It's over Me and my bf of almost 4 years broke up last night-on Thanksgiving. We've been having problems for a couple months but I never thought this would actually happen. I feel like my whole world has crumbled. He was my best friend, he was the only one that kept me going. I don't know what i will do with myself. This has been the absolute worst year for me..with Sophie passing away and now this. And it's around the holidays. He is my first love..how am I going to live with myself. I want to eventually move on but i feel unmotivated now..like I don't want to do anything. This hurts..really bad. |
I am so sorry, you must be hurting so badly. At least you have such great fur babies to snuggle you. May I suggest some retail therapy and a bottle or two of wine (just STAY AWAY from email if you drink the wine!!)? Maybe a new puppy would be a good thing? I can't recall if you ended up getting another one this year. . . My thoughts are with you! Hang in there. Sadly, heart-breaking break-ups are almost a right of passage and most people have experienced them AND SURVIVED. Hold your puppies tight and try to take things one day at a time! |
I am so sorry. Several years ago when my dtr's BF of 3 1/2 years broke up with her she was a wreck, we even cried together. She went through a phase of driving by his house or going by where he worked hoping to see him, it took some time but one day she said I finally can see him and not care. Just give yourself time to grieve the loss and try and get out even if you don't feel like it, and you probably won't feel like it but it helps. Just try and remember things work out how they are supposed to and you will end up with the one you are meant to be with one day. Hugs |
So sorry for the sad time you are going through but it will get better big hugs |
Ugh - Im sorry. Breaking up with your first love is NEVER easy. So maybe for the rest of the weekend, you dont do anything. Who cares!! You are entitled to "mourn", so if you stay in bed, eat some ice cream, and cry till you cant cry anymore, that is perfectly normal. My suggestion would be to call the girls in. Call your best gal pals and have them over, or go to them. I remember when my *love* and I broke up, geesh, I didnt think I was ever going to breathe again but I did. It all takes time and it really does get better. You are going to move when you are ready. Dont let anyone rush you! Hugs! |
Sorry to hear about your break up. Just know that things do get better and you will pull through. I have a 20 year old daughter and we've been through a lot of break-ups over the years . . .in fact, she was engaged earlier this year and ended up giving him the ring back. It was probably the hardest decision she had to make and it does take a toll on all sorts of emotions. But it just wasn't meant to be. Just give yourself time, do something for yourself, have a day of pampering . . .go out with your girlfriends and be crazy . . .smile, it will get better for you! :hug: |
Oh I am so sorry. :( Me and my husband split up a couple years ago for 4 months and we were apart through the holidays and it was horrible. Just try to be strong and get your mind on other things. I find focusing on others and maybe volunteering really helps me in the hard times. |
I'm so sorry. I firmly believe someday you will look back and consider this a blessing! But for now, take some time for you and spoil yourself a bit! |
Oh I'm so sorry. :( I've never experienced this but I can't imagine how devestating it must be. I'll be sending you prayers. :love: |
I'm so sorry... Try to focus on other things. Hang out with friends, go shopping, watch movies, exercise... love on your furbabies! I remember when my first love and I broke up... it was hard. But don't worry girl! You will find another :D and you will be thankful that you were able to move on. I am now married to the greatest man, and could not be happier that I was able to move on and find the "one". |
Ugh- do I know that feeling. My first "love" and I were dating 3 years- I thought we were going to get married- and our break up was not mutual. I thought I would never be happy again. i walked around in this fog for a year- not happy. It takes a while- and dont' let people try and tell you to "get over it" it takes a while. I've been single for like 3 years now and I am just now ready to be in a relationship again (well- depends on the day.. lol... guys are a lot of work!). Do what you need to do- hug your furbabies. Layla was the only thing to get me through the darkest days. You'll be ok :) |
it makes me cry to read this. I can truly feel your pain in your message. I am so so sorry. but you will survive...you just have to make the decision to live life. I will keep you in my prayers. I hope for you to stay strong and know you are a beautiful wonderful woman. God has big plans for you...and I will pray that those plans are revealed very soon so you are not in pain long. hugs!!! |
I'm sorry. Breakups are so horrible. Maybe this IS a good time to get a new doggie, if you are ready. |
My first love and I broke up, 2 years later I get married, divorced a year after that, and married my first love after 7 years apart. We've been married 21 years and have 4 wonderful children and 4 babies. What will be will be, don't push it. You never know what the future will bring. Live your life and go with the flow. Believe me I know how hard it is, the pain is unbearable, but this too will pass. Stay strong, you aren't going to die (although you feel like it). I wish you well and I will keep you in my thoughts. Stay strong, you will be okay, you have plenty of people who care about you. |
I'm so sorry you are going through this. Heart breaks are so difficult. I wish there was something I could do or say to make it easier and less painful. I will keep you in my prayers. |
I am so sorry about your break-up. I know the sadness is so tough for you right now. Sending hugs.... It has been a long time, but I can still remember my broken heart, when my fiance broke our engagement a couple months before we were suppose to get married. All I can say is you will get through this and I really believe that when one door closes another one opens. |
