Originally Posted by TammyJM (Post 2935006)

I get do get how hard it is to let someone go, I truly do. But you have to get to the point that you see that you are loving that person more than you love yourself. You then have to ask yourself why...why would you give someone else more thought than yourself. ?? Especially when they do not offer you the same in return. :( Life is too short to give so much and to never get it in return. It should be equal and the male in your life should want to make you happy as much as you want to see him happy. I know that I am sounding old right now. :D :rolleyes: I just hate to see you do the things that I did when I was in my early 20's. Do you know, some of the best times that I had when I was your age was when I had no boyfriend and could just go out with my girlfriends on the weekends. It's so easy for me to tell you all of this because I am 37 and have been through a little of what you are dealing with, but trust me....you WILL look back on this time wasted on him and wonder why. You are at the age that you should be focusing on yourself and just having fun.

What if you have a daughter one day...is he the type of guy that you would want to see her dating? If your answer is no, then why do you think that you don't deserve better??

Hugs to ya!!!
Tammy

Originally Posted by JeanieK (Post 2935011)

Good for yhoue.

And also JMO, but if, after 4 years, a guy has not figured out whether or not he wants to spend the rest of his life with you, he is just waxsting yiour time.

I hope you doln't think we are ganging up on you. this is just girl talk, and many of us have been with Mr Wrong and tried to make it work. Made excuses for them, overlooked their short comings, decided they were better than being alone, Well if you are the only one trying, then time to move on.

As I always told my daughters, You cannot meet Mr Right while hanging on to Mr Wrong.

Originally Posted by chloeandj (Post 2935772)

Next time call his mother, that's her job not yours. When he acts like an irresponsible child, you should not be picking up after him...

Originally Posted by mizzwanned (Post 2936646)

Thanks everyone for your advice :) Everything is well now, will let you know what happens. i told him he has a problem and is an alcoholic..also his parents now know-they saw him sick the next day and want to help. He did not even want to drink on new years eve..good thing!