My heart is broken for my friend.
 

My friend from work got a call from her Mom, Her Mom said that she needed to come home and take care of Rosco ( Her 3 year old Pit bull)

Her Mom said when she got hom Rosco was on the ground shaking and not really moving, he was breathing and panting. Sarah rushed home.

She said she would call me. I texted her to check in about 5 she texted me back with "its not good, Ill call you when I can"

Well I just got a text from her, "hes gone" she then texted me that the Vet said he had a seizure and probably couldnt get to his water, his temp was 107 and it caused brain damage.

I am not sure what happened. I know that she leaves him outside when she is at work, I know it was about 100 today. I know she gives him shade, food and water..

I am so sad for her, I dont even know what to tell her or how I support her. I want to get her some flowers and a card... Is that too much? Ive never really had to deal with a friend loosing a pet so I am not sure what I should do?

Thoughts?

Oh my gosh how sad. I am so sorry this has happened to your friend. Poor baby. RIP Rosco. I have sent cards to friends that have lost pets. They are part of my family and I know others feel the same way. I think a card is just fine to do in this situation. As far as what to tell her, really all I can think of is telling her how sorry you are and that you are there for her if she needs you. When I lost my Beagles I just had to work it out. I had to cry and cry to make it better for me. I still cry thinking about them. I really don't think you ever forget about a pet that you love. But time does heal wounds and it will get better for her. Just be there for her. I think that is the best thing you can do.

Oh no, I am so sorry for your friend. RIP Rosco:( One of my co-workers lost her 14 year old lab last year to old age. I gave her a card and she later told me that it really helped her to know that I knew how much Bobo meant to her, that he wasn't just a dog.

I am so sorry for your friend. That has to be unimaginable pain.:( I agree with others, the cards they make for pet loss are very touching or you can even write something in a blank card. I've bought a couple for friends & my parents even before I owned a dog and it meant a lot that I seemed to know what their pet meant to them. I think the biggest thing is people need to feel validated for grieving the loss of a beloved pet and feel supported in doing so.

It's kind of you to want to help your friend, but when she's doing better I hope you tell her that dogs don't take the heat as well as humans. Dogs don't perspire like humans do, sweating is a very efficient way for humans to cool off, but dogs can't do this and only cool off by panting, which makes them lose lots of water, for with each breath you lose a little moisture. My guess is this dog suffered terribly before it died, and I hope you can be a good enough friend to prevent this from happening again. Very sad situation, and you will have to handle it with kid gloves.

I'm really sorry this happened. I hope you can teach her about heat stroke in dogs for next time. Especially with bully breeds who have a hard time getting good air with their bracheslaphalic faces. I'm so sorry for the loss and send my condolences and hugs to you and your friend. I think a card and flowers is defin a good gesture of love and sympathy.

I am so sorry about Roscoe. I know your friend must be devastated. I know she would appreciate the flowers and a card very much. It just helps to have someone who cares and that you can talk too. So many people just don't understand and think well it was just a dog. No, he wasn't just a dog, he was family. Glad she has you to talk too.

Thank you guys, I just got home. I went and got her a card with an amazing boquet of red roses in a glass vase. I know Roscoe was very much loved by her. At work we would tell our doggy stories to eachother. Right now I could never talk to her about the safety cautions with dogs and heat, like Nancy says I need to put some gloves on and take it easy with her. I know she is in deep greif and she is very much hurting. I know she ran him to the vet and tried everything she could to save him! Right now I need just to be there for her and let her know it is ok to be upset.

I agree with everything said above. People who do not have pets do not realize the love we have for these little ones...chances are that not a lot of people will understand her pain like you do so a card is nice. If you have any way of getting a picture of her dog and perhaps framing it for her would be a nice gesture too.

In time I will talk to her. Right now I am her support. This happened so sudden for her, I think it has taught her the hard way. I believe he suffered horrible as well it is very sad. I think if she knew about the risks of leaving him outside she would have maybe kept him inside... I'm honestly not sure. Now I feel its my fault, if I knew he was outside in this heat and was not able to get in the house I would have talked to her.

Sigh...

I made a little letter type thing, I put in memory of roscoe and I found this pic of a painting that looks 100% like him ( kinda crazy how it worked out) then I found a loss of a dog poem and put that under in blue cursive print. I think she will like it.

Thank you for being there for a friend in a time of need. Not a lot of people would do that for someone. Your friend is lucky to have you.