Aw honey, almost all of us know just what you are going thru...from experience! Allow yourself time to grieve. He was a huge part of your life for 4 years. In my early 20s, I dated a for 2.5 years. He broke up with me a couple of times, but I always took him back. After our last breakup he came back wanting to get back together & that was the hardest "No" I ever had to say. That was the point where I had to push aside just the good in our relationship & take a hard look at the rough times....I just couldn't do it anymore. |
Sweetie, he's an idiot! You are so beautiful and compassionate, please don't think that your life is over. This part of your life is over, but you are such a sweet and caring person that you will find your sole mate someday. For now, know that we are all here for you and that your baby needs you. Maybe a Mommy and me day with your pup is what you need to help you focus back on the ones that love you and wish only the best for you. I so wish us girls lived closer so we could go out for a night of fun to help you realize that you are a beautiful and loving spirit and this guy just wasn't the right guy for you. Be proud of the person you are, as so many of us here see how wonderful and caring you are. You deserve better than him and we need to get you in that mind set! Once you do, you'll realize that he wasn't treating you with the respect you deserved. And that's not the life you want. You should be treated so much better than that. I am sorry that you've lost your best friend, but look down at your baby and realize that she is your best friend and she'll be with you no matter what! That's a true best friend! Great big ((((((((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))))) to you. I'm here for you if you'd like to talk. Gen. |
Aww thanks guys...really it means so much! It is so hard, especially this morning. I just wanted to pick up my phone and call him cause i was used to doing that but i had to stop myself. I feel nauseous most of the time..no appetite..nothing excites me anymore. The dogs do help though..i love having them around. I'm sure he misses them too cause he was very attached to them |
Believe me I know exactly how you feel. I am 39 now and married almost 19 years, but I remember back to when I was 17 and my first love. He just ended it and I was devastated . I remember I would drive past his house late at night just to see if he was home :p One day I just said to myself leave him alone and see what happens, this is what I did. I fought everyday the temptation to see if he was around or talk or ask about him (We had the same circle of friends) after about 2 weeks I just was normal again, I mean I didn't even realize I wasn't looking for him. About 2 months later he started going out with a girl I knew for years and she lived right up the block :eek: but by then I was fine and I don't know how , but I just accepted it. Turns out he broke her heart and he now is a fat looser with no job :D How lucky I am that I met the man of my dreams and had 3 beautiful babies :D believe me in the end it will all work out and you will end up EXACTLY where you are supposed to be.. :hug::hug: |
So sorry for the pain you are going through. Have watched our daughter go through her breakups. Not a fun time.:( |
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I'm sorry to read this - I wish you all the best and maybe you guys will work it out once you have a little time apart - you never know !!! All the best - I'm sorry it had to happen and during the holidays at that..... |
I am so sorry that you are hurting so much. Just know this, when God closes a door he opens a window, and believe me God has got something better for you. He has a plan for your life to do you good and not harm. So lean on him in your time of need! big hug to you~Joyce |
I'm so sorry to hear this. Give yourself time to grieve and in the meantime keep putting one foot in front of the other. I'm so glad you have Teddy and London to help you along. Been dealing with this with my daughter - she and her BF of 3 years broke up Memorial Weekend and she moved back in with us. There are days she is still devastated, but she is slowly moving on. The holidays will be especially rough, so try to schedule time with friends and family to help keep your mind off from wanting to call/see him. Truly his loss as you are such a special person. The right one for you will come along. Hugs.... |
Sorry to hear about your breakup. Could it maybe just be a "break". I haven't had a break up in almost 6 years now but I remember how much it sucked back then. Have some girlfriends over and try to keep your mind off him don't listen to sad love songs either ! |
I am sooo sorry, sweetheart! Upon reading your post, I can still feel the sting of losing that first love. We were best friends for years, who had our entire future together planned out, and one day...he just decided I wasn't good enough for him. He moved away within a week of our breakup. I was devasted. It was also right before Christmas. I lost 35 lbs in a month, and spent thousands trying to cover up my emotions. The only thing that helped me was the support of a wonderful friend and knowing that the Lord had better things for me. I'm now happily married to a man who is 10x the man than he has turned out to be. You are strong enough to get through this... And you never know what the future holds. Just know you are cherished and priceless. Lots of hugs going your way! |
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IM so sorry your going through this, especially now.. sending you hugs and kisses.. Keep your self occupied as much as you can. Its gonna hurt for a little while, but you will get over it.. your too cute and too pretty. Keep your head up.. Stand tall. You deserve better.. Im here for you if you need to talk. I will surely make you laugh.. |
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