brutus little jackets, well, I just don't know. Sharing your pain, and your thrill with your new baby. Debbie |
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I agree with Villette.. you should keep them and let Macy wear them.. BUT the ones that remind you the most of Maddie.. or whichever ones were your favorite on her, you should just store those away as a tribute to Maddie :) |
I would pack them away until you feel ready for the new furbaby to wear them. When the pain lessens, you will probably want Macy to wear Maddie's clothing. |
Dear Denise, Your heart will tell you what the right thing to do for all of you is. I agree with everyone that you should put them away until you know what you want to do. I'm sorry you're having a bad day. Prayers and hugs, Judy |
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I totally agree w/ V... The day my poodle Carina died (she had lung cancer), I was holding her in my arms while giving her oxigen to breath, at the hospital... Well, she didn't make it, and passed away in my arms...:cry: At that moment I felt something just broke inside of me... I felt powerless, because I was right there losing my baby and I could not DO anything to help her...:unlove: Long after I came back to an empty home... It's been 1 1/2 yr since Carina is gonne... And after 4 months that Caca'd passed away my Dad gave me Maggie. I STILL say Carina when I call for Maggie... and I could NEVER give away Caca's things/clothes... Maggie and Hannah DO use Caca's bed, but not the clothes because they don't fit... Best advise, IMO: take your time to decide... you'll know what to do when you stop grieving...:tinyheart :big_hug: |
I agree w/ the other posters who say you should get out the boxes...since you have posted that you DON'T know what to do, then I would do nothing...any decision you do when your head is not clear & your heart is still bruised may become a big regret later...if you just put them away til you are sure & clear in your decision, don't do anything...when the time comes you will feel very confident in the end w/ no regrets...take your time...:) |
I didn't read through all of the posts so I'm not sure if this was mentioned, but there are some really cute patchwork quilts you can make (or have made) out of old clothes - they do it with infant clothes, etc. I might be cute to make or have made a blanket out of Maddie's clothes - that way you can wrap it around you and it will remind you that she is here with you at heart. You don't need enough clothes to make an entire quilt - they can fill in with coordinating material to finish it off. You can also get her name, DOB, a nice saying, etc embroidered on it. |
Denise, sorry you are having such a bad day, I know how you feel, when i lost my dodger a few years ago, before i had my yorkies, I could not let go of anything, i put it all down in the basement for over a year, then slowly went thru some items and let my other babies play with his toys, after a few days i was happy i did, your heart will let you know what to do, you are in my thoughts, wish you the best:) |
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