Don't know how mothers do it
 

So I took my four cousins to the ameusment park today (all aged 13)

We had a great time and all, but DAMN!!! I am certain I don't want to have children! (skin children;))

Now I am not a boring cousin, so we went hard, got there at 10 left at 5 and had a blast!!

BUT I am so intensly exhausted! I was dripping wet when I get home and had to take off *everything*... took a bath and now I just woke up from a night nap. I think I feel worse! my body aches and I think I'm coming down with the flu now in need of some serious :nursing:

Gosh, how do yoll mothers do it? I have so much respect for you guys!

(great thing about having a yorkie baby is, when I said "night nap Ziggy" he curled up next to me and went straight to sleep, gotta love him:aimeeyork)

*time for a glass of wine

HA! I was just talking to one of my co-workers who is 25 about this very topic. At 25 I had no desire to have children but I can tell you I can't imagine my life now without my sweet boy Isaiah. Even the nights that he doesn't want to go to sleep or the mornings where he doesn't want to brush his teeth (which obviously is mandatory) I am so thankful for him. I have the most respect for single Moms....my husband and I are equal partners in all aspects of our partnership.

hehehe, Morgan I am 25 :cool:

I don't know if this feeling will ever go away. My close friend is 9 months pregnant and she too did not want kids, but it happened (she's been with her partner for 10 years now) My mom is a single parent and I know what you mean I so respect her strength. And you sound like an amazing mommy to Isaiah (that's him in your avator right? he's so cute!)

I use to want babies and wedding and all, but the more I mature, the less I want such things (I have just "helped raise" too many children, as I am one of the elder youths in my family)

I think I'm going to stick to spoiling my baby cousins (I have 6 of them so you can imagine!!!) and soon to be little "nephew" :D

Awe thank you yes that's my buddy in my Avatar. It's an amazing love that I have for him. I also have an amazing love for Georgie and Coco:) It's really awesome to be a Mommy! I totally understand how you feel though I felt the same way! I have 3 nieces and 3 nephews and spoiled them too:)

I'm 25 too and I have absolutely no desire to have children right now. I just babysat my 5 month old niece for five hours the other day and I was absolutely exhausted. I think I will just enjoy my nieces and nephew forever :)

We raised 4 children. 2 boys 2 girls. Believe me, we were running ragged when they got big enough for sports. Had to be at 3 ballfields at the same time. That`s where grandma comes in. lol. You get used to things as you get the kids. Not a worry. I also did child care in my home. lol I think that`s why my daughter doesn`t want kids.

Wow, you are a very busy lady! I can only imagine the love of someone that came from you. It is a beautiful gift to women, but some of us are ment to be spetators and say "ohh" and "aww" lol

I'll let you know how this goes when I'm 30!:wink:

Oh:yay_jump: another 25 year old..
Gosh and I must say, feel exactly the same!! Ziggy (and future Zoey) will be my babies

lol, Is your daughter the eldest? I think when you see first hand how hard it is for your parents, it really makes that decision a very serious one you know! With four kids (her 3 siblings), I can understand where your daughter is coming from.

I'm so lucky because my mom is very young (in her early 40. she got married to her high school sweet heart right after high school, they got divorced 16 years later). So she fully supports the idea of never having to be called ........... granma:eek: lol

p.s. from someone who is still a baby with a mom with 3 children, I have to say how awesome you must be to have raised 4 children!!:notworthy

I raised three children one girl, now 27 and two boys ages 23 and 21...alone. It was crazy for a while there when my youngest decided he wanted to play rep ball. Racing all over the province to get this child to whatever basketball tournament or game he was playing in, and working full time!
Not to toot my own horn, but i did a dang good job.
Daughter is a nurse, two boys in school...one in second year University (the youngest), the older boy in humber college.
Was it hard hell yeah!! Would i do it again.....hmmmmm probably not, i would have stopped at one...love them dearly but man not at all easy!
Dad was a deadbeat, so I just did what I needed to do.
Aside from my furbabies, they enrich and fill my life with joy.
My daughter has no desire to be a mom, I respect her for that.. it looks like the 6ft 5in basketball player will be the one to make me a granny!
I can wait though.
At this point in my life I'm good.
I have twin neice and nephew...9years old...what a handful! I say to my sister all the time your're good ...me I'm with them an hour and I'm exhausted!!
She has hubby to help, but geez...9YEAR OLD TWINS!!
At 25 i was out partying my backside off, two years later along came my daughter...she wasnt planned and I was little older, it still wasn't easy.
How do we do it? we just do....you will know IF and/or when you are ready.

