I thought this website was for help not bashing :(
 

I'm really disappointed in some people on this website. I posted a question earlier about a issue that happened with my baby and I literally got a shock when I logged on tonight and read a comment.

I was really excited to find this forum, especially because it reminded me of the baby boards I reference all the time with parenting. However, I was wrong.

I don't know what to do. I just feel very low at the moment, because the comment basically said that I didn't use common sense regarding a decision for my dog. I have 2 children and my baby is like my 3rd. I have researched everything for her since day 1 and I will continue.

It was just a shocker to come here looking for a little advice and getting bashed. So, thank you to all of you who have been very helpful and thank you to those who have said hateful things. You sure know how to ruin things.

I am sorry that this happened to you. I do not know what happened but I hope that you don't let this keep you away. Sometimes you have to look past the negativity for the good. I know that there have been lots of times I have gotten frustrated but overall, what I have learned and the friends that I have made on here more than outweigh some of the not so nice things.

Bo

Thanks! I just get a little upset when people comment your ability to make informed decisions. Our yorkie might as well be our 3rd child, we love her like our biological babies. I don't take people bashing my momma skills!

Yeah, I can understand that. ;)

Aww, I'm sorry this happend to you :( Like Hot Rod Mom said....you just have to look past the negative. You're a great Momma for looking in forums to best help your furbaby. Please continue with YT we'd love to have you around. (((hugs))) :)

Thanks!! Maybe I am overreacting a bit. My hormones are flying these days!!

Don't worry, be happy. :)

As a newbie, I don't think you are wrong at. all. in your feelings. I, too, have felt super judged here, and like my intelligence is being questioned. I am doing my research (specifically on puppies, since our last was a rescue), which I would think would be preferred. Just because I ask about something "bad" maybe about a questionable breeder, or what yorkie dog standards doesn't mean I am doing anything more than trying to avoid those things. I have seen this judgment/holier than thou attitude on my thread and several recent threads I read looking for my answers.

I am finding too much opinion in posts. Perhaps if there were a few more facts in replies to newbies or even an explanation as to why something is like that would be more helpful. Especially when I am calling into question replies I am reading here about yorkies specifically because they contridict information I've read from other reputable sources but may cover multiple dog breeds.

I have been a member of this site for about a year, and unfortunately this I have noticed is typical of it, a
Lot of the people here are happy to put you down however what they have to remember is even they had to start somewhere, they were not born with the knowledge that they have acquired over the years by asking other people or reading, I was told recently that no
Matter what they are just dogs and this from someone who had their poor girl trussed up in a ridiculous pink satin outfit!!!! So in here you have to have a thick skin and take the good with the bad or it would drive you nuts, from all the people who take the time to answer questions and give you advice you will learn a lot and sometimes not even a vet knows so hang in there we're not all bad. :)

Forums, whether Yorkie forums or any other kind of forums are made up of a variety of members.
Not all members will sugarcoat their advice, and what may seem like "bashing" often isn't. If we could sit down with those same people and get the same advice it would come across differently, because we would see facial expressions, hear different inflections in their voice.
One thing everyone has in common on here is we love our Yorkies, and their health is what is upmost in members mind and not always thinking how the owner/poster will take what we have to say.
I have only been a member since April, and only started posting the end of July, but I have learned a lot from the members here. They are very knowledgeable about Yorkies, many are breeders.
If a post offends you for being too "forthright" just skip over it.

And Adrianne, this sentence was completely uncalled for:
Maybe you find the outfit ridiculous, but obviously the owner didn't.
Maybe they would find your outfits ridiculous, but would be too polite to make such comments.
This is a forum for our little Yorkies - and Yorkie mixes etc, let's just try and get along like the adults we are and not take anything too personal.

Just read the post you are talking about, unfortunatley theres always one isnt there? I wouldnt worry about it.
You did the right thing by trying to get information which will benefit the health of your dog.
We are all told that our dogs need the vacines so of course we want them to have them all because that is what we believe is in the dogs best interest.
But sometimes things happen and in your case your poor pooch has some reactions, we trust our vets to know best but its good that you are trying to gather more information about the subject.
I dont know anything about vacines and reactions I just trust my vet and what he says, and if I was in your position I would be here asking the same questions too.
Dont let it bother you, it seems there is always one person who jumps in with there big mouth and no social skills and ruins it.
Some YT members need to remember that you can get your point across without having to throw your manners out of the window. :)

Gosh, I see this in just about every internet forum I participate in; be it another pet forum; a real estate forum; a medical forum.

One has to have a thick skin in general to participate on any internet forum!

I didn't see your original post so won't comment on that. Take away what you can from here (and you can learn a TON) and ignore the bad. That's what I do!

Good Luck with your baby!!

I have been a member for over 6 years. In the earlier days when everyone "knew" everyone, it was a kinder, gentler place. We reminded each other to be kind and it worked most of the time.

Since YT has grown to over 60,000 members it has changed. I honestly believe that the vast majority of members here are caring, kind people who aviod being hateful or hurtful. It is sad that some forget that although you have the right to say something, it may not be the right thing to say. We all have right to free speech, but with that right comes the responsibility of how our free speech affects others.

What she said! Hang around. 99.4% of the people are great. The .6%, well, just tell them to have a great day and ignore them. I sometimes ignore myself!

No, you aren't overreacting. This site has some very judgemental and hideously rude people on it. All forums online have rude people, but some of the comments I've seen here are over the line, especially for people asking for advice. There are extremely nice people as well, don't get me wrong. But it is those unmoderated bad seeds that can color your opinion of the place...

bribunny--I am very sorry that someone's comments made you feel bad, especially when you were undobtedly already worried about your little one.

