How long did it take to know that was THE ONE?
 

Just curious, for those of you married or engaged, how long after you first met did you know that he was THE ONE?

as weird as this sounds when I first meet my husband I was at work. He came in to see his friend (a guy) and I looked at my co/worker (girl) and said I'm going to marry him. (I hadn't even met him yet LOL) She said no way and I bet her, told her she could be my maid of honor.

At the time I didn't know him or anything. Few weeks later her started working with us, we got to be friends but he had a girlfriend. After about 3 girlfriends he and I started to date, I was 16, we married when I was 18 and were married for 17 years before we divorced. It was weird though how i just knew.

Same thing with my last boyfriend. I was working for a company when he interviewed. It was weird but I just had a gut feeling we would be together one day .... :) We ended up dating for 6 1/2 years.....

I knew right away. I told my husband on our first date that he was going to want to marry me.:p Even though I "knew", we dated for a year before getting engaged and were engaged a year before marrying so by then I knew I had been right all along.:D We've been together 17 years, married 15. Meeting my husband was the luckiest thing to ever happen to me and marrying him was the smartest thing I've ever done.:)

I just read the cutest (and truest) quote in my Real Simple Magazine. It says; "Love at first sight is easy yo understand, it's when people who have been looking at each other a lifetime that it becomes a miracle".

I met Rory when I was 14 and he was 17. He worked as a lifeguard with my brother @ a local hotel. I worked in the gatehouse checking passes and handing out sports equipment. He was always my bros. goofy friend until my Sr. Year in H.S. He wasn't so goofy looking anymore and LOOKED GREAT in a Speedo!! MyGrad. Party in June. On July 4th we had our first date -It was 1978... On Nov. 10, my 19 th birthday he gave me a Brindle Great Dane. wetook her to O.C. Maryland on Dec. 2, 1978. It was warm and the boardwalk was soo crowded. We had parked way out in the lot. We were talking whilethe puppy slept in the car. He looked @ me and Asked me if I would marry him? I was 19 and he was almost 23. I said yes!! That Chrismas he gave me the engagement ring I picked out in the mouth of a Cookie Monster stuffed toy. We announced our engagement on Jan. 16, 1979 and were married May 5th, 1979!! Everyone said that it wouldn't last because of our ages...May 5 th 2009 we will be married 30 Years!!! :D

I knew within a week he was the one.

I knew he was the one, when in my first marraige Mike and I were good friends,we've been friends for years but I had a horrible secret. My husband of the time was a wife beater, one night when John had beat me to the point I was out cold and left alone with a three year old little girl my daughter and a 5 year old son. Mike my now husband and the love of my life took me to the ER, after calling my Mom to come get the kids. Mike almost went to jail that night, I was too afraid to say who had beaten me, and the police thought he had done it. It took Mike showing me what a good man is supose to be like, to get me to take his help to move and get mental health help for the hell I went through. My first year as a single person I refused to sleep on my brand new to me bed as I was so use to sleeping on a rug next to the bed. Mike stayed with me, got me help and abosultely refused to do anything more then be my friend. It took us four years to become more. But there's a strong bond there.

I met mine in April, and we were married that December, that was 32 years ago

when I was a sophomore in school, my friend showed me a picture of the "cute " guy that lived next to her sister. He would be graduating that year in 1990 and was from a different school than I. I hadn't even met him but I just knew he was the one I would marry! That spring I met him at my friends sister's house, he worked as a pizza delivery guy and was to be going to collage that fall while I started my Junior year of high school. We would just talk on occasion over the summer and sometimes after he got off work he would stop over and see me, he even came to my friend house to knock our tent down on us after he had delivered pizza to us that night:rolleyes: Anyway's we never dated till May 20, 1991 and I have been with him sense then. I graduated high school in 1992 and We got married October 23, 1992, and a year latter on October 25 we had our first child:) I couldn't imagine my self without my Brian. He truly is the best husband and father a girl could ask for, and he treats me like a princess!

This is the best pre-valentine's thread! Thank you all for sharing. Keep the stories coming! This is so heartwarming! It's also nice to know that an answer of one week would not be crazy!:wub:

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Cute thread!......I like reading other peoples stories too!

I guess you can say I pick all my men out the same way......Once I enter a crowded room all I have is tunnel vision for the lucky one...it's as if all the others in the room cease to exist, the others all become invisible to me.......There's some sort of feeling deep down that I just know this is the lucky one!!......I have never been wrong yet, and I've never regretted any of them!!.....

