Originally Posted by Britster (Post 3961654)

I'm 21, almost 22, and really have no desire to have kids ANY time soon. I know some people my age who just can't wait. I certainly can! LOL.

I've grown up being the "Big sister" or the "older cousin" my whole life, so I've had plenty of kid experience. My youngest sister is 4 and my oldest brother would have been 12 this year (he passed in '06). My other brother (my dads son) is 8. I also have many young cousins who I spend time with etc. It's SOOO nice to be able to go home and hand them back to their parents, LOL. I also live with my 4 year old sister most of the time at my moms house and it's so much work, and she's not even mine, but she's always around of course.

I love having Jackson. He gives me just enough responsibility and nurturing and mothering stuff, but he's so much easier, hahaha. I really enjoy my time and a baby would completely change that. It's not that I'm selfish per say - I'm a homebody, I enjoy staying at home, or going out to dinner, and doing doggy things with Jackson. I'm responsible for my age, not a partyer, and mature. But still... kids... Ugh, God, I can't even imagine having a kid right now! Or even in the next 10 years, LOL.

I don't know, I like to think someday I will have 1 or 2 kids. I haven't written it off by any means. I'm still young though and in no hurry. Besides I need find a good guy first! ;)

Originally Posted by Nancy1999 (Post 3961691)

I loved having children, I really felt like I had something to offer them. I applaud those of you who aren’t pressured by society to have kids; my own mother had children and made it very clear she didn’t want them. Some people just aren’t meant to be mothers, and there’s nothing wrong with that, if they don’t have children, but once you do, I believe you should study everything you can on how to raise them and make them into the unique beings that they were meant to be. It is a lot of self-sacrificing and work. It’s not like a relationship where it’s equal and your partner does part of the work, it’s all one sided, and you are the one responsible and at fault if things go wrong. Children are never to blame; you just aren’t doing it right. Now that my babies are grown, I have relationships with two wonderful men that have chosen two beautiful women to share their lives, so now besides my two sons; I have two lovely women in my life. I feel very blessed, but I’ve got to say, it didn’t come easily or naturally, I had to read about it! I really do think owning a Yorkie can help prepare you a little for children, they have a mind of their own!

Originally Posted by msyorktown (Post 3961713)

I raised three on my own...not that it was easy because it certainly wasn't! My last son is now in University...all of my children have turned out wonderfully, I feel i did a good job! It appalls me to see very young girls having baby after baby, (the first may be an accident..the second and third, hmmmm). The young women on here that choose to not have children yet or not at all..I applaud you for your maturity. Not everyone is cut out for motherhood, just as not everyone is not cut out to be mommy to a pup! I'm glad that you are not feeling presured into having kids...if you dont want them, you dont want them..Kudos to you!

Originally Posted by mamaj (Post 3959118)

We raised 4 children. 2 boys 2 girls. Believe me, we were running ragged when they got big enough for sports. Had to be at 3 ballfields at the same time. That`s where grandma comes in. lol. You get used to things as you get the kids. Not a worry. I also did child care in my home. lol I think that`s why my daughter doesn`t want kids.