| jrsygal37 | 06-06-2007 05:44 PM |
Bella's Mommy. I'm sorry that you and your boyfriend are going through this. Hubby and I are both white and we have two boys that are Spanish (Adopted from Guatemala). My one son although adopted from the same country is just as white as us but my older son is typical of the country. We live in a small town primarily white. People are ignorant. My son now 13 at the age of 10 years old heard the word "spic" for the first time. After a baseball game, we had the boys over to swim and they spoke about who would be picked for All-Stars. My son was a very dominate ball player (pitcher) for his age. One of the boys said to my son "I'm sorry Frank, you didn't make the all-stars so and so said his father hates you and would never let that little spic on the team." My son is a very well mannered, very likable and coachable kid and that night he asked with tears in his eyes "mommy what does that word mean" I had to explain to my young son about racism. He's 13 now and he's very popular. Has a lot of girlfriends and a lot of friends in general but he still has not forgotten that word or what happened that year. It's hard lesson but what I've taught him is that you put it up their a.. by playing harder and being better, going farther. Nothing hurts a racist more then to do better then them. Hope it works out for you and your boyfriend. It's hard to keep turning the other cheek but as I said to my son the only way to hurt them is to be better then them. Elaine | 