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An answer on the great debate- Keep the baby, or adopt out? Okay, I believe I've finally decided to go ahead and.... KEEP THE BABY. It's not going to be easy, on the flip side it shouldn't be too terrible either. The father still wants nothing to do w/ her (did I tell you guys I found out it's a little girl?) and myself. In fact I told him Thanksgiving morning. He was polite about his reaction and gave me a hug. I fear that'll be the last hug I get from him. We'll see. Loads of drama and I'm trying not to stress out any further. I know the unborn child doesn't need that. It's cramped, no doubt, in there as it is! lol NO ADDED PRESSURE NEEDED! ;) So, I guess the next step is thinking of names? (If already begun taking care of the true next steps and those are financial and legal ones, but I'm looking on the bright side!) I am thinking about Taylor Anne and then my last name. Any thoughts on Taylor for a first name? :confused: :D I'd definently like to try to keep the middle name Anne as it's both my middle name and my mothers. We're trying to get yet another family tradition started. :D Thanks for all the advice and support everyone!! You're better than most of the baby forums I belong to! lol |
I think Taylor Anne is beautiful. Best wishes to you. |
HOORAY!!!!!!! Thats GREAT news, your going to be a awesome mom!:thumbup: I love the name, I think it's beautiful :) |
Taylor Anne is a beautiful name....congrats to you and your new little girl.....babies are always a blessing no matter how unexpected they may be :D Enjoy every minute!!! |
Taylor Anne is a very beautiful name. You know you will continue to gets lots of support from us. Please keep up posted as the pregnancy progresses. Taylor is a lucky little girl. |
That is a very pretty name. |
Taylor Anne is 'perfect'! Congratulations, "mom" :) |
I love that name! A big congrats to you on your baby girl!!! |
Two things come to mind: 1. Ann Taylor (as in the clothing store) 2. I work at a school and we have a lot of boys AND girls named Taylor. Of course this isn't a huge deal, but when someone comes in and says they want to pick up their child "Taylor ____" we have to look the kid up before we say something like "I'll call her (or him) down" because you never know. Some parents get very offended. Some don't care. It's hit or miss. Otherwise, I think that is very pretty. And I do like Anne with an E. :) |
I have a cousin (female) named Taylor - I've always loved that name. My granddaughter's middle name is Taylor. I love the name Taylor Anne! Congratulations! |
I love then name Taylor. And I assure you that the rewards will far outweigh the hardship of being a single Mom. Good luck to you. I hope all goes well and the father doesn't end up causing problems. It sure caused a lot of problems when they started giving fathers RIGHTS. LOL Just Kidding. |
JeanieK, lol, yeah...I think he's entitled to them, certainly. I wouldn't expect anything less from him than for him to cover his own a$s. I think I'm to the point now where I feel like I did everything (within reason...i.e taking the pill) to prevent having a child and he did nothing (i.e didn't steralize himself or always use a "rain coat")...he was just along for the "safe trip". And NOW I'm also taking further responsibility and he's STILL taking none just because I chose not to sweep this "accident" under the carpet-as it were. Anyone know a good lawyer in Illinois I should contact? I've got one I'm supposed to talk to tomorrow, but if there's a referal on here that'd be great! Thanks guys! |
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That's a beautiful name - and good luck to you - coming from someone who had kids really young - there is nothing like it in the world :) |
Good luck to you! The daddy may come around, I hope he does. She may just win his heart all on her own, little girls have a way of doing that to their daddies :) |
We'll see. He's asked me to "Not contact him anymore"-the only conversations we have are now legal ones and the great debate as to reasons why to keep vs. adopt still. I've made up my mind. He's also changed his profiles to "Single"...whatever. Further, one last thing, he's upset that his father's side of his family knows about the pregnancy and his mother's side. *grr* Hey! The baby's movin' again! :p She can already do the "running man"; the YMCA and I think she'd be a NATURAL at home design as it feels like she'd be inclined to reposition a lot of furniture and such...ouch my ovaries and bladder. lol ------ANYONE on here that really doesn't think it's a good idea for a single mom at 25 to try and raise a little one on her own, speak up! I don't want to hear all the beautiful and wonderful things about my decision only, while I do appreciate that too! I'd like to be prepared and not blind sided, so opinions matter to me to some degree! Thanks again- |
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when I responded in the other thread but since you did -- I agree!! How does someone so dead set against having children leave the birth control up to the other person? It's great when everything goes your way but you have no one to blame but yourself when it doesn't. Anyway, congratulations!!! Taylor Anne is a very pretty name. |
Thank You!!! Itspuppyluv- I really must say THANK YOU and give you a HUGE HUG- I'm probably the most open minded person you'll ever meet and am not offended easily in the slightest. Don't hesitate to say anything on your mind...as long as it's legal to post on the forums anyway-lol (you can always e-mail me hateful words! If you were ever so inclined to do so! :D ). It's one of the ways I learn is by listening to others experiences; mistakes; regrets; happinesses and so on and develop my own opinions based off of them. :thumbs up |
It just shows his immaturity. You, on the other hand, don't have that luxury. With all the commotion going on about the baby, enjoy your pregnancy, it is one of the most wonderful things in the world. |
Taylor Anne is a beautiful name. I hope the father changes his mind but if not, it is truly his loss. Regardless of his feelings (or lack thereof) for you, I cannot imagine his being able to turn his back on his precious baby girl. |
Yeah! I am so happy for you!!!!! I think Taylor is a cute name! |
My nephew is about a year old now and his dad is a dead beat. If the father want's nothing to do with her, don't presure him too. I know it might be hard not to, but you will be thankful you didn't in the end. My nephew's dad went through a stage where he wanted nothing to do with his son, and as soon as my sister started hanging out with other guys he wanted to get involved. I really wish she had of just cut ties with him completly when that was what he wanted, because since the baby has been born he has not so much as bought a SINGLE pack of diapers.. yet he still feels he has the right to see his son. I really think he only chooses to see him now to spite my sister. (It's all a long, complicated, twisted mess) This guy lived in my house the entire time my sister was prego with no job and he expected my parents to provide him with everything. Then after the baby was born his grandparents got them a place that he kicked my sister and his son out of after about 2 weeks! So if he doesn't want to be involved be thankful, because he probably wouldn't be the type of father you would want in her life anyway! |
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I’m not completely unsympathetic towards the father but I’m a strong believer in taking responsibility for one’s actions, even when the outcome isn’t what you expected or wanted. I have a nephew that I am very close to that is a young dad. It isn’t what he wanted or what I would have chosen for him at this age but none of that changes the fact that his child is here. He freaked out when he first learned of the pregnancy but he is a great dad. He pays child support, puts money into an account for her and takes her every Tuesday, Thursday and every other weekend. He agreed to this with the mother, without any lawyers involved. I am proud of him but, really, he isn't doing anything special. Just what he should be doing. It doesn’t sound promising with the father now but Jodi is right -- babies have an amazing effect on people. If not, it really is his loss. Huge hugs back to you. I think you are going to be a wonderful mom and you have your family behind you. You will both be just fine. :) |
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I had children when I was 19 and 21. I was married but we had very little money. We are divorced now and I remarried. I am sure you can do it with your parents help and go after the Father for chiild support. |
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