My fun is just begining!
 

Ohhh Lordy you guys! I had a nice surprise last night at 2 am! I hear my husband shouting "What the F*** are you doing?" so I sit straight up in bed freaking out, I listen closely and I hear "I'm so sorry sir" I jump out of bed and in my 16 year old daughters bedroom stands a boy!!!!!!!!!

Her and her g/f let a 16 yr old boy climb in her window at 2am! Thank God my husband has eagle ears and heard this!

Needless to say mt daughter is grounded till she is 25 lol

The kid says "I'm so sorry mam, I'm gonna go home and pray" lmao!!!!!!!

What would you all do?

I plan on calling the kids mother and my daughters g/f's mom. My daughter is grounded from the phone and computer and she cant go anywhere with friends. Is 2 months to long for the 1st offence? lol

I need your imput please.

LOL! I'm sorry but I have to laugh...only because we were foster parents to teenage girls and usually 5 or 6 at a time...I feel your pain!! I don't really have anything that might help right now...I might later when I stop laughing though...not at you but just because this brings back sooo many memories! Anyway, a few words of advice for any parents...squeaky stairs are an asset, don't fix them...and, it's o.k. if the windows are hard to open and stick closed sometimes. Oh...and my husband says yes, he'll need a reason to go home and pray...that he recouperates quickly!

Can I laugh also ?? Lord - I think I was 14 the first time I did that - maybe 13 even ??? Don't tell my mom ! hahahaha ...never mind - I got busted too -

but....TWO MONTHS IS KIND OF LONG MOM !!!! even 2 weeks is long at that age .....but you are the mom and know your daughter best -

but....

if I can plead on her behalf ? the embarrasment alone is pretty hard to live with and you don't want her SO grounded she goes the other way on you - but I have to say that boy came up with the BEST RESPONSE I think I've ever heard !!

Yep, your fun is just beginning :D

I think 2 months is too long also.

Gotta luv the hubbies with the eagle ears!!!!

Two girls and one boy sneaks in? Sounds more like a prank -- two girls being a little silly and got a young boy's courage a little too high. I would think two months would be a little too long a grounding. Nothing really happened right? But always good to be able to let them off sooner for good behavior. You will all laugh about this in a few years. Honest!

LOL, Just love his response! And I bet he did too!
You will laugh at this a few years from now.
I have five children, 22, 21, 20, 15, & 16.
No, they never have done any thing like this.
But 2 months is a very long time for a teen. I would
sit her down and tell her Trust is one of the most important things
in life. You need to be able to trust her 100 % at all times.
I'd take her computer time away for a week, and make her be in by dark
for the week too. If she's not driving yet, I'd let her know she won't be anytime soon. If she is, let her know that driving is something you have to trust, and right now you don't, so hand over the keys until she can prove to you that you can trust her again.
I'm sure you did some things when you were a teen, we all did. And we all laugh about it now. This is just one of those times. Hang in there Mom, This is her first time, (and be ready because it won't be her last) if you handle this one right, the next one won't be so bad.;)

That you KNOW OF :p :p :p

LOL !!

Oh Missy!!!

Sorry, but I laughed when I read the post, too!! What a great reponse he had. Time for a looonnnggg talk with your daughter. What was she thinking and what were they planning?!

Two months is a very long time for both her and you - but you gotta do what you think is right. Being the kind of mom I am, I WOULD call his parents and let them know also.

Might also be time for a talk on birth control. I don't believe this gives them permission, but at least you can feel more confident about protection. Raging hormones and teenagers - what 'cha gonna do!!!

:lol tears

well being closer to your daughter's age (23... but 16 doesnt' feel THAT far away!) let me back her up! she should definitly be grounded for sneaking a boy in.. however... by the sounds of it... i don't think "much" was going to happen.. esp if she had a friend there... 2 months might be if you caught them having sex or something... maybe 3 weeks?? i just LOVE that he was going home to pray... lol... at least he has a sense of humour! let us know how your daughter fairs in all of this!

