| Bruce's_Mom | 10-13-2006 10:35 AM |
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Originally Posted by JeanieK I can assure you, with that attitude you are going to have problems. And it has nothing to do with your age. It is because you are looking down on those people.
Just because your education is in a different field from theirs, does not mean that you are better, or more intelligent than they are.
I have a DIL with the same attitude as yours. She feels that because she has more education, that makes her smarter than her mother and me and therefore better than her mother and me. It doesn't. and until she learns that, she will never get along on the job or anywhere else.
See that is where the problem is, It's not because you are young or you look young it's because you ACT young.
But I see this is something that you are going to have to figure out on your own. So good luck.
And just for the record. I wouldnot go back to being your age for anything in the world. Life is much more comfortable when you get older. I like where I am at.
| Here is the thing and I surely did not mean to come off as haughty as I did. But sometimes all of us regardless of age need to suck it up and just do our jobs.
In my line of work there are 1 million things that legal secretaries and paralegals do that I would not even no where to begin how to do, I respect that, need their help, and think they are extremely intelligent and valuable parts of what we do. Similarly, in my field the type of education I have has taught me to do a lot of things they do not have to do, which in a some senses are things that experience performing their jobs just would not teach them. However, I do know I could never get along without support staff.
I do stand behind my statement that if someone is your boss, you need to not treat them as if they are a moron. I also think it is ridiculous politely mind you to make copies for me or find me documents, she should do it without making a big fuss or thinking I am trying to be an a$$. There are good reasons for her to do so (1) clients are billed less for her time; (2) that is what she is paid to do not what I am paid to do and in a 9 hour work day we all have to get as much of our work done as possible; (3) it does not mean she is less intelligent she could be albert einstein for all I care, but it says something about her attitude towards working, when she just refuses or diddles around with work because she resents taking polite direction from someone younger.
The way I look at it there is no amount of education or experience that can save you from being rude!!! Putting people down because they are proud of accomplishments is rude! Not recognizing that going through nearly 10 years of school is an accomplishment and says something about a person's work ethic is just as small minded as thinking less educated people are unintelligent or less valuable! Treating people poorly in the work place because they have to "pay their dues" is not only ridiculous but fosters hostile and unproductive work environments, and I think this is the thing that all of us experiencing it feel is frustrating.
For the record I hate my age too! Neither of my parents attended college, and I think they are two of the smartest people I know, and I know I could never do their jobs no matter how much schooling I have had. I do however think being reasonable people they would not step into my office and assume life experience has given them the ability to be a lawyer. | 