Im Furious!!!!!!
 

the guy im seeing dumped me last night over a jealous rage.:( im so pist off cause i really care for him. all i did was go out with my best friend for coffee and he flipped on me :eek:

Well if he's going to get jealous like that over you going out with your friend those are the first warning signs that he is not able to trust you. Like they say things happen for a reason and although you said you really liked him there is nothing good that can come out of a relationship where your partner does not trust you.

Who knows you might meet the one who sweeps you off your feet and is not jealous.


good luck and if he calls you and says he'll change be weary because they might change at the beginging but then they fall back into the same routine.


Good luck

thanks alot. its a real shame. he doesnt like my friend so thats why he gets like that :(

Remember your friends will always be there for you no matter what.

Girl - there's some serious insecurity issues going on there if that's all you did.....when men are that jealous over our friends it only gets worse...take it from someone who's been there. I LOVE my ex husband but that's why he's an ex.

I agree with V no matter if he likes your friend you do and he needs to get a handle on his emotions. Good luck!

lol v youre too funny. but you are probably right. men :mad: i guess im better off alone

I've been with a guy like this. I don't understand the whole thing, but I know I kept going back to him and it eventually got to the point that I wasn't going to spend time with anyone else, not even my family. So my family said, it's him or us... and I chose FAMILY and FRIENDS over a dumb boy.

Needless to say that was a year after high school. My 2nd year in college I met this fabulous guy (and I wasn't even looking!), we've been together almost 3 years... and we'll be getting married in a year or so. So don't worry about it, when you least expect it you'll find someone, and it will be perfect!

So, I hate to say it, but momma was right. And yes, I did tell her that, and yes she laughed and said, "I told ya didn't I...." :rolleyes:

yep i know about mothers are always right.:rolleyes: but the funny thing about this she really likes this one :p

That is funny. I hated having to admit that to her, and I always thought she knew nothing ;)

oky hun ... take it from me whos STILL in a jealous relatinoship .... in the beginning he used to get jealous over the silliest thing .. ie a myspace comment on my page or me giving a guy friend a hug. things got so bad that we'd fight all the time and make a scene in front of ppl. i mean i love this guy a lot and i am just in too deep now but i know if he asked me to marry him i'd say no ... but its to the point where i've changed myself a lot to cater to his insecurities (bad idea) meaning that i rarely talk to guys without feeling like 'oh s*%^ is he around, b/c he'll take this the wrong way and we're going to get into a fight.' and i am a lot less outgoing than what i used to be. :( but i also know that when times are good, its amazing i can't believe how good life could be but just as extreme the good times are, so are the bad and its like WWII. there's no inbetween with these guys. and he may get a little better but he won't change, you will see yourself change more than you will him...and the way he's jealous with you, you will begin to get jealous with him ... b/c he's expecting a certain type of behavior of you he should do the same right? maybe you never know you know? ... so take it from someone who's still experiencing this .. be careful, be strong, and really think the kind of relationship you have if it is worth all that ... and hey if you are ever needing anyone to talk to about this i am here for you

thanks alot ;) since im single again now i have time to think if this is really worth fighting for or i should just forget about him.

thanks alot guys ;) very good advises :thumbup: you guys are awesome thats why i really love yt :D

I know you're hurting but had to say this....don't bother fighting for him....soon it will be fighting WITH him ...again and again and again unless he gets over his insecurities and lets you be your own woman. Having coffee with a friend is so non threatening - but it shows how his mind is working.

has he always been this way or is it new ?

hes never been like this. but let me tell you about my friend shes done things to be in the past but shes been there for me to. shes kind of slutie :rolleyes: but he knows im nothing like that so he really doesnt want me around her:(

Be glad you got to see his bad imature self before you married him. He is not a stable person. Your lucky your out of that relationship. It would only get worse.

:eek: you guys would not believe this. my friend told him i was seeing someone else and that i was planning on dumping him.:mad: now im even more pist off. i told her our friendship is over.:thumbdown and when i asked her why she did it she just to told me hes not the right guy for me.:confused: i think thats my decision not hers.

Your friend is also very immature. I think I would just back off from those who are like that. If your BF trusted you he would have not believed your friend and would have let you know what she said..........and in an mature manner.