very honest
 

:eek: twins! Gosh your sister is amazing, wow. Raising well adjusted, kind, confident etc children is the hardest job in the world, so go ahead and toot your horn!!:). You'll have beautiful TALL grankids though:p

You know the funny thing is I'm not into the party scene anymore. I've been partying since I was 17, I'm over it. I pretty much spend my days building my company, loving on Ziggy or have lunch/dinner with friends. I'm more of a home body, so I know its not that. I like my life this way. I would like to meet a nice young man who also does NOT want kids and is content with "our" furbabies! Then I will be even happier with my life!

Its great to hear woman talking about just how hard it is. A lot of the time people don't tell you the whole story. But because I have seen it first hand it all just confirms my stance!lol

I'll stick to :aimeeyork I think

LOL! I dont blame you one bit! The 6ft 5er is a real cutie too, takes after his momma!
He had to write an essay on who was the strongest force in his life....It was ME!! According to him the strongest woman he knows, and he got an A...*snif* made me all teary eyed, and he was the one that gave me the most trouble!! Through it all they turned out wonderful!
So now that they are all grown up, i can focus on my :aimeeyork:aimeeyork. Yup life is good.

ooohhh put it like this.. Im closer to 36 than 35 at this point.. YES... 3-5! I have NO desire to have kids. My husband has an 18 year old and a 16 year old. I am starting to get a tiny bit of empty nest syndrome because we did have fun when we had the kids and they were younger and we could do things that are not really acceptable when you don't have kids... like arcades and go karts! LOL So I kind of miss the kids at ages 10-15, but once they hit 16, they are no longer kids, no longer much fun, and no longer around much.
We have no desire to start over now. YIKES! I have a 1 & 3 year old nephews... they are SOOOOOO much work. Cry over everything, need to watched, changed, fed, taken care of, carried.... ugh! love them and love to visit them .. after 2-3 hours Im done! LOL

Aww, I must say mommy son relationships always get to me. I see my mom and my brother (who is also way taller than her) and its just so sweet!

Any man who can recognise and speak of his respect for his mommy gets an A in my books too. I'm guessing you have girls blowing up your home phone for him night and day!lol:rolleyes:

Oh my word, its so nice to hear from someone has has made this decision and stuck to it.. And also I think it is such a blessing that you DH already had babies so noone had to compromise on this issue you know.

:p that's my thinking in life too! *I love kids, as long as I cam give them back to their mommy* My mom feels the same about my Ziggy, she'll love on him and everything, BUT when he starts fussing she says "Go to your momma"

Yes that is no joke, all night long! He's told them not to call after certain times, seeing as momma is up at three am to head for work....These little girls dont want me talking to them!!

hehehehehe, he'll move out soon, don't worry:p:rolleyes:

I truly hope so....much as I love these kids, I'm actually looking forward to the empty nest!!!

I have 4 kids 2 boys and 2 girls. My oldest son is 23, and my youngest one is 13. My girls are in the middle 21 and 17. It is very hard but you just go with the flow. I didn't realize how hard it was when they were small because I just did it. Plus I was younger too :rolleyes: the running around is crazy. Sports...dance...it's nuts. I have to admit I miss it though. Now the oldest 3 drive and have their own friends and stuff. They go where they want. I used to say when they were little it really doesn't last long befor they don't want mommy to drive them anywhere or go to their games.
I wouldn't trade being a mother for anything in the world. To watch your children grow. It is the most amazing job in the world. I was lucky enough not to have to work so no daycare for my kids. I wiped every nose ( and butt) lol
Being a mom changes your life forever.

well. after reading your thread I don't have too much to add that is different.

I have a 25 year old daughter. She loves children and loves to babysit, but she says the same. She is just not ready for children. She isn't even ready to take care of a dog!!

I will say babyies do start out small.. I guess if we gave birth to a pre teen no one would want a child.

I wanted children, but really did not crave having children until after my first. The ability to care for the child grows as the child grows. Looking back (two girls, two step children, full time work as a teacher, very active in sports/clubs/girl scouts/ pets came later when they were in their teens) I would have had more children if my dh had let me. I just don't know how I did it either. I am old enough I could not do it again lol (but it I had to I would).

