Thanks ya'll. That is pretty much everything I've been telling myself. I think I just needed to hear it from an outside source.

((((hugs))))

Aerrika, if you lived in TX, I would think you were talking about my mother!!! That is exactly what she does to me....except the showing up on my doorstep and that's only because we took her car away when she wrecked it.

Im afraid for you. Do you think she would ever hurt you?

OMG!:eek: and I thought i'd had some pretty s****y friends in the past! she needs to be dealt with asap! hugs to you for putting up with her for so long!

Ok wow, i just read your first post and i HAD a friend who was the same exact way! we had been friends for 10 years and i finally broke it off with her because i just couldn't take it anymore. she was making me so crazy i went on anti-anxiety medication! She too went "suicidal" on me MANY times but it was all a cry for attention. She liked to think that she was a great listener but it was always all about her. Oh god, and then when i got really serious with this guy she went ballistic even tho she herself was very serious with a guy and was living with him. it was a very very bad and unhealthy siutation for me.

finally i just couldn't take it anymore and told her flat out that she was slowly killing me and i needed a break from her. I told her i couldn't deal with her attention seeking behavior anymore and her crying 'suicide' all the time was making it a thousand times worse. every time she did that i of course would drop everything no matter what i was doing or what time it was or where i was so i could go to her. Well not anymore. if she was seriously 'suicidal' then she would have done it already. she was her boyfriends problem now and not mine any longer.

well its been 2 years now and i haven't seen or heard from her since. personally i've been so much better off. not on meds anymore. and just happier in general.

a friendship is not a true friendship if it is harmful in any way.

I don't know if this as been sad before or not....but...if she says she is going to kill herself again I would call the police because they maybe able to commit her. That is just what I would do.

I don't *think* she would ever hurt me....not physically anyway.

OMG and to hear HER tell her it, she is the sweetest, most wonderful person in the world and *I* am the bad guy.

It is just frustrating, and draining, and for my sanity I really need her to leave me alone and stay away from me.

I HATE having to do this to someone I care about and who I considered a friend at one time, but I just don't know what else to do. If I don't put a stop to this I'm afraid I'm going to be the one who ends being carted off by the men in white.

Uhh....I'm actually kinda scared for you. I seriously think you need to get a restraining order against her. Really. Yikes.

I agree with all that say this woman is a nut case! I would seriously let someone in authority know what is going on.....just in case.......god forbid if anything ever happened, they would know who to look for!! It sounds as if she is capable of trying to ruin other aspects of your life by being dishonest....lying about you and your family, etc. I would definitely take measures to let her know and the police that you aren't going to stand for her shenanigans!

Oh My!!!!! I think your friend has serious issues. Can you say STALKER!!!!!! Next time she comes to your house or calls tell her you finished the class Drama Queen 101. If she calls or contacts you , you will go out the next business and get a restraining order on her..... Good Luck she is very fortunate to have had you this long as a friend!!!!

Wow. I am not afraid for you, but I am afraid for your children. People like that who are truly psychotic, will tend to go for what would hurt you the most. If she completely lost it, she may go after your children because she *knows* it would be far more tragic for you than actually hurting herself or you.

Please consider getting a restraining order. It is good there are already police records regarding her at your residence. Aren't some people just *crazy*?

I don't think there is any need to be afraid - except for your sanity! This woman clearly has a lot of problems - but they are NOT your responsibility. Threatening suicide seems to be an attempt to manipulate you back into a position where you are all things to her. If she chose to take her own life, then that is absolutely HER responsibility, NOT yours. You've already given this woman years of your life and your energies. You owe her nothing. You owe yourself some peace and stability, which can only be achieved without the presence of this emotional vampire. You've made the right decision - so don't feel bad about sticking to it. It's her life, and she can't expect you to live it for / with her.

I don't know if it helps, but I am a psychotherapist - and I think you've done absolutely the right thing!

I had in the past, but I have learn to keep my distance;) I just hard to deal with critical, negative people somentime:(

DUMP HER! Get this woman out of your life. You have a husband and children to think about. Plus you would be setting an example for your children about not dealing with these kinds of people in your life. Everything you do carries over to them. Another thing, what is this suicide crap with people? My daughter has a phscho ex who tries this stuff thinking it will win her back. I told her that people really want to commit suicide generally don't tell others about it. Usually no one has the slightest idea they are even considering it untill it's done and over. Anyone that is announcing it to the free world is just trying to get your attention. Next time she does it, don't show up just call 911 and report it to them and let them deal with her. Good luck with this. I never had patients for these kinds of so called friends. Anyone that tries to monopolize my life (unless it's my kids) and keep me from doing things I need or want to do is booted out. Give her the boot!

She called last night (from a different number so my phone didn't block it) and screamed/ranted/raved for 45 minutes. I put it on speaker so Mike could hear.

I told her AND sent her an email (so she has notification in writing) that I no longer wish to have contact with her. I also let her know that the police would be notified and a restraining order issued if she showed up at my home. I also let her know that the police would be notified the next time she threatened suicide.

So far today has been peaceful...no emails, no messages, no phone calls. Then its not even noon yet so we'll see.