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I agree with the others that say that maybe seeing a counseller might help you deal with some of the things from your past. I am one of those that believe it to be best to try to keep toxic people out of your life whether they are family or not. If they have not changed then letting them hurt you over and over will only do more damage. You need to stop letting them abuse you and take control of your life and your actions. I also think that you need to respond to the PMs from the members here that might feel you have done them wrong, it is something you need to face and deal with. Avoiding them is not the answer, I'm sure they want closure from you as you would like from your parents. Posting this kind of thread is going to upset some members as they feel you are trying to blame others for your wrong doings here. It seems you are thinking about your life and how to fix whats wrong in it, thats a great start. Take it slow...... you need to handle and resolve the issues in your life one at a time instead of running from them or take on too many all at once. Maybe you can start with YT, we seem to be a forgiving bunch. |
I say speaking off of experience TELL YOUR MOM AND DAD EXACTLY HOW YOU FEEL and after you do that squash it don't talk about it again because all that will happen is fights.. Tell them how you feel get it all out of your system and then move on.. If they try to interupt you while your talking tell them to let you finish and finish saying everything then listen to what they have to say if you want to then walk away, because emotions will be flying high.. But I do know you CANNOT hold it in it has to come out and you will feel better once you let it all out to them. BELIEVE me it will feel like a weight has lifted off your shoulders... I'm around the same age as you so I know what your going through but I DO NOT let it drag me down for crap.. Imagine watching your mom doing drugs right in front of you and even over dosing once with a needle sticking out of her arm.. I always look at it this way there are always other people out there in a worser postion then you are or were... You have to get over it I did a looooooooooooong time ago. |
Kristi please read this Kristi, it's time to move on in life........you can't continue to live in the past. I myself have walked a mile and a half in your shoes. I was severely abused as a child, neglected by my birth mother, molested by her boyfriend, and then placed in foster care where I jumped from home to home. The abuse continued in a foster home where I lived because I was not their child. I always lived under poverty level (in a camper) and in miserable conditions. I turned to food to comfort me and ballooned up to 303 lbs I 'hated' life and everyone (especially my mom). I was living hell on earth until someone gave me this same advice. I decided to take it and look at where I am now. I learned to love MYSELF before I could love anyone else (including my mother). I decided to follow the path of right and brake the chains that had me tied. (even 173lbs came off and have been off due to my change). I have always been 'wise beyond my years' (just turned 25). Held a full-time job @ 16 while attending HS and graduating. Now, I found a wonderful man whom I married, am about to graduate as a registered nurse, and life is good (I thank the man up above). My brother chose the route of drugs and is sitting in jail for attempted murder :( My mother is older now, very ill and living a life of repentance. She knows she failed me as a mother and friend and lives in the past feeling guilty. I forgave her truly from my heart (as I cannot hold a grudge). She is my mother and I LOVE her. It hurts me so much that she is living like this. I try to help her and refuse to mention the past. She knows I forgave her a long time ago (I want her to die in peace) and know that the day I forgave her I was REBORN. Now, I have a relationship with her regardless. This makes me the person I am today, and the kind of person I want my future children to be. Anyhow, I just want you to know you are NOT the only one. I just touched the tip of the iceberg and have left out many painful details. Please forgive and forget. Everyone who has ever wronged you shall pay for it............but it is not up to you.........and you should NOT continue to suffer because of this. Until you change this..........you are a living DEAD hon. Please take this like honest advice from me to you. I don't judge you, but I do feel you need to change this ASAP. If anything, you'll remember this post someday when you rejoice in internal satisfaction........what you will feel when you let this go. :justahug: My heart goes out to you, but YOU hold the key to change this. |
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I'm sorry, well actually no,Im not sorry for my true feelings, she gets peoples money and alot don't get their things.Then always right after doing so she makes these poor me post,I will never fall for it again.I have had my share of woes in life trust me.It doesn't give anyone a right to mislead others!! And take their hard earned money. You all can keep on believing I choose to see the truth. |
Jess... you've got me in tears now! That was an amazing post! And can be applied to so many peoples lives! Thank you so much for putting it out there! |
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Wow Jessy I am in tears with your post too. You go girl! |
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Thanks Kathryn (see you never know) ;) |
Jessy, you are one amazing woman! You have my deepest respect, and if I were ever fortunate enough to meet you in person I would give you the biggest hug imaginable. What a truly lovely person you are........:love-hug3 I'm just sorry my reply had to be on this thread........ |
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Jess -- what a strong young woman you are. Thank you for sharing your story! You are an exemplementary example of how we should live our lives. You will never know how many lives you have touched and how many of us you have inspired to "be better people". You are absolutely right -- we all have "bad stuff" in our history -- and that we cannot change -- the important thing is what we do with it..... You have chosen to make lemonaide out of lemons and because of that you are one very blessed young woman! |
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Yes, I am very blessed (God has been so good to me)..........thank you for your words :) |
Oh Jessy....I didn't know and what an awesome post - if more people were like you... this world would be a better place. I've gotten to know you a little on the personal side and know you're someone I Really like ....but afer that - I totally ADMIRE and respect the woman you are - even more so because of how you changed your life.....GOOD FOR YOU ! and hugs - I'm so sorry growing up was such a sad experience - childhood should never be like that :( and Kristy....I know we talked about this but running from people on here just isn't right - and your childhood should never come into play with this site - especially when you sell.... just a reminder - if someone is selling HERE on this site - communication is key and ignoring them just makes it harder on the other people who sell. IF everyone did that no one would trust anyone. You can turn things around if you try. |
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I am glad I have met loads of fantastic sellers here. I really support YT sellers. I trust everyone............until you give me a reason to otherwise not do so. ;) Jess |
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