Yes.. I have the empty nest. So now that they are moved out I have dogs. I guess the "gene" to nurture and such was "activitated" and just can't turn it off. lol

lol lol lol, that's what my mom says to me all the time. I'm moving out in about 6 months and she says she ant wait!! Funny though because she'll still have 2 more to "get out":rolleyes:

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That is such a great way to describe motherhood. I see the happiness that my pregnant friend feels and shares with me (Last night she called me saying the baby had dropped, so any day now:wub:)

lol, yep, that gene is powerful! its what makes a person have 2 then 3 then 6 furbabies and what drives mothers to do what they do regardless of the hard times!

I know I have that gene, but I think I have used it up on human babies!lol.. My younger sister was born when I was 12, my two half sisters are 6 and 3, then I have two small cousins that are 9 and 7.:eek:. I have changed diapers, helped with the sex talk, and now help with my brother, who is 20! So I think I have gone through the whole process of having a baby till late teenagehood! lol.

No babies here either. No boyfriend either. :p haha! I'm pretty much content with things just being Kaji and me. I've always been the nurturing, loving kind of person, and Kaji wants to be nurtured and loved. Win win for us, as we're the perfect pair. :) (FYI I'm 26, not too far off from you OP!)

Oh YAY! was begining to thing I was the last single person on the planet!lol. I agree, all my nurturing goes to Ziggy who is a Super Mama's Boy!lol But I love it!

At times I feel that way too. All my friends are married or in super long relationships. I'm the only one that's all alone. That's why Kaji's so awesome. All the love and none of the drama. :)

I'm 21, almost 22, and really have no desire to have kids ANY time soon. I know some people my age who just can't wait. I certainly can! LOL.

I've grown up being the "Big sister" or the "older cousin" my whole life, so I've had plenty of kid experience. My youngest sister is 4 and my oldest brother would have been 12 this year (he passed in '06). My other brother (my dads son) is 8. I also have many young cousins who I spend time with etc. It's SOOO nice to be able to go home and hand them back to their parents, LOL. I also live with my 4 year old sister most of the time at my moms house and it's so much work, and she's not even mine, but she's always around of course.

I love having Jackson. He gives me just enough responsibility and nurturing and mothering stuff, but he's so much easier, hahaha. I really enjoy my time and a baby would completely change that. It's not that I'm selfish per say - I'm a homebody, I enjoy staying at home, or going out to dinner, and doing doggy things with Jackson. I'm responsible for my age, not a partyer, and mature. But still... kids... Ugh, God, I can't even imagine having a kid right now! Or even in the next 10 years, LOL.

I don't know, I like to think someday I will have 1 or 2 kids. I haven't written it off by any means. I'm still young though and in no hurry. Besides I need find a good guy first! ;)

I loved having children, I really felt like I had something to offer them. I applaud those of you who aren’t pressured by society to have kids; my own mother had children and made it very clear she didn’t want them. Some people just aren’t meant to be mothers, and there’s nothing wrong with that, if they don’t have children, but once you do, I believe you should study everything you can on how to raise them and make them into the unique beings that they were meant to be. It is a lot of self-sacrificing and work. It’s not like a relationship where it’s equal and your partner does part of the work, it’s all one sided, and you are the one responsible and at fault if things go wrong. Children are never to blame; you just aren’t doing it right. Now that my babies are grown, I have relationships with two wonderful men that have chosen two beautiful women to share their lives, so now besides my two sons; I have two lovely women in my life. I feel very blessed, but I’ve got to say, it didn’t come easily or naturally, I had to read about it! I really do think owning a Yorkie can help prepare you a little for children, they have a mind of their own!

I raised three on my own...not that it was easy because it certainly wasn't! My last son is now in University...all of my children have turned out wonderfully, I feel i did a good job! It appalls me to see very young girls having baby after baby, (the first may be an accident..the second and third, hmmmm). The young women on here that choose to not have children yet or not at all..I applaud you for your maturity. Not everyone is cut out for motherhood, just as not everyone is not cut out to be mommy to a pup! I'm glad that you are not feeling presured into having kids...if you dont want them, you dont want them..Kudos to you!

Amen to that:cool: