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Family /Friend (F&F) Dissapointments? I haven't really posted anything to personal on here because I'm not quite sure if any one knows who I am or are even interested...but this is the place where I go every day & talk , I don't really have any one to talk to , particularly if it involves family...how can you vent to some one if it's about them..:confused: I've been really bothered for the past few weeks w/ the response coming from F&F to good news they hear......I'm definitely not referring to any bragging here...just when they inquire about things & when it's responded to in a normal ( not overly giddy or talking non stop about it) way it's received in such a cold, sarcastic way or the subject is changed completely....I've tried to tell myself that it's just a reaction to the unhappiness they may feel about how things are going in their lives & don't take it personally, but when it's FAMILY, I kinda expected better from them....it's to bad when we have to hide things so as to not upset people...I just had to say this because it has me so bothered & where else could I go ;) ....Thanks |
Well - I'm interested and care.....I know just what you mean. I LOVE my F&F but always avoid any personal subjects because, while they ask how things are going - they really don't want to hear about it ......my way to deal is just keep the comments to a bare minimum.... They seem to only want to hear good things and anything deeper than just superficial stuff is really not interesting I guess - Don't take it personal - I think it's just how some people are. ps - Edited to add - I do notice some people will talk endlessly about themselves but if YOU try to talk to them about your own self - the subject gets changed very quickly LOL I think it really pays off to be a good listener but sometimes it can wear you down |
I feel you on this one. Last year when we were getting close to buying our land for our dream organic farm/estate----someone I thought a very close friend, invited me to coffee to hear about it. I got out one sentence and then she bull dozed over me about how she was thinking of buying a vaca home in Vt---blah dee blah. I smiled and nodded through a cupa and haven't talked to her--or should I say, let her talk AT me---since.:rolleyes: People are interesting for sure. |
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Like the creatures who skim along the surface of the water. Me and even Hubster are more like those creatures at the furthest depths of the ocean. You know--the ones who produce their own electricity and always look to go deeper.:p |
It's so sad that they seem really interested when it's bad..."OH really, do tell!"..sort of attitude, like they can't wait to push speed dial to every one they know when they leave but if it's good they want you to shut up...I just expected a little more from family |
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HAHA - I have a friend JUST Like that - She'll call me - ask how things are - barely listen to the answer - then proceed to talk about every little thing in her life. I could take a nap complete with snoring (IF I snored that is LOL) and she wouldn't even notice I was asleep on the phone. It got so bad recently I don't even answer the phone now when she calls. |
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Angelworks...that really sounds so awesome...an organic farm... you must want to tell everyone all about it & I don't blame you, who wouldn't be excited about that, it's a whole new life, an adventure for you both...I hope it all goes as well as you expect...& good luck ( & have fun in the process :) ) |
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A whole new life and adventure for sure----it'll be part of my "hormone replacement therapy". :p That and dragging the 1/4 mile at English Town NJ. ;) |
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cool - I didnt read your post right - you'll be creating your own electricity ?? HOW COOL IS THAT !! Good luck - it sounds like you're really going all the way - and if it works as HRT for you - tell me the secret LOL !!! |
I think some people want to hear the bad news more, that way their own life may not seem as bad. When they hear the good news, they just get jealous instead of being joyous to be a part of your good news. It's sad really...about the only thing you can do is have compassion for their outlook on their own life and go on and enjoy yours. |
I guess it wouldn't have bothered me as much if it was directed at me I can take it, I'm a little older & wiser now .....but it was directed at my son ( If you know what's good for you, don't mess w/ my kids!)...;) |
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If we produce more electricity than we need-guess what--the elec co buys it from us. Now there's a thought huh? The elec co sending you money? |
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