No one knows if the heat caused this. Perhaps the dog had a seizure disorder that owner was not aware of which broke into cluster seizures which could cause the temperature to be that high and result in death. I am a pretty direct person so I'm sure I'd tell her what I thought of keeping the dog outside in general, and especially in the heat, but I'd be careful not to place blame on her for what may have been entirely due to fate and not neglect. It is a sad situation for her and for the dog and for you as her friend. I think your gestures to express your friendship and sympathy were very thoughtful and I'm sure she will greatly appreciate them.

No matter the cause, she lost a dear friend. That's all that matters is I'm there for her.
I agree with you.

I am so sorry for your friends loss. It's always so hard to lose one of our furbabies. Right now, just be the good friend that you are. Be there if she wants to talk, sit with her if she wants and just support her. This is so heart breaking. God bless you for being such a good friend.

My heart goes out to your friend. My mom lost her furbaby Rachel a few years back and my mom told me that the flowers and card I sent really helped. It does help to think that other people really care about when you lose a pet too.

Aw thank you. I have her flowers and card on her desk, so when she comes in she will see 9 beautiful roses! I have to take a picture of this roses, they are stunning. I have never seen roses like this.


Im going to post it! Stay tuned

You are being a true friend, thoughtful and supportive. When we lose a pet, it is such a great comfort to have people acknowledge our pain and be there to help us. Rest in Peace, Roscoe.

Here are the flowers! Aren't they stunning!?

I am so sorry for your friend,that is so tragic.
When Bunkey passed away,several of my friends sent me sympathy cards that were for pets. One of the kids that I helped bring into the world,stopped by and brought me flowers,held me until I stopped crying. Each of my friends sent me a text everyday for a week to ask how I was,several listened to me cry on the phone.
Loosing a furbaby is loosing a very special friend that holds a place in your life and heart that noone else has. Supporting your friend in her sorrow is one of the best things that you can do for her.

The flowers are lovely and so is your kindness. You are a good and true friend. My deepest sympathies over the loss of your friend's dear companion.

Prayers are with your friend for the tragic loss of her dog. It is nice to have a friend that cares and understands the love of a pet. She is very blessed to have you for a caring friend that knows the pain and loss she feels.

They're beautiful, what a great friend you are! I'm sure your thoughtfulness, has helped her tremendously.

The flowers are beautiful. I was sent a card from the vet when my cat died suddenly and it meant the world to me. Just to see that someone understood how much she meant to me made me feel better. You did good, friend. :)

I don't think I would mention anything to her about heat causing this. Like someone mentioned, we don't know heat was the cause of this.

Thank you guys!

She loved her flowers and card! I made her cry, but it was a good cry. I also made her this in memory "letter" type. I just made it on Microsoft office :p I put on the top in really pretty cursive "In Memory of Roscoe" then I found this painting that someone had did of their dog, but it looked 100% like Roscoe. I copied and pasted that in the middle, then I copied and pasted a really pretty poem about loosing a beloved dog.

OMG she LOVED that, she said that she was going to frame it and keep it forever! That made me feel really good that the in memory letter I "hand made" her meant a lot to her!! Of course she loved the flowers but that letter really touched her! I told her that she should get a shadow box and make a little in memory of Roscoe, that might help her cope.

She told me a little more of what happened. She thinks that Roscoe was getting upset that this guy was on the roof trimming the trees, that he got really excited and over heated, and it went down hill from there. She said when they were at the vet he was still alive but he wasnt there, the vet told her that she can take him to the ER, but there is a chance he wont make it, and there is a chance that he wont be the same dog because he did had brain damage.

She was blaming herself for it, she said that she wished she was there to help him. I told her that she did everything that she could have done.

It was a hard day, but I tried to keep her laughing or talking to her in general. She told me some funny stories about Roscoe , which I think helped her. I think in the end she will be ok. By the middle of the day her poor eyes were getting less swollen. Then I left work and she told me that she had a break down.. I pray for her that it will get easier, this has really been the first death she has delt with, me on the other hand have lost a lot of loved ones.

Thank you guys for supporting me in this as well. It is so crazy, he wasnt my dog, but I am so hurt as well. Hurt for her bc I know she is very sad.

You are such a good friend. RIP Roscoe. Poor guy. :( I feel terrible for your friend. He was obviously well loved and will be greatly missed.

So sorry for your friends loss! I will say a prayer for her.

I am sorry for your friend. It is hard to lose a pet we love, and that was a hard way to lose one. I am so glad she has you