Originally Posted by aarnold808 (Post 987729)

Okay,

My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We decided on getting Teddy and then my mom and I chipped in together and got Theresa. Lately, my boyfriend and I have been having problems. He gets jealous when the dogs sleep with me (or rather on me) and I tell him "please don't give me a hard time, its sooo difficult to get them to sleep." He gets angry now because I don't lay next to him in the bed because Teddy and Theresa lay on either side of me. When we first got both puppies.. HE was the one who wanted them on the bed.. not me. Now all of a sudden he is having complaints. He said, "you love those dogs more than me," and I detect a hint of bitterness in his tone more than before. It used to be a running joke, but now he gets angry if I greet the dogs first when I come in and not him.


I don't know what to do. Besides, there are other issues including suspicions of cheating (found a girl's number in his phone.. she claims they have been dating for a year.. while we were together, and found two other voicemails from other women as well. All of which he claims as friends, or ex-girlfriends from the past wanting him back) I don't know if he's worth it. I love my dogs, and my mind tells me to leave him, but my heart isn't ready to take him out of my life. I don't trust him whatsoever, he is very abrupt with me on the phone, he never tells me where he is going, and since we are seperated (until I can figure things out with the cheating) he has never once asked about my dogs. But he did get them a diamond collars for my birthday.. does that count for anything?

Plus, my grandmother has dialysis so on the days when I'm not at school full time (monday, wed., fri,) I take her to dialysis for 5 hours at a time. So I'm busy almost all the time. He claims he needs more attention. I'm too tired. Plus this is my last semester at SF State, then I'm graduating and applying for law school. I don't have time. But he thinks that I do and that I need to "act more like a girlfriend." and spend more time with him. I have school (tuesday and thursday and saturday) from 8am - 7pm. I go see my grandmother 11am to about 7pm (mon, wed, fri) and during any free time off I spend time with my dogs, study, and try to maintain my 4.0 GPA.

He used to be so supportive. Now he's not.

What do you think I should do? (sorry for being so long)

Ashley

Originally Posted by TootiesMom (Post 988824)

you do seem to be a VERY bright person and I think you know where you should go...
You are WAY too important to let someone treat you that way....
No one can make this decision for you but it appears that you already have and are needing reasurrance!
I agree with everyone here, you are much too good to deserve this, go with your GUT! go to law school, meet you a man who will appreciate you for what you are! A GREAT PERSON!
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Originally Posted by aarnold808 (Post 988766)

If this happened to you what would you do?

He always says to me, "ashley, I love you, there's no one else I want to be with," etc. But then when I call him.. I have to call him 10 or 12 times before he will pick up. When I spent every moment with him, he always picked up the phone, now that I moved back into my mom's house, he's out all the time. But he gets pissed when I leave the house after 7pm.

The "other girl" sent me a picture of the two of them kissing. At first he denied he was in the picture. Then he claimed he didn't know the girl. And then he said the picture was taken a long time ago (when he was in high school) and the girl is just trying to get back with him. Why would an ex keep an old picture? But he assures me that some women can do this?

Would you just end it? I know in a million years I would never do this to him. I just hate dating.. and hate knowing I invested three years of my life into someone to have him hurt me like this. I love him, but I don't think he will ever change or stop cheating. If you were in my position do you think you could forgive him? I know I can't...but he was my best friend, I told him everything. How do you forget that?

Originally Posted by Zeus' Mom (Post 987827)

Relationships are very hard. I always follow one simple rule, you need to be with someone who makes you a better you, not someone who breaks you down. I am married to my very best friend and no one has ever supported me or encouraged me the way he has. That is what everyone deserves. I hope it all works out and you find the one who let's you be you!! :)

Originally Posted by Txgurl06 (Post 988837)

I think you know what you should do and honestly we can tell you everything we think and our opinions but when it comes down to it you are only going to take your own advice. you honestly have to learn from your own mistakes. When anyone asks for advice about love they probably wont follow that advice until they are ready and until you are fed up. you should listen to that song called when a womens fed up by rkelly. play it for your man. women will go through so much crap for men and ask for so much advice but your gonna follow your own thoughts. do what you feel is right. but like i said you know whats right but i think every women goes through that much crap because they are scared of being loney and trust me you could loose all love and respect for a man and still try and try just for that fact!


and does the girl that you seem him kissing in the picture have more pictures of them together and what this recently also does she live near? if so i would ask her to lunch and invite him without him knowing shes there and then confront him!

Originally Posted by AngieDoogles (Post 988845)

I think this is some of the best advice I've ever seen/heard. Well said!

Originally Posted by aarnold808 (Post 988766)

If this happened to you what would you do?

He always says to me, "ashley, I love you, there's no one else I want to be with," etc. But then when I call him.. I have to call him 10 or 12 times before he will pick up. When I spent every moment with him, he always picked up the phone, now that I moved back into my mom's house, he's out all the time. But he gets pissed when I leave the house after 7pm.

The "other girl" sent me a picture of the two of them kissing. At first he denied he was in the picture. Then he claimed he didn't know the girl. And then he said the picture was taken a long time ago (when he was in high school) and the girl is just trying to get back with him. Why would an ex keep an old picture? But he assures me that some women can do this?

Would you just end it? I know in a million years I would never do this to him. I just hate dating.. and hate knowing I invested three years of my life into someone to have him hurt me like this. I love him, but I don't think he will ever change or stop cheating. If you were in my position do you think you could forgive him? I know I can't...but he was my best friend, I told him everything. How do you forget that?