Upset!!!!!
 

I am so upset with my mother-in-law!!:mad:

As most of you already know I am having a boy and his name is going to be Pedro Nieves. Well My MOther in law is calling the baby. The Taco Bell Baby and telling every one he has a taco bell name. Which is PI$$ING ME OFF!! :mad:

I am half hispanic and half white..and my name is hispanic (OLIVIA) so dose this make me her taco bell daughter in law!?!!:mad:

And what is making me MORE Pi$$ed:mad: , is she is joking around dis-owning him,if we name him Pedro Nieves:mad:. Which I already told her, go ahead I dont give a crap. My mom will spoil him enough for the booth of y'all. Plus!! NO ONE, I mean NO ONE is going to try to tell me what to name MY kid. I am the one who has to push him out and go through all the labor pain. So me, my self and I (which is already 3 people!!) are going to name him. NO ONE ELSE.

It's really pi$$ing me off :mad: . The only reason she dose not like the name is BC in English it means Pet and thats my hubbies, late dads name. And she HEATS him with a passion. Which his dad is not the ONLY person I am naming him after. Also my dads, dad( who I never got to meet), my uncle (who passed away a few yrs ago)and then the middle name is my dads other brothers name (who never got married or had any kids)

(In case any one is wondering, my mother-in-law is white...)

Sorry I just need to vent... I know when I go back home in March for a visit and when its time to head up to see her...if she start this crap, then I might need someone to bell me out of jail lol.

I am sorry she is being so disrespectful of you. She seems to be a very insensitive person and I would just ignore her and take the high road and not get dragged into fighting at her level. Hopefully once she see her new grandchild she will stop talking like that.

Thats horrible!!!! I hate my MIL with a passion so i know how hard it is when they are being difficult! Your right it is your chioce. BTW I'll come Bail you out lol

I don't blame you for being upset. There is no excuse for her immature and disrespectful conduct. I can't really offer advice just encouragement to rise above and enjoy your pregnancy and your child -- named as you and your husband decide!

Pedro means "a rock" -- good name for a strong young man with a sound, stable foundation!

My Dear Olivia,
I am so sorry that you are having to put up with her insensitivity. No one deserves this type of disrespect. You are not only responsible for naming your son but are responsible for his life. Obviously she doesn't realize that comments such as this carry a hurt that lasts a long time. I wish that you were my daughter-in-law (I have 2 and a son-in-law) there's always room in my heart for one more. My dear, I'll pray for peace for that place in your heart that she has hurt so much and for your family. This should be a time of great joy, not a time of hurt feelings and jealousy (I suspect she's having a bit of a fit). :aimeeyork Hugs and good wishes to you.

Excellent advice, beautifully worded. :thumbup: I'm sorry you're going through all this. You don't need the stress while you're pregnant. I'm sure things will get better for you. Just keep positive and ignore the negativity.

Could your husband maybe talk to her privately about how she is hurting your feelings? I am sorry about your experience. I have had similar experiences because I am a foreigner, people asking if we have electricity "over there" and whether I rode a camel to school. You try to say, "well it just shows your ignorance/intolerance" but it hurts.
I hope things will get better for you.

Olivia, don't let it bother you. I went through a similiar situation with my mother in law. Both of my boys are adopted and were born in Guatemala. My oldest son is has more typical coloring of the country (Spanish/Olive) and my younger son is very white. When my oldest came home, my mother in law was forever putting sunblock on him and keeping him covered so he wouldn't get any darker. AND, when my youngest arrived, she made no bones about who her favorite was by saying "Oh Nicky is so much cuter." Well it wasn't that he was so much cuter, it was he was so much whiter. Let it roll off your back. BTW, my oldest is now 13 and has more girls after him. LOL. My youngest is only ten so he's not interested in girls yet. LOL. Elaine

Thanks, I might need you too lol

I just dont know whats wrong with her?? Today I got a email telling me what all she got the baby and what all I STILL NEED to BUY... What the HECK? When did she start telling me when I need to buy this and this for the baby!? I didnt even reply to the email. I would have broke my key bored if I did.

I know its her 1st grandkid.. as it is for my mom and dad too! but there not acting like this!

My Hubby just tells me dont take what she says to heart. Half the time she is talking out her you know where.... BUT STILL, if she didnt mean it...she would not say it.... At lest that how I feel.

I wish there was a place to trade bad mother-in-laws in somewhere!