Generally speaking, when people complain about not liking the 'way things are' on YT, I always wonder "if you hate it so much, why are you still here?" Presumably because your positive experiences outweigh the negative. Otherwise, it would just be silly to stick around, right?
I always just assumed that was the case with ANY internet site/forum. With a large site such as this, naturally there will be answers and beliefs from one end of the spectrum to the other. I see frequent post here that really irritate me, and I've certainly had my fair share that ruffled feathers as well.
Not everyone is going to agree with you 100% of the time and not everyone is going to phrase their responses the way you think they should. So, you can look past what you disagree with and concentrate on the positive, you can dwell on it to the point of insanity, or you move on. Expecting everyone to change until there is overall harmony certainly isn't going to happen. :)

Hideously? I read the thread, and I dod not read a rude comment. Sure, perhaps it could have been worded better, but that lady took the time to answer the qyestion and offer another opinion. Right or wrong, let's not vlow this out of the water. We Vaccine Max, to be safe, and we worry about the reaction. She has had a few over the years. It is our decision. I know, I am rude.

I didn't read that thread. I don't even know what thread to which the OP refers. I am referring to things I have seen in the past. But thanks for proving my point!

I only can say: "Wlcome to the club!" I guess most of the active members here have been bashed some way or another and it made me leave the forum for almost 2 years. Well... I'm back and learned to just pick the good comments and leave the bad ones like you do with apples...

LOL...my grandmother always told me that the bad apples make the sweetest pie. :p

Thanks everyone. This isn't a debate on whether the comment in question was rude or not. I understand everyone is titled to their opinion and you can fully express that. But, in my case everything had already been done and the comment gave little information for the future, and more anger against the decision I already made. That being said, I understand that when you post here you have to take things being negative.

Like I said, I could be overreacting. I'm not here for sympathy, I just wanted to make it aware that we can express opinions without judging or making harmful comments to others.

For all of you all I am saying is I can really see her point in getting a bashing!!!! And what you all have to remember is
That you also had to get your information from somewhere be it here or somewhere else I also said if you would have read it
Properly is that for the people who do Answer your questions you can learn a lot, I have Never been rude to anyone on this site ever however when I post about my new babies being born I don't expect a bashing either, it is a joyous time for especially as my new grand daughter was born on
Monday also, I just wonder why people here can't be nice, well I do apologise about my comment it was uncalled for, I'm just sick of all the new people getting slated all they want is a bit of advice , that is not too much to ask for if you ask me , please. Remember breeders you were not born with your knowledge you have to learn like everyone else so
If you don't want to give it give us all a break and don't reply at all. I would much rather have no replies to my posts than have someone be ignorant and uncaring I thought when I first joined here it would be a nice place to be getting advice and and general chat about yorkies I was wrong that's why I rarely post anymore and this week was the first in months and I only did because I wanted to share my joy of maggie having her 2 girls but just as usual there's always 1 or 2 who try to put the dampeners on it, well my girls are doing great 2 weeks old and half a kilo each if I have offended anyone about dressing up their dogs well I am sorry what you do to your dogs is your business

I've been a member here for a long time and I've definitely seen an increase in the bluntness of some comments. I think this comes mostly from the Breeding section, where I've been spending a lot of time for the last year or so. The reason for the hostility in the breeding section is the reckless and uneducated breeding of Yorkies with no consequence for their health and the futures of the puppies and I completely understand that!
I mean, the reputable breeders try to help wherever they can, but they get tired of telling people the same thing over and over again. And they get angry when some abuses their dogs. Rightfully so!

If you are angry, you may have the right to be angry. But that never gives you the right to be cruel!

OMG!!! Beautifully said. I just want to hug you.

Kind of contradictory, no? LOL...if you've never been rude, then what are you apologizing for. I didn't really think you *meant* to be malicious or insulting with your comment. I figured it was just one of those things said 'in the heat of the moment.' :)

Ah, but that's just the thing. You are exactly right, EVERYONE has to learn somewhere. The difference is how you start: Do you start by researching, learning all you can and working with a mentor BEFORE you start breeding? Or do you jump in blind, without a clue what you are doing and try to pick it up as you go?
I have NEVER, here on YT or elsewhere EVER seen anything but support when someone starts their journey as a breeder by adequately preparing themselves FIRST. It's the latter of the two--those who breed without prior preparation, thus putting their dogs at risk, that generally receive criticism.

Honestly, I went back and read your first thread where your very small, young female and male had 4 'accidental' ties. After being here for a year, and learning more about the breed in the process, do you not understand WHY people were so concerned given the situation?

Ahahahahaha!!!!

You are very welcome. Have a great day, and thanks so much for proving your own point!

Welcome back. I agree with you. It is a forum. Some great people and some great info.

I would not let it bother me...not one bit. People here sometimes get very passionate about their opinions, and sometimes come on like a freight train. They might not realize how they are coming across.... or they might.

Either way, each and everyone of us has been sideswiped, broad-sided, and smacked so many times by obtrusive comments such that if we were cars,,, well ,,,we would probably look like a 1978 Ford Pinto!:eek:

The secret is to just extract the information that you need, and leave the "crumbs" (lol) to fall where they may.

Ignorance and naivete can only be changed through education, not through rudeness and degradation. I would like to think that all humans will one day realize this. :rolleyes: