So off topic, but need to get this off my chest
 

My husband and I are planning a move to Concord, NC and I am so upset about it. Everything in it is right, better education for the kids, less crime, better job for hubby.. EVERYTHING is right. Only problem is that I would be leaving my WHOLE family. This is killing. Plus, taking my children away from my parents would hurt them too... Please tell me that I am doing the right thing in leaving. Where I'm at currently, Miami-Dade County, Fl. The school are failing schools at this point in time. Those of you in FL know how we do our grading. We grade our schools in letter grades and the high schools that my son would have to go to in 1 1/2 years is f rated... I'm just so devastated about leaving my family.. I've been crying all day over this...

I was faced with the same choice almost 5 years ago. We moved from the town that I'd always known to Victoria. On top of that, we lived with my in-laws for a couple of months. We had no jobs when we first moved down here. I HATED IT! I hated leaving my mom, my dad, the only family I really have. I hated it even worse living with a$$ backwards in-laws. I was ready to leave my husband and move back home with my kids.

It does get easier. I don't get to see my dad or mom as much...my mom did end up moving about an hour from me. Yes, I still miss home, miss the places I would go to, miss my friends. When one door is closed, a window is opened.

It's not easy and I won't lie and say it is. But you need to do what is best for your kids. I won't say that I love everything about living down here, because I don't...but I wouldn't go back "home" for anything. This is my home now.

Thanks Kimberley. I know that everything in my heart says this is the right thing and I do hate where I'm at now, but it's going to be so hard on me and the kids at first.

SIGHHHHHHHHHHHHH Welcome to my world :(


I ONLY stick it out for my kids. Personally I am DYING inside :(

Good Luck!!!! I know things are hard and you see a lot of negatives here, and that is very natural, bu it can be a golden opportunity for you. As you said, better job for hubby, better schools for the kids, safer living conditions for everyone. Hopefully there are some positives for you.

It can be a wonderufl opportunity for you, your husband and children to become even closer. I know from experience. Ron and I moved 10 times the first 10 years we were married, he was in mid management for a large computer manufacturer. Two of those moves I was pregnant. Not only did we move ourselves, but our Irish Setters and horses 1/2 way across the country. We moved away from ALL of our family and friends. Ron and I were forced to work together to take care of our young children. 25 years later we are still happily married.

I know this probably won't make you feel better but I live about thirty minutes from Concord and even though you will miss your family terrible:( I think you'll grow to love it here. Have faith :)

Thanks Michelle.. We're actually thinking about driving up this weekend and taking a look around. My hubbys job offer is actually in Charlotte..

Well I think that is so great!!! I live in Charlotte :) I'd love to help you out any way I can and would love to have playdates :D See! you already have a friend here ;) Everything will be ok, you'll see :)

My father was military, so we moved ever couple of years. My mom is from SC, and my father is from PA, so we never really lived near family.

Like Kimberley says it takes time, but soon it will be 'home' to you. With children, you will have the opportunity to meet other moms and I bet you'll find that they are more than willing to 'share' their community with you. Just ask lots of questions. People love to tell you their thoughts on where to find the best restaurants, barber, shopping, gyms, etc.

My family (because of my mom) always looked at each move like a new adventure and she would always stress the positives, so I learned to like the changes. Help your kids look up information about Concord and NC so they will know what to expect. (My mom would have LOVED to have had the Internet when we were little-we just went to the library!)

Kids adjust fast, just try not to let them know your fears about the move. Trust me, they'll smell your weakness and use it against you later! :p

Good luck!!

BTW-That's a lovely part of the state!

GO FOR IT !! CHANGE IS GOOD !! :D

It sounds like a new beginning for you ! Thats wonderful !

By what you're telling us, I'd leave Fl behind and look forward to a new life in NC. The best to your husband on his new job offer and to all of you in your home in NC. You've already got a friend in Charlotte ! Good Luck !

It is hard, but it does get better. I did the same thing, only it was me who needed to move and dragged my husband and daughter with me. We both left all our family behind and yes, it was really really hard! But it was the best thing we could have done for several reasons.

Someone mentioned that your (immediate) family may get closer because you will need to depend on each other - no one else, at first. This is so true, hopefully it will be true for you also.

The other benefit is that, every family has some members that you would just as soon not see too often - and now you don't have to. Both my husband and I thank goodness, from time to time, that we are away from our families and get to deal with the crazies by long distance, rather than face to face.

Yes, you do miss them terribly, but that will ease. If you don't have a nationwide cell plan - get one with lots of minutes so that you can call any time you want - it will make you feel much closer.

Make a list of the postitives and the negatives and then try to figure out how to turn the negatives into positives.

We made our move 20 years ago and I cannot imagine living anywhere else now. This is my home and it always will be - but I could not imagine saying or feeling that 20 years ago.

Good luck with everything!

You'll make it! Just keep your chin up and try to be up beat about it. It's a new start! Just think...no one will know your secrets or gossip...it'll be a whole new you! :D

Why did you pick Concord? Can't you move to a part of FL w/ better schools? You'd be nearer to your family and get your kids the education they deserve. Is hubby's job the main reason?

Yes, ym husband job is the main reason. Also, the fact that FL. housing and insurance is gettin WAY out of hand because of hte hurricanes. I am a Fl native and that is part of the hesitation, but I do LOVE NC and know that I would be so happy there. It's just getting over the initial fear. Which I'm sure is normal in any move..

Thanks
 

Thank you for all of your words of advice. I will take them all to heart. Michelle I'll be looking for you when I get up there.. Daisy will need a buddy and lord knows I will...