Aww thanks! you just made my day get a little better :D

I am so sorry you have such a MIL. I think that is an absolute terrible thing to say!! I cannot imagine ANY grandmother saying such a horrible thing. It is obvious she is only concerned with herself. She is only thinking about how she believes it is going to make her look. And all that says is that she is a very insecure woman. Since she is insecure ..... this may be her way of getting attention from your husband, since you are pregant I am sure you have been getting all of his attention lately, maybe she is just jealous. You know what they say....negative attention is better than no attention at all! Good grief, what a wanch! DO NOT let her upset you, she is not worth it!!! Sounds like she is trying to push your buttons .... don't give her the satification. :mad:

Oh poor Olivia! I know exactly what you are going through...my MIL is the same way. She's been trying to be nice to me because we're having a baby, but what she thinks is helpful (like telling me what I can and can't eat, what I can and can't do) is super irritating. And as for the name thing...if we were having a boy, we were going to name him Luka. Well my MIL claims that's a girls name and was refusing to call him that. And then she claimed she was going to call the baby Tre because it will be her third grandchild. Now since it's a girl she's been calling the baby Diane (her name) and telling everyone we're naming the baby after her. Which she knows is a lie, so I ended up making a deal with her...She'll be the first to know the baby's name as long as she stops calling the baby Diane and basically leaves us alone. (It's pretty easy to ignore her too since she lives far away from us, we just silence the phones). But you might want to tell your MIL that it's bothering you and that if she wants a good relationship with her grandson she's going to have to respect his name. Her calling him a taco bell kid is horrible and would make your son self-conscious of his name (if his own grandmother is making fun of it).

HMM.. i google it and see if we can take both our MIL there lol hahahahaha. I have tried for 7 years to win over my MIL and she hates me and i hate her (very very long story) But i just don't care anymore we don't really talk to her much now so it's nice. They gave me a really hard time with my first baby i wanted to name him Dakota Dallas but they wouldn't have it so i made up the name Trieden(Tree-den) and i love it but they hated it so i told them where they could stick there opinion and i named him that anyway. Well my second baby i wanted to name Sebastion well my mom had a cow becaus it was the crabs name on the little mermaid lol so i named him Kaleb Sebastion( i wanted the Kaleb to) so i settled mostly because my hubby didn't like it either. You name that baby what you want because like you said YOU HAVE TO PUSH HIM OUT NOT THEM! If i find a MIL trade in center i will call you lol

Olivia -- I thought more about this and decided to amend my earlier suggestion to just rise above. She is not just insulting a name choice, she is trying to insult your heritage and that just cannot be tolerated. Not now, not ever. I think it is important that you and your husband approach her as a united front and just tell her that neither of you will tolerate that sort of behavior. You want it to stop now and ensure your son is never subjected to her cruelty. She may react badly, but you both need to stand firm. She either straightens up or she does not get to be a part of your family.

Lol, If you find a MIL trade in center... make sure they 100% guarantee, the MIL you get back is nice and loving And thinks you cant do no wrong LOL.
(Only in my dreams:rolleyes: lol)

My MIL keeps telling me I am not eating enough... Well I am nauseated more then half the time... so how can I eat? I eat when and what the baby lets me eat. He is picky just like his daddy.. so its not like I can force my self to eat something bc I'm not going to.


I know what you mean by the baby feeling self-conscious of his name... I am going to have to set down her, BIL and SIL.. bc they dont like the name either and talk to them all at once about it. I'll try to be nice about it... but no promises.

I still vote for Pedro though! They don't have to like it if they don't want to, it's not their child.

Right, But its funny how every one thinks they know best and wants a hand in naming it. I already told my hubby last night, I hope the name grows on her by the time we have Pedro.. if not, then maybe when he turns 18, she will like it by then.:p He looked at me and said if you where not set on naming him that before you are now arnt you. I told him we had the name picked out AWAY before I even got preg. and she knew it.... so its not like it was a big shock or anything. :rolleyes:

Yeah that's the reason why I'm not telling my MIL the names we're considering...I really don't want to hear her opinion of them. I could care less whether other people like or hate the name, it's not their child and not their decision. As long as hubby and I are happy with it, that's all that counts. My MIL keeps bugging us for a list of names but we just tell her we don't know what she's talking about. I've told my parents the names we're considering, but I also told them that I didn't want any opinions unless I specifically ask, so they've been great. And Pedro is a great name that means a lot to you. So it really doesn't matter whether she likes the name or not, she needs to keep her opinion to herself and respect you and your family.

