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I'm pregnant- Keep it? OR Adopt it? Thanks for taking a moment to read this! -I just wanted to know if anyone could give their opinions on what you think about women in today's society who are in their mid 20's and capable of raising a child, just not necessarily financially w/o the assistance of family? One must assume in this case that the family is quite eager to readily assist. And that the father want's no part currently in the rearing of the child. -Would you consider it a selfish act to keep this baby and not give it to a family that is more ready? Thoughts? |
I'd keep the baby and try to raise it..but if things didn't work out then i'd let them be adopted into another family. |
If my family was willing and able to help me financially raise the baby, I would definately keep it and let them help me. |
I think no one can know better than the person in that situation if they are ready to provide for a child. But if they are.... then I think keeping their baby and providing for him/her, loving and nurturing them along the way -- what could possibly be selfish about that? |
That's a very personal decision to make. My family is very fortunate that my sister and her husband have a son and a daughter who they adopted at birth. They are ours - blood, guts, and feathers, and the entire family thanks God that the birth mothers of these two precious children made the decision to allow them to be placed with my sis and bil. Our lives would not be complete without them. |
This is a very personal decision but I would keep the baby. My husband and I have always talked about international adoption and if and when we decide to have one, at least one will be adopted. We were thinking about adopting from either China, Columbia or Russia (but we're open to other places -- I guess it all depends on where your heart leads you). |
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Very personal decision...I had my daughter when I was 19 with no family to help me. The father and his family were very involved and that helped alot. I would say that raising a child is more than just finances. Maybe try a parenting class then make your decision. |
Rem&Silk Good advice. Going to a parenting class would probably help most in this decision. I however am quite familiar w/ what goes into raising a child-loads of hands on experience, just not of my own-and I'm not the least bit concerned of my abilities to perform such tasks. It's the financial aspect of it all and the jugling of time. Make sense? Please keep the opinions coming if there are more to be posted! I really appreciate it!! |
I would definitly keep my baby. I know times would be tough, but I have so many friends and family who would love this baby so much, and of course myself. Definitly keeping it, no questions asked. But that's just me. |
You are one year younger than my twins. There is no way that I would encourage them to give the child away. As long as there was a breath left in my body I would encourage them to keep it. It would be different if the mother were a teenager. As for the father not wanting any part of the child rearing, I believe that can sometimes be a blessing. I was a very selfish mother and my babies were mine. I was not willing to share custody and would have gone without child support if I had to. |
Whether or not the father wants to be involved is his decision. Whether or not he wants to be financially responsible is not. He has to be. So maybe that would help you out financially if that is the only thing that is your decision. |
I gave up a baby for adoption when I got pregnant at 17, 36 years ago it was a different world and due to many pressures I decided what was best for him and me. I know I made the right decision but there are always regrets. In this day and age I would try at all costs to keep the baby, but that is with many years of esperiences now behind me. I agree it is a case by case decision and there is no wrong or right answer. |
If the father doesn't want to be involved in the child's life and you are ok with that, that is his decision. But there is no way that he can get out of helping take care of that baby financially. He is obligated under the law to pay child support. Maybe that will help you make a decision. |
Keeping a child when all is against you gives you a constant source of encouragement!! When you are tired just think of the baby and you will once again be strengthened. It may get hard at times, but when you hear "mommy" its all worth it!! GOD BLESS you and your decision! |
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