One more coming...
 

Hope I'm not too late!

:hug:

:cry: :hug: :xfingers: :big_hug: Hang in there sweetheart and keep the faith.
God Bless!

Some more for you............

Thanks, everyone!!
 

Keep them coming for a few more days, thanks!!!! It's really great to have you all there for me when I need you!!

HUGS BACK!!:ghug:

Glad,
I'm so sorry that I missed this post when it was posted. I know how it can tear at your heart when your children reject you. My son refused to communicate with me several months ago.

He is constantly getting his finances in a mess, and this time I refused to fix them for him. I told him if he couldn't make ends meet then he would have to get a second job. So he accused me of not caring about my grandsons. I would not allow him to use the children as leverage to control me, so he told me never to contact him again.

I wondered if he would call me on Mother's Day. He did. It's tough to sit back and let them work things out on their own, but sometimes it is the best thing that we can do for them..

I have to remind myself that if God brings me to it, He will help me through it.

The prayer of Serenity has helped me a lot. The toughest part for me is having the wisdom to know which things I cannot control. I finally got wise enough to know that I cannot control other people, I can only control how I react to what other people do.

I hope everything goes well for your sister.

Oh Jeanie!
 

Jeanie, sweetie, thanks so much for sharing your experiences and your wisdom with me. That is indeed a hard thing to remember: we don't have control over other people. Trying to get Jen to get help is all I can do. I can't make her do it. And telling my sis she needs to call her doc is all I can do, I can't make her do it.

It's a great reminder, Jeanie, and I thank you, my friend. The more I get to know you, the more I appreciate you.:)

So did I mention my Mom is a schizophrenic?
 

To add further drama to my already incredibly wierd life, my mom has been a paranoid schizophrenic most of her life. I don't talk about it much because I am so used to it that it really doesn't affect me much anymore. I have as good a relationship with her as I can. She lives in a facility where she is independent, but if she needed help, someone would be there for her.

My mom and my sis have been estranged for a year, ever since my sis and bro wanted to try to take mom in for a medical and mental evaluation and she refused to go and was abusive and evil to them.

So when Renee was diagnosed, I asked her to call mom and tell her. She tried, but mom wouldn't answer the phone (caller ID). So Ren called me and asked me to call. I told my mother, and then Ren called her.

So NOW my mom wants to be at the hospital when Ren gets her operation tomorrow. Ren says she's OK with that, as long as mom doesn't get too wierd with her family. I don't want my mother to go. I already told her she really should stay home, but I have no control over it, being 875 miles away from them. My brother intends to be at the hospital, and my mom is really hateful to him and I just know she is going to cause problems. I hate this that I can't be there to try to keep things calm and quiet and distract my mother so she doesn't try to make this all about her. I already told her that she needs to concentrate on the fact that this is NOT about her, it's about Ren, and she shouldn't start any trouble. I am certain she is pissed at me for saying that, but dang, I couldn't just not say anything. I really don't want her to go.

So I am going to suffer a bunch tomorrow thinking about everyone and wondering how everything is going. I will be in constant touch with my brother, and hopefully all will be OK. I sure hope Ren comes through the operation with ALL the cancer gone, and nothing more needed.

Keep that positive energy coming!!!! We really need it!!!!:(

More positive thoughts coming your way! That's the least we can do.
I will be thinking of you and tonight i will go out specially for you and wish upon a star. You sure need it!

Hang in there girl, you are not alone.

Hi Glad, I'm so sorry to hear about all the things you're having to deal with right now, life can be really tough sometimes. I'm really happy to hear that Wosie is doing so much better, I'm sure her love and kisses are a real comfort to you. I know how difficult it is to deal with depression (from both sides). I am bipolar and both my son and daughter have suffered periodic bouts of depression. It is very hard and frustrating when they refuse to acknowledge it and seek help, but Glad, one thing you must remember is not to take things your daughter says personally. She will try to hurt you but at the same time she doesn't mean it and likely doesn't really want to. When I was in the worst of my depression the one I took it out on was my husband, I can't believe some of the things I said to him. But fortunately he knows how much I love him and that I couldn't live without him and he's supported me now for 34 yrs. It also really helped that he did a lot of research, talked to my doctor's etc. and so understood that it's the illness that makes me act that way. It does get better and we just try to remember the happy times in between. I'm sorry this is so long but I felt so bad that you were feeling so hurt and I know she's probably not doing it on purpose. I hope things improve for you soon and am sending love and hugs to you. :love-hug3 :big_hug:

Oh KATHY!!
 

Thank you so much, honey for your wonderful post! I truly appreciate you sharing your experience with me, and for assuring me that my daughter did not mean to be awful to me. I knew it in my heart, but it sure did hurt to listen to her.

My daughter's husband finally called me back, and was not avoiding me, he just doesn't pick up his messages at work very often, lolol! So I am forwarding the info I sent to Jen about the person at Hospice who can help, and the info about Complicated Grief. I told him I love him, and I will support him as much as I can, but as her husband, he is the one who will have to help my daughter to seek help. I can't make her do it.

He seemed very grateful to me for the call. He's so sweet, and I know my daughter puts him through so much. Thank goodness he loves her with all his heart.

Thanks again to EVERYONE for YOUR love and support! I really don't think I could do this without you!!!:(

[QUOTE=JeanieK]

I have to remind myself that if God brings me to it, He will help me through it.

The prayer of Serenity has helped me a lot. The toughest part for me is having the wisdom to know which things I cannot control.

Hi Jeanie,
Amen, to what you just posted here. Sending a big hug to you Glad, and we are continually praying for you there and your sis and daughter. Hope you are having a nice day. Patti

Thanks, Patti!
 

Thanks! Having a hectic day, and thinking about my sis all day and her impending surgery first thing tomorrow morning...Makes it a little nerve wracking.

I appreciate your good wishes, my friend!:aimeeyork

Saying extra prayers for your family and your sister tonight that she has better news tomorrow.

We will be wishing on that star tonight for your sister\'s surgery tomorrow. Will say a little extra something for you Glad that you will have PEACE each and every moment tomorrow. Don\'t stress the things you just can\'t control honey. Be strong and don\'t worry about your Mom. Maybe she will have larangytis tomorrow! :eek: I can\'t believe I said that, but did I make ya laugh?!?!? :D

Here\'s wishing that all goes well tomorrow. Hang in there. You have a lot of positive energy flowing you way.