WOW!

I actually was reading this, going through similar experience.. except.. everyone didn't like what we were going to name my daughter, and then when i had decided on another name, people were like omg, make up your mind!

i was like shut up, it's my kid, i'll name her whatever i want. that's why we ended up not telling people what we were going to name her till she was out, because it was such a dispute.. and DO NOT get me started aboutmy MIL..

she caused me to have post partum depression.. i was so depressed and stressed out.. and then i didn't eat, which caused me to make my milk supply deplete. it was BAD.. lol

she's getting better, but i try not to let her get to me.. my husband actually was the one who told her she was causing me so much stress.. of course she gave her sap story that she wanted this for my daughter and that for my daughter.. and he was like.. exactly.. it's not YOUR daughter.. lol..

the end ;)

Don't Worry Olivia.. when your beautiful boy comes out, remember he's yours no one elses ;)

I have a great MIL. She is generous and kind and never interferes. I work with a girl who's MIL is a nighmare like yours. My only advice is not to let your anger over this become a wedge between you and your husband. No matter how wrong she is, she is still his Mom, and hearing negative things said about her, true as those things are, will hurt your husband. And could lead him to resent you. You need to vent your frustrations over her outrageous behavior, but try to do it tactfully so that your husband doesn't end up getting defensive of her. To attack someone's parent in to attack the child. What she's doing is terrible and wrong, and you can't change her. Just think about how you would feel if your parents were treating your husband this way, and how you would want him to react. Perhaps you wouldn't want him to overlook the wrongs. But maybe you'd want him to love your parents anyway, warts and all
I'm sorry she's making what should be a joyous time for you a time of anger.
I wish you and your baby God's blessing.
With love and concern, Rhonda

GIRL TELL ME ABOUT IT!!!!!!
i am white and my husband is mexican and she would tell him why are you marring a white girl shes an oakie and she white trash and blah blah and then when i was preganat i told them i was naming my twin daughter abigial and she said well i not callin gher that i will call her abby and im not calling her some old lady white girl name, and i was like then dont talk to her, i take things like that to heart, i mean if you dotn like some ones name then you dont like it no matter what, so if she doesnt like baigail than she isnt going to like it now and guess what my daughters name is abigail and no body was gonna tell me what to name her. this is your daughter and you want to name them a name you can be proud of a name you want to hear everyday.

mother in laws are crazy there is onyl a racial thing if she makes it one, and personally my mother says some dumb things like the taco bell baby and such but to me that is down right disrespectful, and the next time she eats at taco bell you tell her ohh i dont hear you making fun of taco bell now huh

Obviously she has issues, but don't let them be yours. I don't care if your Bohemian and she's French. Only you and the dad pick the name, and if I were you I would tell them ahead of time I do not want her anywhere near the labor room. What a b****.

I wouldnt let it bother you. You do tend to see the worst of some mother in laws when grandchildren are involved. My Mother in law made comments about the name we chose for our daughter. My Mother in law is thebiggest busybody you would ever meet. I have gotten used to her though

oh yes tell me about mils and their sap stories on the day of my babies funeral my other 2 were sick from taking antibioticds to make sure they didnt have the diesease the cause my baby to leave us so soon she comes in my house telling me that i dont care about my kids and that i dont pay attention to them and take care of them and that she owuld take them if i couldnt take care of them and that his rash was bad and she wasnt going to the funeral cause she had to take him to the doctor, and we were like excuse me and i just went down my hallway towards her and told her to get the hell out of my house and i didnt want her back and so she had allready took my sons pamper off which he had it off all morning but we were leaving so we had put it back on for the trip and and she took it off so when i told her to leave she handed him to me and i took him from her and so he pooped all the way down my skirt and i was ready for the funeral i mean literally going to jump into the car and go and i was livid and i was yelling at my husband and so she was telling my husband oh well i dont want to lose him to and oh i dont want jo jo to die to and i rolled my eyes and told her oh please, he has a rash for christs sake its not like hes dying, i mean i had sympathy for him but gosh i had allready taken him to the doctor and gotten cream and the doctor basically said there is nothing you can do, the medicine made us all sick and poop and just yucky, it was horrible medicine, and she told me i was a liar that i never took him i didnt care about him, i was soooo livid and to this day i hold those things to her and its bad but you know once and it can be forgiven and forgotten but more than twice and youre out of my life