Please tell me if I'm being over sensitive I have 4 children (skin) a boy, 19, a girl 18, a girl, 14, and a boy 10. Well my 19,18 and 10 year old all are light like my husband. He's of Irish heritage. My 14 yr old is dark like me..I'm of Italian heritage. She has dark hair. She takes after my side of the family. The other three kind of look alike. They all have blue eyes and blondish hair. They take after my dh side of the family. Everyone can't believe she is my 18yr olds sister at school because they look so different. Well at school the other day they were late and had to sign in. The woman in the attendance office asked my 14 yr old if she was from the same father!!! I am a little upset. Of course all 4 are from the same father, we've been married for nearly 21 yrs. I thought it was very nervy to ask such a question. Sometimes people need a little more self restraint and keep their questions to themselves. She hates to tell anyone that she is my 18 yr olds sister because everyone says "nooo". It's just annoying. Especially because my 18 yr old is pretty thin and my 14 yr old is a little heavier. Yeah lets make her feel like she is an outsider. I'm sorry for the rant. I'm, having a bad day. My son the 19yr old is having surgery on Fri. He has a torn meniscus. He runs track at college and he tore it. This thing with the girls happened last friday but it is still in my head. |
Personally, I don't think u r being over sensitive at all! Just consider the source. How ignorant some people are, not to say just plain insensitive. I just hate that people like that can say something to our younger generation that could make them feel uncomfortable. I'd be upset too & would probably have a one on one conversation privately expressing my discontent over the remark. I hope it doesn't bother yr daughter as much. |
That was very rude to ask your daughter. Some people!!!! |
Wow, that is inCREDibly rude and insensitive. :( |
Some people are just so rude and should keep their mouth shut! We are six siblings in my family, and maybe 2 of us look alike. We are all built different and eyes and hair coloring are different. My parents have been married for 56years so I know where you are coming from! Hope your son recovers quickly! |
Horribly rude!:thumbdown |
I don't think you were over sensitive at all .Some people open their mouths and stick their foot in it .Next time you see her take her aside and tell her how insulting that was .I would .You will much more better to. Can someone tell me how to get my picture to show over there please <-------------------- thanks .Sorry for asking in this post I just can't seem to figure it out |
It does get annoying to have this question asked. I have 3 kids in their 20's and the 4th one is just turning 13 this weekend. For some reason people ask that question about him just because there is a 9 year gap between the 3rd and 4th. Plus one time my daughter's ex bf asked if all 4 kids have the same dad. Reason being is because all 5 kids in his family have different dad's. I guess for some it's an odd thing to be married to the same person for a long time. He asked me that and you should see how much mine look alike and very much like their father. I think some people are just rude and dumb! It wasn't very unproffessional of that secretary in a school office no less to ask such a thing. Very rude, dumb and nosey! |
Yes, the woman in the attendance office was rude, and I would be offended too. People who work in the attendance office are supposed to be nice and have tact while welcoming people into the school. Some people need to take a course in biology and etiquette. |
I think that's a VERY rude question to ask, especially to your 14 yr old daughter! That's crazy! |
You're not being overly sensitive! That person is overly rude. How sad. It would gnaw at me for a long time, just like you. Your youngest probably feels terrible too. Support each other when this type of thing happens and as long as your youngest knows how much she is loved, that's what's most important. |
I think I would personally call the school and complain. Aside from it being terribly tacky, what is it anyone's business anyway? |
Thank you for all of your nice comments. Some people are just plain ignorant. Someone like me would never say something so rude. I guess it's the way we are brought up. What if she was adopted or something? She should not have to explain why she looks different. Well my daughter knows she's ours. And we love her. Some people are just plain insensitive. I am not going to give it another thought...I have my son's surgery to worry me. He needs me right now. My daughter is fine. She was just pissed like me. Thanks again..I hate to make a mountain out of a molehill but this has been bothering me for a couple of days. My daughter is so over it. |
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Very rude. I would go in to the office and let that person know her question was rude. My golly!! Schools have to be so careful with so many things, they should start with their office staff!! Teaching respect of all people!! |
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