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I would like to ask you all a favor.First a little bit of background.

My nephew died 2 weeks ago in a 1 car accident when the car he was driving went off the edge of the road & he lost control of the car which tipped & slammed into a tree. He had 2 of his good friends in the car as well. One of the other young men died at the scene & the other is still in critical icu. We know that he was driving at a high rate of speed & that all 3 young men had alcohol in their systems. We don't know what happened just before the accident & may never know but this is a tragedy that never should have happened. He was 19, his friends are 22 & 23. Three families with lots & lots of extensions are feeling the loss of these young men.

I beg you to talk to your young people about how very dangerous it is to get behind the wheel of a car or to get INTO a car when the person driving has been drinking. I'm living proof that it doesn't always happen to someone elses' family. :mad: :(

I am so sorry for your family and for the families of the other boys. How very tragic and you will be in my thoughts.

Very sorry for your loss - warm thoughts for your family and all of the affected parties.

Thank you...I just hope that one life can be changed by the telling of the story, sad as it is for all involved.

I'm so sorry for your loss... I'm 20 and I have friends that are partyers and they know that no matter the time they can call me (and have) and I'll come get them. My 14 year old sister is...well lets say she is into too much she shouldn't be...and she knows that I'll come get her no matter what.

I am so sorry for the lose of your nephew. Both of my boys are the same age of your nephew and his friends and I also have a teenage daughter who is 14. When my boys were in HS I always told them to call me if they were at a party and there was alcohol involved~no questions-no lectures on the ride home. My offer still stands today and they are now 21 and 23. My daughter knows as well that I am always just a phone call away. Believe me I would so much rather have gotten a call to pick them up than to get the phone call that your nephews and his friends parents received. :(

*Before anyone gets the idea that I condoned teenage drinking that is NOT what I am implying.

My condolences for the loss all of you have suffered. My thoughts and prayers will be with you.

Thank you for the reminder about drinking and driving, especially timely with prom and high school graduations going on now.

Prayers and blessings to you and your family.

How devastating for all involved. I am just so sorry. We have been very blessed that none of our three children partied in high school/college. Just recently our dd informed us that she is supporting her boyfriend's decision to not even social drink by not doing any herself. I don't know the story behind that decision......and I probably don't want to know. May our Heavenly Father wrap his comforting arms around you, your extended family, and friends. ~Joanne~

I am so sorry for your tragic loss, and thank you for the reminder. It is a topic that is discussed regularly in my house, and still I know there are no guarantees when they walk out that door, but trust that they will listen.

They are all in my prayers.

Prayers to you and the families.....:(

Prayers for your family and all the families involved. Such a tragic loss.
It's an important message!

I am so terribly sorry. Praying for you all. God bless you and your family.

So sad. sorry this happend to your family.

I will say a prayer for you and your family. Heartbreaking.

I'm so very sorry to hear of the loss of your nephew. Prayers to you, your family and the other families involved.

I'm so sorry for your loss. A friend of our's got a felony DWI this weekend coming back from the lake. He had his 10 year old son with him - which is what made it a felony. I sincerely hope that his son's reaction to all of that is going to make an impact with him. He won't listen to any of us about his problem. It could have turned out so much more worse. My sympathies to you and your family (and the other kids families too).

Very sorry for your lose! Sending prayers your way!

I am so sorry for your loss :( I am living proof that it can happen to you yourself. I have posted about this before but back in 2002, me, my sister, my best friend and another guy friend were driving home from a church group cookout when a drunk driver who was driving on the wrong side of the road, hit our car head on. My best friend who was driving was killed instantly. I was sitting beside her and both my femur bones (right above my knees) broke and came through the skin (I also had a slipped disk in my neck that wasn't found until 2 months later). My sister had a back injury and the guy had a shattered hip. The drunk driver walked away with no injuries.

I also knew who drove drunk with his best friend in the car who was also drunk. They lost control and both were thrown from the car. He survived with a broken femur bone but his best friend was killed. The friend's family ended up pressing charges and he ended up in jail for awhile.

Needless to say, I am very against drunk driving and wish people would realize how often this happens. Too many people have the attitude that it won't happen to them. I'm sure I thought the same thing until it did. The hard part is that I did nothing wrong. We had to pay the price for the other person's decisions.

I am so sorry for your loss. My prayer's are with you and the other families.

A parents worst nightmare.

My oldest are 20 and 19. This is all I say to them, everytime they leave the house. I just hope and pray that they are smart and remember what I have told them.

I'm so sorry you and your family had to go through this. What a horrible thing to happen. It scares me to death.

Sending prayers and thank you for the reminder. No one thinks it will happen to their family.

I will read this to them when they get home. Hopefully your nephews death and the death and injury to his friends will really strike a nerve with them and all kids. (adults also!!!)

My condolences to your family and others.

Krystee- thank goodness you survived & are able to tell others what happened!

Thanks again everyone for the warm messages. I really do hope that by discussing this someone else can be spared this horrible space left by his death. He lived far away from his mother & the rest of his maternal side so we really had little impact on his day to day life. Boy, he sure is having an impact on ours now! I felt I needed to do something so sharing this with you all is helping me very much.

sorry about your loss.

So very sorry for your loss, and I can relate. 13 years ago we lost our 17 year old daughter in an auto accident. No alcohol, no drugs, safe car....car just went off the road at a high speed as it was on the highway. My daughter and her girlfriend. Neither one wore a seat belt. If they had, they both would have walked away. It takes a long time for the pain to lessen, but it never leaves, and you always have that hole in your heart. Yes, it can happen to anyone. We still wonder what if, should, have, could have. Just take it one day at a time, and be there for family members.

I am so sorry for your loss and those boys families loss. SO tragic and so preventable. (((HUGS))) Thanks for the great reminder.

I'm so very sorry for your loss. Sending prayers...:(

I am so so so sorry for your loss. I will definitely be praying for your family and the families of the boys. It is so tragic.

When I was 16 we were hit by a drunk driver. I was with my stepsister and two of her friends - we had gone to the movies and were driving one of the girls home. We had to drive through a not so nice area of of town. We had JUST gotten off of the freeway and were going through an intersection in which we did not have a stop light or stop sign. Out of nowhere this old 80's Lincoln Towncar (the things built like tanks) came speeding through the intersection and T-boned our car. Thankfully we weren't still on the freeway, otherwise the accident would have been a lot worse. Nobody was seriously hurt. The driver has bruises on her arms and legs from the impact and airbags. My stepsister, who was in the passenger seat had a busted lip and some bruise. The girl beside me almost broke her leg and was having severe leg pain. I have permanent tissue damage in my back. The drunk driver walked away with no problems and in handcuffs. It was like her third DUI and she was a bartender coming home from work.

my condolences for all the families involved :cry: I too lost a nephew (25), he was drunk and speeding (the officer said 100+ mph), he flipped 4 times and landed in a field with the top caved in, it split his head from the forehead all the way back and broke his neck :cry: the police had to retrieve pieces of his head so we could have an open casket. He left behind 2 girls, ages 2 and 8. He was like our own son, he came to Michigan every summer when school got out and lived with us