That young man...what a line...LMAO!!!! Pray!!!! I did stuff like that all the time...but luck was with me and I didn't get caught!!!

I think 7-10 days is long enough at grounding, but I would probably throw in some hard labor!!!! LOL Dishes, laundry, sweeping, dusting, and whatever else I could think of every single day....whatelse has she got to do since you took the phone and computer away..right???

My son is turning 16 next month and will have a car. I've already started a list of hard labor chores!!..LOL

He was goin' home "to pray" you wouldn't call his mama!

ohhh boy, I .loved all your reponses, yes 2 months is a little to long! lol I called my mom up this morning and she just laughed and laughed at me lol she always told me "what comes around goes around" good griefe I have 3 daughters!! my fun is just starting! LOL

I will be calling this kids mom, I have to tell you all this kid is very troubled, my daughter told me that his dad killed himself right in front of him, so ever since, he has been very troubled. I have no idea what his mom will do or say, but she needs to know that her son was out at 2am.

My Mom always said 'what goes around comes around 10 times over'...maybe I should be thankful I had foster kids and never gave birth!! Matter of fact...I am glad and I do believe it...my (step...I hate the word!) son was a wonderful son, yet a holy terror and now he has 3 boys! I'm just sittin' back and waitin' for the fireworks! hehehe!!

Wow.......it amazes me at how many mom's on here would give just a slap on the wrist!! I am a 30 year old mom and I have 2 children...boy and girl....they are still young, but god knows if I ever catch either one pulling something like this, there will be more than just restriction from the computer or come in by dark!!! I had a very lenient mother growing up and that wasn't always the best thing. Maybe I just look at this through different eyes! I too did my share of sneaking around and maybe if my mother would have taken some serious action with me......well, all I am saying is that I had a simialar situation happen to me when I was 14 years old and me and my friend were talked into sneaking out of her house by the boys......needless to say, something was taken away from me that night that changed me forever! I think my mom thought sneaking out was 'normal' and no harm could come from it, so I always recieved very little punishment.......I always wondered as an adult, that if my mom had actually given me major punishment for the times before, would I have even went out that window that night? Who knows....I did finally talk to my mom about what happen to me years later. I guess my whole point is, don't make your daughter think that sneaking boys into the house is worth 'no computer for a week'.....sometimes it's worth a whole lot more!!!!

Since he's very troubled, perhaps he needed to see your daughter and her friend, to talk, to see a friendly face? Maybe find out what he was doing there. I'm sure it wasn't for booty, with two of them there. :laugh: I know it's not acceptable for a boy to be sneaking into the house at that hour, but there could have been a very good reason why. Do you know his mother? Maybe things are really awful at home and he had to get away right then, and your house was the only place he had to go? I'd hold off on telling his mother until you find out more. She might be the reason he was out that late:(

as the step monther of a 16 year old girl and 14 year old boy and the mother of a 13 year old boy and an 11 and 3.5 year old girls. I have to say in my house it would be longer than 2 months. I am sorry if some of think that is harsh but sneaking a boy in is a major thing. Just because there were two girls there doesn't mean it was anything innocent or a prank! I have heard what the girls at the local high schools do.
at my step kids house or at ours they would get the same punishment and that would be doing nothing but go to school and come home for two months minimum. Then after that we could work on getting back cell phone, computer, tv , and friends. Will they be happy with us? No! Do I care, no. I only care that I do everything in my power to make sure they do not get pregnant, raped, or anything else. I can not believe how easy some of you would be on your kids, breaking trust is a huge issue and should be dealt with as such. As for the friend and the boy, parents would be notified and my daughter wouldn't be allowed around them anymore, period!We firmly believe that while we are strict our children are very well adjusted , have a great social life, and are good kids.

Well.....I was not a strict mom and am super proud of my sons - the thing is - there WERE 2 girls in the room - it's a bit different than if it was just the daughter and this is all part of growing up - it would be alot different if they stole a car or something ....but sneaking boys into your room or house is part of being a teenager ...at least when I was a kid it was:) :) :) :)

I still can't get over his response - that was a classic and I swear if I had heard a kid say that I'd have had a very hard time keeping a straight face

he sounds like he's been thru alot though and you're right to tell his mom too -

Have you talked to teenagers today? Just because there were 2 girls in the room doesn't mean anything now a day! Our local town square was shut down to teenagers as the weekend 'hangout' because they were leaving used condoms and such behind!! Seems that now a day, doesn't matter if there are 2 people or 5 people involved or at least watching! Times have changed and kids aren't as innocent as they used to be. I do agree that this incident could have been completely innocent and harmless, but I would still have to pose some type of major punishment just for the fact that he snuck in the house at 2am in the morning......if it was an innocent 'I need to talk to you girls about a major problem I am having"...then why not just call! If my kids every came to me at 2 in the morning with this question of helping a friend, I would say, sure, use the Living room! Just my opinion though.....you do know you daughter better than any of us. Sorry to have posted twice, but this has bothered me since I read it. Good Luck

OMG>.... I just read your post. I about died. lol I bet that boy was freaked out. I would have love to seen the look on all there faces. You are right... The fun is just beginning. I really dont look forward to Lauryn growing up. lol

I remember in 8th grade I had a friend over and My mom and Dad weren't going to be home for hours. So we thought it was cool to invite boys over...(totally harmless)
I have always been told when mom and dad are not home...No boys allowed in the house. Well here we are watching a movie, boys are laying on the couch, the floor, etc. (We weren't doing anything wrong)... But all of a sudden my parents car pulled up outside... The boys took off out the back door. Later that day my dad went to go out the back door and said... where is the door knob??? I was like what???? I have no clue... Well.........He found it out in the yard...lol One of those poor boys must have been so scared that the pulled the door knob right off and got scared and threw it. I just played dumb... I finally told him what happend to that door knob years and years later. lol lol

I think some of you are being too easy on her!
2 weeks, 1 week no phone or anything, and the 2nd week phone yes.
NO COMPUTER for the full 2 weeks
I'm 18, and gosh what I was doing when I was 16
so be careful what you let her do, I don't want her to be crazy!!
to be honest, being too strict wont make your daughter make bad choices
but letting her be wild will!! Be strict!!!

but I have to be honest I laughed when I heard this!!!

:sidesplt: I'm sorry .... but, oh, the "flashbacks"!! You have already received some awfully good suggestions. My son about drove me bonkers when he was a teenager, but that's another story! The really nice thing was to hear him tell me recently, "Mom, I now know what paying for your raising means"!!! :p Being the father of a 17 year old girl, he's getting lots of grey hairs! When his wife calls me to discuss Kayla's "infractions" ... my solution is always, "if I were you, I would just throw her on a plane & send her to Nonnie & Papa .... that will straighten her out!!!" Sadly, she always says, "Yeah, sure!" :(

Seriously, good luck!! I don't envy you at all! ;)

ROTF !!!!!!! BUSTED !! hahahahaha - I bet those boys broke the olympic record for running that day lol... Can you imagine if he couldn't open the door ??? that would be MY luck

Lord, the things I did when I was a teen! I think thats why I'm so strict with her, I say she is still attached to the ambilicord (sp) lol

She kept saying all weekend how dumb she is and she knew better, she kept telling her friend, "were going to get caught" she said she told the kid to stay outside, but he per-swayed her to let him come in. She said he was throwing himself on both girls, trying to get one of them to give it up. This kid needs some serious help, I still have not been able to get a hold of his parents.

My niece tells the story of having a guy in her room when her mom came home ... she put him in the closet ... thatz not so funny ... is it??

HOWEVER! the floor of the closet was on a steep slant b/c it was over the staircase ..... He never got caught, but the visual gets me everytime .... He came sliding out when she opened the door .....

KIDZ! she married now and has 2 boys and one girl ... time will tell!!!