Hi Glad,
I am so sorry that you are going through so much and all at one time. We will be praying for you and all that you and your loved ones are going through. I do have some good news, my mother is 92 and she was diagnosed with the same two years ago, as your sis, they did the laser and was cured from it. My friend has BiPolar, and she is on meds that help her with this problem does your daughter have Bi Polar? It took several different Dr.'s to finally get her on the right med and doseage :) She is doing fine now as long as she takes the meds. I have good feelings about things there at work I think they are going to get better for you and it soon will be smooth sailing. Take care of yourself we don't want you getting sick and down. Wosie will be fine with all the TLC from her mommie. :bighug: to you and lots of puppy kisses from Baby Blessing. Patti ~~Baby Blessing~

Sending hugs for you, your daughter, your sister, and Wosie! :ghug:
I know how your daughter is feeling dealing with depression. After my engagement break-up I was a MESS for months...crying, not leaving the house, etc. I don't know what kind of depression she is dealing with (meaning, if she knows the "cause"), but if you want to talk to me or if your daughter is going through man depression and wants to talk to someone who has recently been there, you know my email address. Take care!

Love ya!:bighug: :justahug: :hearts6: :big_hug: :hug60: :love-hug3 :hearts-xx :hearts-en :2hearts2:

hugs from us too
 

:hug: from us too! I know how tough it is with a daughter who is depressed!
My 26 year old daughter has finally left her hubby ( thank heavens...he was a dead beat & not a nice person) and she went into a depression, denied it ...was resistant but ..now, has seen her DR and is on the mend ! It took time.....alot of tears from her & my own..(not to mention some days it took all my patience as I felt like shaking her to bits). We love our kids so I'm sending you another :hug:........and also more strength! If you ever need to chat about it I'm here and you could pm me anytime!

Consider yourself HUGGED Glad! I really hope that tomorrow
brings a better day to you. Sometimes life is just so darn
trying...You are a strong and very inspirational person Glad
hang tough kid it'll get better! :)

hugs..hugs...hugs....
 

Glad...I'm just seeing this thread!:doh: Sending you and your sister the biggest hug this morning...:love-hug3
I'm thinking of you today...and update us on Wosie..k:big_hug:

You are all so wonderful!!!
 

OK, y'all got me teary eyed again!!:(

Debbie, I was afraid that if I dumped all that on you yesterday, you wouldn't want to go to Pigeon Forge with me, lol!!:p

Thanks, everyone! My sis called me last night and her surgery is actually scheduled for Tuesday, so please keep her in your thoughts!!

My daughter's depression is based on the loss of her biological mother almost 5 years ago. In my estimation Jen is suffering from Complicated Grief. I called our local hospice yesterday, and they do grief counseling for free. However, Jen needs to be the one to call. And at this point she is so angry with me, I am sure she will not. She insists that her depression is none of my business, and if she wants to get that sad when she misses her mom, then I should stay out of it. I can't though. I love her so much, and I see what these continual bouts do to her husband and her family. If she doesn't watch out, she will lose them. Her husband is at his wits end. I am going to try to call him today and see if I can't get him to talk her into it. The hard part is, my husband (her father) wants me to butt out. I can't. I just can't. She needs help, she's hurting, and I love her. If she lost her family because of this, I would never forgive myself for watching her do it and not trying to help.

Wosie is a pretty sad little girl this morning. She still doesn't want to eat, and whimpers a little when I pick her up. I am going to take her to work with me and keep an eye on her. I can't believe they did not give her any pain killers. It was really sad watching her do her business this morning. She couldn't even squat to go poo! She pooed standing straight up!! I have never ever seen a pup do THAT before!:eek:

Thanks, everyone, for all your love, support, and advice. You are so wonderfully kind!! I love you all!!:animal36

Im so sorry you are having a bad day and all the stuff going on. Me, Chloe, Tink & Penny are sending you lots of hugs and I will keep you in my prayers too :hug:

Glad~
I'm glad Wosie is getting better, your sister will be in my thoughts and prayers
now and on Tuesday.
And your daughter... that is tough, I have a friend who's mother and brother both committed suicide,, it is tough,,on her and everyone around her,, I can't imagine.. I hope she gets some professional help, sound like that is what she needs, I have tried to help my friend for 15+ years, it's rough.. Good luck, and maybe you should talk to her hubby, he's got to understand..:(

Hey Glad...I know what Rhonda is talking about ....my cousin committed suicide at 30 years old...this is a very scary illness so hang in there MOM and don't give up !

I'm glad little Woosie is home...that's one thing to be happy about - and in case you missed Chanel's message in the Toy thread - here she is with something for you ....

:hearts-en HI glad , Just wanted to say I hope things turn out for you all , Woosie feels better soon as well as your daughter depression sucks but action helps .Sad to hear about your sister to my mom had cervical cancer and was cured she was cancer free for 8 yrs , I hope your sister finds herself with a good prognosis , till then give her lots and lots of love , (Like you couldn't do that )
Anyways I believe in miracles and goodness so I'll be looking into the light of goodness for you and your family and believe me I"ve been there many times ,seen miracles happen in the power of love ,And know beyound a dout that no matter what you will be okay and so will they . love ya sister friend hang in there todays a new day" . Mini sends kisses and I hugs ...and lots and lots of love :ittykiss: :iheartu: :2hearts2:

Glad, I am so sorry to read about things going rough for you.

Regarding your sister. Yesterday was six year appointment with the oncologist. After my final cat scan, and blood work come back normal I will officially be considered cured and released from his care.

I was diagnosed with stage 2 cerival cancer 6 years ago at 38. All the more reason EVERYONE should go for their annual pap test. ( I was already going every 6 months at the time).

If caught early cervical cancer has a high survival rate. If I can help your sister in anyway, even if she just wants to talk. PM me I'll give you my number. Sometimes it helps to talk to someone who has been their done that.

Hugs to you.

WAY TO GO AND WHAT A HUGE RELIEF ! BIG hugs to you - what a load off your mind and that was so nice of you to share that big news.

Thanks so much, everyone!
 

Susan, I PMed you, and you KNOW you rock, sweetie.:thumbup:

Everyone else, thank you so much for your good wishes, advice, and love. You have no idea what you all mean to me, and from the bottom of my heart I thank you so much for caring about my family.

And I can't stop giggling at Chanel's picture, so THANK YOU, V my friend!:p

Not to worry, Glad...we ARE going to Pigeon Forge!!! Nothing you could have told me yesterday could have changed my mind about meeting you and Dave for our weekend. Never feel that you can't share your sorrows with me or anyone of YT for that matter! We are ALL here for you and you are always here for us! You are very blessed to have such a wonderful family and I am just so sure that everything will work out for all of them. I am sure the Dr.'s that are treating your sister are the best and will take the best care of her possible. Your daughter just really needs a wake up call and I am sorry that everybody is coming down on you about it. Depression is a very complicated disease. It takes so many different paths and affects the lives of everyone involved with that person. The first step is for her to realize that she is not just sad but that she is really sick and needs to seek help. I agree that talking to her hubby might be the best thing to do right now. Maybe he can get thru to her and not just give up on her. And as for you, dump your cares and concerns on me anytime you need to...that is what friends are for! We all love you girl! Keep your chin up and stay that happy person that we all know you are!!! Better days are coming your way...I just know it!!! :)

Glad,
I've had you on my mind so much. You are such a loving, giving person and I know you must be suffering, especially about your daughter. All you can do is let her know that you love her and you are there if she wants to talk. You can not force her to get help. I know that must be frustrating because you want to "fix" it for her, but unfortunately, that is not how depression works. You can't make her better without her help. Just like you can't take the cancer treatments to cure your sister, depression is an illness. Hopefully her husband will hang in. He should go for some counseling by himself to learn how to deal with her. As much as you love her, you can't make her better. She has to decide that she wants to do it. Only then will she be on the road to recovery. I'm sorry that you are going through this. It is harder, I think, to stand by when someone you love is sick. I think my family takes my illness much harder than I do. I know you feel helpless, but just continue to pray for her and let her know you love her. God bless, my friend.

Oh wow...
 

It's a darn good thing I don't have to talk to the screen to get it to type for me, as this lump in my throat right now would make it truly impossible.

Debbie and Teri, how did I get so lucky as to find friends like you? I am truly blessed. Deb, I will share with you, and I thank you for telling me that it's OK to do that. Teri, I appreciate your approach to this, and I agree, my course of action right now is to back off from Jen, and turn to her husband to see how things will progress from his side.

I saw Jen last night at my grandson's preschool graduation, and she did hug me hello, but then refused to meet my eyes for the rest of the evening. It was OK, I wasn't feeling too friendly to her either. You would not believe some of the things she said to me yesterday. She was really out to hurt me as much as I "hurt" her for insisting that she needs help. It was awful. You guys will really appreciate this... she said that she doesn't want my quest to get her help to become "ANOTHER ONE of your WIERD OBSESSIONS". lolol She was talking about YT!!!! lolololol HA! And you know what?? That hurt my feelings! Among other things... it was a really bad day.

My sister had to have a chest xray as they are trying to see if there is cancer anywhere else prior to surgery. She tried to get the results, and her OBGYN knows what the results are, but said he wanted the oncologist to talk with her about it, so that scared the stuffing out of her. The oncologist wasn't to be in until today, and she has an appointment with him later today. Oh man, if this is more than just cervical, that will be way bad... I will let you know.:(

Wosie is almost back to her silly little self. :D She is wagging her tail enthusiastically again, and she has a lot more pep and vigor than she did yesterday. So she is truly on the mend. I cannot get over how bruised her poor little tummy is.:( I feel so bad she had to endure so much pain. But it's for the best.

Hugs to all of you who are following my tales of woe. I really really appreciate all of your love and support, and will continue to need it at least for the next week or so. Thank you so much, and I love you all!!!

HUGS!!!

Glad, one thing I learned is that the oncologist has to tell you everything. The other people even though they did the test won't discuss ANYTHING with you. The one good thing about cervical cancer is that it can only spread up or down. It cannot jump to other places. (so it has to go through the uterus next). The worse part is all the waiting. Tell you sister to tell the oncologist to make sure he removes the lymph nodes. It is only other place that cancer cells can go from the cervix, besides up and down, well they are down.

Hugs to you, Remember if she wants to talk call me.

Glad, we are praying that your sister gets good news from her oncologist today regarding the Chest X-ray...positive thoughts honey, positive thoughts. Here is a big ole hug for you! :hug: That'll have to do til I see you in person!!! :D :daisy:

Thank you, ladies!
 

Susan, I will tell my sister when I talk with her today that you are available to her if need be. Thanks again, sweetheart, for being so caring and giving!:D

And Debbie, I just love you.:p

Update!
 

My sister called me, and her chest xray was perfectly clear. YEE HAW!! Now we just need to get through the surgery on Tuesday, and we will know how she needs to proceed. I am hoping that she will not need to proceed and that the surgery will get it all, the lymph nodes will all be clear, and she will just need to recover from surgery and will be cancer free. Chemo sucks.

AND I seem to have reconciled with my daughter!! I thought for sure that this would go on for a long time and the hurt would just keep on coming. But I found this beautiful poem yesterday while searching for info on how to heal a family rift, and I emailed it to her. My message said; "Jen, you are one of my best friends. Let's not have that stop now." She called me right after she got the email, and we had a lovely conversation. Of course we talked about other things, and not the reason for our fight, but we talked normally, and happily, and at the end of the conversation she said, "Bye, I love you". It just made my heart melt...:cry: I will keep on insisting that she needs help, but I won't be forceful, and I will also work through her husband. Someday she will be better.

Here is the poem. It's a beautiful link, so pretty, so you should check that out too.

http://www.stinalisa.com/TimeLove.html

Over the years we experience hurt
By those whom we love the most
We allow it to grow and tear at our hearts
Until it lingers as an ever-present ghost.

Harsh words that are said during a family rift
Cause confusion to hinder our way
We justify our anger while defending our pride
With our feelings of deceit and betray.

The years go by; we go on with our lives
Without resolving the distant breach
"It does not matter," we say to ourselves
As we keep them beyond our reach.

If we only knew that Time and Love
Are the only things we have in this world
And the Time spent apart; the Love that we lost
Is more valuable than the harsh words hurled.

But it's never to late to make that first move
To heal the wounds that maim our heart
One telephone call or a letter by mail
Is the beginning of a brand new start.

~ StinaLisa ~
©Copyright 2000

I am so glad that her chest X-ray was clear! I have had her on my heart for days! This is just great news!!! And I am also thrilled that you and your daughter and speaking again. Just take it slow with her. Sometimes the hardest part is admitting you have a problem. Maybe the normalcy she sees in the rest of you will tip her off that something is wrong and she will reach out for help. Denial can be an ugly thing and usually results in her getting angry with the one trying to help as you have found out! I am sorry you hurt for her and I know it breaks your heart to see her like this, but she will come around! You just watch!!! Just take the "kill her with kindness" approach...be her friend. That is what she needs the most right now. Oh what a happy day for you!!! Did ya do your "Happy Dance"??? :D

AWesome Glad , When my mom had it surgery was all she needed no chemo .I hope that will be her case also .and by the way ...Great job with your daughter ...your love is amazing ...

So is yours, honey!!
 

I appreciate BOTH of my "Deb friends" oh so much!!:p

xoxoxox

I'm so Glad that you had that chat with your daughter. You must be a very caring mom! :D

Prayers and hugs coming your way, hope things look up for you soon :big_hug:

I am so so sorry to hear of you troubles. My prayers are with you, wosie, your sister and your daughter. sometimes life really tests us doesnt it. Try to keep the faith hun. I know all about going through almost exactly what you are going through, Only it is my "sister" who has the depression, and "myself" who has a recent illness, my gramma and my dad just passed away in February........if you ever need to talk hun just pm me ok.. Good luck and God Bless!

Thanks, lovely people!
 

Just got off the phone with my sis. She sounds pretty down today. She read me the biopsy report and she has invasive adenocarcinoma of the cervix.

She was feeling pretty bad, and said she has pain and swelling in her abdomen that she did not have before, but she was resigned to deal with it and wasn\'t going to call the doctor!:eek: I convinced her to give her doc a call TODAY!!!! She said she didn\'t want to!!! I asked her why, and she said because she\'s afraid to hear that it\'s gotten worse this past week, and she thinks it has.

OMG OMG OMG.... Tuesday can\'t come soon enough!!!!!!!!! I want ALL THIS CRAP OUT OF HER!!!!!!!!!!!! :mad:

:ghug: :ghug: :ghug:

did you feel if Glad? hang in there, it will get better soon! we are here for you if you need anything, have a couple more hugs!

xoxoxo we love you glad! xoxoxoxo
-your yt family

Thanks, Nicole sweetie!!
 

I really needed that...:(

Hopefully the surgery will take cae of it. Prayers and hugs still coming your way!!