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Be Honest Ask him when is the wedding if he chokes up kick him to the curb if you cant talk you dont have anything in the long run |
Give him more space then he wants ;) Start taking care of yourself and let him do the same. He will come around. |
I haven't read what anyone else said but be careful you NEVER know what he has planned so don't jump to conclusions if it REALLY starts to upset you, then just ask him simply, "are you planning on marrying me" if he freaks out, he'll get over it, just don't get in a fight with him about it, your relationship is fine. and yes, you're making it too comfortable for him, if you ask me but you are REALLY lucky to find someone with the same beliefs as you and such, that is very difficult to find! |
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im 21 and he's 28. although i feel as if im 41. ive been on my own since i was 16.. so im not afraid to be alone and im not afraid to not have a man (heaven know's that i wouldnt be where i am with having one for all those younger years:) but the funny thing is... is he talks about marriage all the time... its just never including me in it. he's not a good decision maker in any situation in life.. he likes to go to every store and compare every aspect.. so he usually depends on me to give him advice on everything... i just dont want to scare him by saying... hunny im ready to think about getting married... not tomorrow!...just ready to work towards a goal.... i just dont know why guys have to be so difficult to talk to about this! |
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i like the sound of the 4womentalk... its always good to talk to people about your problems and unfortunately its easier to talk to people that you dont see face to face sometimes... does anyone know the website? |
Here is a post about the site http://www.yorkietalk.com/forums/showthread.php?t=51691 |
My husband and I dated 7 years before we married. He had never been married and I had just come out of 8 years of hell in a really bad marriage. We enjoyed the same things, maintained separate households, got engaged at 5 years and were married at 7 years. We were married 13 WONDERFUL years before he died. The 7 years just cemented everything we had together. We both knew we would get married eventually, but we also communicated that fact to each other. It was just a matter of when BOTH of us were ready. I think you need to bring it up and test the waters. You're too young to tie yourself down to someone who may NEVER want to be married at all. |
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You are doing everything for him .... You are supposed to be going out, having fun, raising the roof and being very careful about whom you marry. IMHO, you see him as "security" since you mentioned you have been on your own since you were 16 <????> so you have been with him since you were 19? Could you pick out your wedding gown in 19 minutes? No, you would need more time and that is what I suggest here. Don't be so available to him, make g'friends your own age, go out with them, show him hez not your "where all and end all" ... He may see you as someone "needy" and figures you will be there when and if he makes up his mind. (and it seems you may have to make THAT decision for him also, if he can't pick an item from a store.) I don't mean to be harsh, but does the expression "stringing you along" mean anything to you? Of course, only you can make this life altering decision .... I know what a good marriage is, I have had 2 ... both men passed away younger than it should have been ..and I waited more than 12 years to find my 2nd Prince Charming! .. Now that I have had filet mignon, I can't settle for hamburger! |
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