| Nancy1999 | 03-04-2012 05:16 PM |
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Originally Posted by dawn27
(Post 3842148)
This discussion could go on for days... so I will say my peace now and be done with it.
Two of my close friends and my sister were all raped by a so called men who were "in charge".
One, by a so called friend and her fiances best friend.
One, who was only 14 and raped by a neighbor. Who on August 16, 1975 gave birth to a baby boy at the age of 15 yrs old. Later to be found that her rapist was the father.
The other a 50 yrs old church going women by a man very well know in the medical community who she had dated for a short time. This was her first relationship after being divorce for more than ten years. She had every intentions of keeping her purity and remaining celibate.
Three very different circumstances where the man was in charge.... !! None of them reported the crime.
I myself have been in a few situations where the man wanted something form me that I was not willing to give. But it did not stop them from trying to force me. I was one of the lucky ones, I had a little more fight in me than some do. I refuse to give up my "right" my "choice" to say NO.
| You missed my point, I'm certainly not saying any women should want a man who's "in charge", I can't stand that type of man, but it is a message men learn. I've heard women say they wouldn't date a man if he "asked" for a kiss, that that is such a "turn off". Women have to take some of the responsibility for what happens. We can't legislate morality, these things are wrong, but they aren't necessarily illegal. Many women are brought up to be people pleasers, and little girls are even brought up to be seductive, we need to teach our young women that it's okay to say no, and they have value beyond sex.
In the case you are talking about where the person is underage that is statutory rape and apparently incest, both serious crimes that should be reported. In the other cases you mentioned, did the women protest, did they say “no”? Or were they willing, but just didn’t want to make trouble, and things got a little out of hand? If you don’t protest in any way, I don’t see how it’s a crime, except where as Chachi mentioned of someone not mentally capable of giving consent, and those cases where the victim is underage.
By the way, a man's profession, doesn't give us much information on whether we can trust him, so just because someone is in the medical profession or even the clergy, we have to use our God given woman's intuition, about their true character. | 