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God has a purpose for all of us on this earth..some of us are go through life with what may look like a burden to carry, but when we help each other carry their burdens, then we all make it just fine.[/QUOTE]

Beautiful words, Pat. Heather, I too have seen unbelievalble things happen
from something that at the beginning we feel we cannot handle. My oldest
daughter has a best friend and their 7th child was born retarted. The Mom
and Dad of course were beside themselves. As little Terry got older he
taught ALL OF US so much about life. His brothers and sisters were all "A"
students and they learned to accept people with less ability more easily etc etc and I could go on forever about what it did for my children.
My daughter was amazed by his sense of humor and I really think that is
why she decided to teach disabled children. She now has 11 children in
her class and ea. one has a different problem and I don't know how she
does it but she does and she loves it. Heather, if it were my baby I would
feel just like you at this point but hold on to the fact there may be a "rainbow"
waiting for you and your husband. I am going to call this afternoon and put
you on our prayer list at church. Hugs.

Heather,
You are a strong woman and I will pray for your little one and you and your family...Remember to have faith in God and you can get through anything. Please take care of yourself, and we will all be here for you whenever you need to talk.
Pat, your story was very touching, and those of you who have posted poems and stories give Heather hope and support.

This is true..........God doesnt give you more than you can handle...........but i bet its more than you can handle right now.i am going to pm you...

For Heather:

Ode to Special Moms

Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social
pressures and a couple by habit.

This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children.
Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen?

Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments for
propagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs
his angels to make notes in a giant ledger.

"Armstrong, Beth, son, patron saint, Matthew. Forrest, Marjorie, daughter,
patron saint, Cecilia.

"Rudledge, Carrie, twins, patron saint, give her Gerard. He's used to
profanity."

Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped
child."

The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."

"Exactly," says God. "Could I give a handicapped child to a mother who does
not know laughter? That would be cruel."

"But has she patience?" asks the angel.

"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of
self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wear off, she'll
handle it.

"I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence that is
so rare and so necessary in a mother. You see, the child I'm going to give
her has his own world. She has to make it live in her world, and that's not
going to be easy."

"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you."

God smiles. "No matter. I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just
enough selfishness."

The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?"

God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally,
she'll never survive. Yes, here is a woman whom I will bless with a child
less than perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied.
She will never take for granted a 'spoken word.' She will never consider a
'step' ordinary. When her child says 'Momma' for the first time, she will
be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or a sunset
to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations.

"I will permit her to see clearly the things I see . . . ignorance,
cruelty, prejudice . . . and allow her to rise above them. She will never
be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life,
because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."

"And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel, pen poised midair.

God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."

- Erma Bombeck, May, 1980

So Beautiful
 

I don't think I have read anything quite so beautiful and perfect for Heather.
Tears were streaming down my face as I read it.

I just wanted to jump on here and say how much it means to me that you have all written these wonderful things on here. They have touched my heart, as well as my families hearts. I have only been a member of yorkie talk for a few months now, and already you have all become so special to me. Anytime I feel down, I can get on here, and someone will be there to cheer me up. You are all like a second family to me. There are others here that have been through similar experiences, and are more than willing to lend a hand with questions, or even just be there to listen. I truely care so much for you all, and I hope that if any of you ever need me for anything, that I will be able to return the favor. By the way here are some pictures of him for you all to see, this is my sweet little baby Ayden Alexander!!

He's an angel, Heather. These special units at the Children's Hospitals across the country
for the most part give the best and most loving care. Thank you for the pictures...give him a big kiss for me.

the last pics were right after he was born, here are some more from when we brought him home, then the one of him smiling, was at 5 months, will take more soon..

Oh Heather, I'm so sorry to hear all of this, How on earth are you keeping it together for the rest of your family, only God will know. I will keep you and you family in my thoughts and prayers. May God help you through this difficult time and may your baby grow and healthy. We are all here for you, if you ever need anything, just let us know!
Oh my gosh, he is beautiful!! :p

You Are Wonderful
 

Heather, you are wonderful and a strong woman. God has chosen you for this special baby because you are a special mom. You can handle this and he knows it. Please believe that. He is beautiful! Please keep us updated. You are in our thoughts and prayers. God Love You All.

Heather, Aiden is adorable. He is such a cute little boy. I will keep in my prayers.

Your baby is precious.

Heather really is a strong mom. I know her personally because Ayden had to come into the pediatrician's office so much to have his blood drawn. We got to know one another because the other nurses would call on me because Ayden is not the most generous little boy with his blood..:-) I could usually talk him out of it. Heather has impressed me in that she is so calm with Ayden. Especially with her other little ones around, she shows the patience of a saint. Heather is wise beyond her years, and I think God did bless her with Ayden because he knew she was the perfect Mommie for this precious boy.

I will keep you, your beautiful son, and your family in my prayers. I prayer for strength for you and your family.

God Bless and God be with you
 

My prayers are with you....and prayers do really work

Oh my gosh! Tiffany that was the sweetest thing!! You really were my favorite nurse he ever had. You also have a HUGE heart!!! Thanks again for everything that you do for him, and continue to do in the future!!! God Bless You, Heather

praying
 

Heather, I didn't read all the posts, but felt lead to post myself. I know that God is with you. We'll be praying for you and for your little one. I feel that God knows what He gives us when He gives it to us. He won't give you more than you can handle, even if you feel you can't handle it. Just remember, lean on Him when you need it. He will get you through these bumps in your life. God is going to use your little boy to show you and others what an angel can be. Hang in there and we're here for you.



God bless, Heather A

I love the pictures of your son with the big smile on his face. I will keep him in my prayers.

You deserve prayers and much more. As for your child I am sure he will meet and surpass your expactions and those of anyone else. He is a Gods child and a very special one. :thumbup:

Heather,

I just found this post, and want you to know that many, many prayers are coming for you and your family.

Isn't this a great group of caring folks. I have read many of the posts, and could hardly hold the tears back.

Ayden shows strength, just like you.

We all care about you, so please keep us posted when you can.

God bless,

Kate

thank you all so much! Yes this really is like a second online family for me. All of the people here are so wonderful! They all have been such a support system for me. I hope that you are all blessed with health and happiness!!! Heather

Heather, I am sorry I did not read your post sooner. Ayden is a beautiful baby. I just want you to know that I have had some adult friends who are blind. They have full lives, successful careers, happy marriages, and in a few cases GREAT DOGS who go everywhere with them. A few of these friends have been blind since birth, and never considered themselves to be limited in any way. I believe their parents had a lot to do with their successes. Ayden will be taking his cues from you as he grows up. I believe that as long as you let him know that he can achieve and do anything, he will.

One of my friends is a well-known lawyer in the Justice Dept in Washington DC. She was responsible for getting legislation changed to allow working dogs into the Capitol building....she did this after she went to testify before Congress one day and was told she could not bring her dog, Beau, into the Senate chambers. The rule is changed now, thanks to her and Beau.

Beau died earlier this month. He had retired a few years ago, but stayed on with the family and went to work with the husband. There was a big article in the Washington Post about Beau and his mistress.

I'm sorry---I am wandering here. The point is, blindness does not have to be a disability or a barrier to a happy life.

dear heather,
you did nothing wrong! my prayers are with you & your sweet baby!