Oh my! This was not right. Thats not her place to make your decisions. But on the other hand if he would beleive her over you that is even more wrong. He shouldnt trust someone elses word about you before asking you first. I have a friend who is in a relation ship with a jealous guy and i know hes not good for her but i would never do something to make them split up. Im there when they fight and brake up and etc. because thats what friends are for support no matter what they do.

That's why he broke up with you! :thumbdown He should have talked to you b/4 believing somebody else. Is this the slutie girl you went out with?

i am sorry but your friend is a B%^$% ... no friend should EVER do that to someone they care about .. if anything she should have set you down, let her know her concerns but not take your relationship in her own hands ...

the only time it is appropriate for someone to take matters into their own hands is if the relatinoship is abusive and you were in danger of being hurt. And to tell the bf that you were seeing someone else and making him mad is no way to go about it (if the relationship is a danger to someone .. imagine if he were jealous and mad befor eand then she told him that crap ... i don't even want to know what he'd do .... BUT NOTE PPLE THIS IS A HYPOTHETICAL SITUATION!! i don't want pple to get all riled up and crazy thinking she is in an abusive relationship b/c she has not said that)

but yes hun back to your REAL relationship, if he was smart and trusted you he would have spoken to you first and told you. I mean if someone told you that you'd be mad as heck too right? but would want to hear it from his mouth first you know? so maybe it was all a misunderstanding but taht seed has been planted, and if he is the jealous type he won't let this go easily or maybe not at all to an extent.

you're like 20 something right? Enjoy being single! you're in college and supposed to be having fun. hahaha. i mean college is fun if you havea relationship (i met my guy freshman yr.) but there's a different kind of fun when you're single. :p

So sorry to hear about this loser dumping you...Sounds like a great opportunity to be single and forget about tha jealous guy. They are NO GOOD. Trust me. I know you must be hurting, and it's gonna be hard...Just go have more coffee with your gf!!!!

hmmm is your best friend a guy or a girl?? I can understand if it's a guy why he would be a little jealous but if it was a girl then Idk why that would make him jealous...maybe there was something else he was mad at?

ooo I missed that part. Well listen to your heart....do YOU really think he's a great guy and means good when he gets like that? Or do you think he is really overexagerating? Does he bring out the better things in you? Do you know what I mean? I'm just asking since I don't know him I can't really comment but if your friend is slutty then maybe he just doesn't want you around her because he thinks a little of her may rub off on you, Not saying slutty but I mean like her attitude, the way she acts, I mean if he REALLY doesn't like her, idk

ok...so now i just read this! LOL! Well see now your friend isn't really a good friend if she did that. It's totally your decision whether he's right for you or not

i want to clear some things up :rolleyes: hes not a bad guy at all we have a great relationship. i think shes just jealous that i have someone who really cares about me. hes not a jeolous guy nor he abuses me.everytime im with him shes calling me on my cell phone i dont pick it up. so i guess she did that cause she wanted me to be single like her so we can hang out. i really love this guy i dont know what to do :(

yes thats the sluttie girl i went out with :mad:

I Think this guy was just looking for a way out and her telling him you were seeing someone else was his way out!!! If he really wanted to be with you he would have came to you and told you what she told him and tryed to get more info straight from your mouth! I would just move on without him and I know thats hard and you have YT here for you to help you through this! But I was in a relationship for 3 years and we got along great and did everything together! We never fought and never argued but I had a miscarriage our 2nd year in and everything went down hill from there! I blammed him and he was HURT! I didn't see that and I just hurt him more by blaming him! But I broke it off with him after the third year as we were fighting all the time! He started lieing to me about thhings and I didn't feel he was the same as he was when we met! Now I am married to a wonderfull man and have two children who are my LIFE! But I still talk to my ex on a day to day bases! We are like BEST friends now! And no my hubby dont mind that I talk to my ex (he knows I would never do anything to ruin our marriage!)

So I say move on and enjoy being single. This man didn't want nothing more out of this relationship and thats why he didn't come to you and ASK you abou what your friend was acuseing you of! You have to have trust in a relationship inorder for it to work..........and he simply DID NOT trust you or he would have asked not blown up like that and left!

I'm so sorry :( How upset you must be! I hope that whatever you decide to do it will make you happy and everyone will be understanding~