I have taken them all home with me using just my female instincts as my guide..... They have all brought a smile to my face and warmth to my heart......I now have four men in my life that all came to be under the same roof this way....There's my husband and all three of my (yorkie) boys!!!.. ;)

I met my husband on a blind date, and I knew as soon as I met him:). I can't believe it because I didn't think I would ever meet someone I could love again. I met him in Feb. of 1995 after my husband of 18 years walked out after having an affair in Aug. of 1993 (I had no idea-he blind-sided me). The minute I saw Lynn I knew he was just the person I would want to spend the rest of my life with. We were married July 4, 1996, and I can say that I have never been happier. We have weathered more than one storm (step children, breast cancer, Lynn closed the family business and was out of work for a year), but through everything I can wholeheartedly say I still feel the same as I did that night I first saw/met him.;)

The neat thing about us, is we have the exact same b-day, except he's a year older, then our first child together was born on our birthdays 2 years after we got married

I met my DH at a wedding in June 1976. That afternoon I told him he was the kind of guy I could marry. (You can imagine what he was thinking LOL!) A year later we went looking for a diamond. We found one, and a setting, and the ring had to be made.
At Easter, we were at my Grandmothers House for the Holiday. There was a plastic Egg that had a baby chick crocheted around it. We were sitting at the table and I was squeezing the egg in and out of the chicken. Something was rattling in it and He asked me if my grandmother ever put anything in the eggs. I said sometimes candy or jelly beans and popped it open. Out it fell! I said it's a ring ! It's my ring!!! We were engaged for a year and were married in '78. I can't believe we've celebrated our 30th anniversary!!! Of course I still have the ring, but I still have the little chick to!

wellll. I'm way on the other end. I met my husband when we were both 16 and working in a fast-food restaurant. I overheard him talking to another co-worker about his date the night before...and I thought "what a jerk" LOL!! When he called me a few weeks later...his first words when I said "hello" were "where have you been all day, I have been trying to call you!!" I said "who is this?" and when he told me I wanted to know how he got my #. He then said "when are YOU going to ask me out?" (If you knew my husband this is sooooo not him, LOL). I told him "never" and hung up on him still thinking this is the biggest jerk I have ever met.
How or why we actually went on our first date, I'm not sure. But we did, dated for 4 years, was engaged for one year and now have been married for 25 years. I don't really think I knew he was "the one" until I went off to college and realized what a great guy he actually was. I am thankful every day for my "jerk"!!:p

In 1990 I moved to Alabama from Florida to go to college (and live with my grandmother). My parents were building a house up here too. I started going to church with my grandmother. The night I got saved, he asked me for my phone number. I remember telling my parents that night that "I'm going to marry him". We got married a year later. That was the first time I felt that way about a boy, we were 19 when we got married. He has been my best friend, a wonderful husband, and a great father to our children. I actually think I love him more today than I did when we first got married. :)

My first marriage was at 17...3 weeks after graduating from HS. Yep...I was pg. Why? That's another story.
After 6 years & infidelity...him first (many times), I followed suit (a couple of times).. Anyway, I left him, vowing that I would NEVER marry again.

I had a GREAT time....I dated, short term, long term, for the night...

Fast forward to February 1989...I started a new job (secure facility) & was waiting in the reception area to be 'taken' to my new assignment. Nervous as I was, I heard this voice saying "So, the is your first day?", I looked over & met a set of big brown eyes that took my breath away. Any way we talked for a few minutes & he said he'd graduated from college a year earlier...oooppps tooo young. You see I graduated in '83..at 29, I started college at 26...so I figured he was..oh 23, 24. TOOO YOUNG! We were bonded..newbies so we chatted, had breakfast together, sometime lunch...we were friends. Anyway...the end of April that year, one of the 'ladies' says..."We're taking Kevin out ot lunch..it's his birthday" oh FUN..."How old is he?"

Well, shoooot, the 'boy' is 34!!! BINGO!!!! I work this for 4 MONTHS before he asks me out for a 'real' date! On my birthday he called me at work (he left at 3:30, I worked til 4:30) for that night. He dumped a 22 year old for my 35 year old butt.....

In 1991 we married & with all of the ups & downs we will be married 18 years on February 15th.

This may sound crude but follow your heart NOT your VeJayJay. Also.do NOT ingore your instincts.

I was single for 14 years, now my live is a REAL life.

Long...but this is my story....

We're not engaged or married but i definitely knew he was the one when he made me forget about my ex boyfriend. My ex bf and i were dating 6 mos when we broke things off cause i went off to college. I would still talk to him and he would come visit me, and i was still into it and upset about the whole thing. Well my current bf liked me, but because i was still into my ex i was not interested. He pursued me and did not give up, he asked me out probably about 5 times before i said yes. What can i say, i was still heartbroken about the whole thing. But i decided to give it a try with Edward and i made the right choice. We can talk for hours, goof off like kids, and he always makes me feel better. I realized what i'd been missing and now we're on 3 yrs of going out. We went to the same HS so basically known each other 7 yrs but i didn't get to really KNOW him until that first yr of college when we spent so much time together. It's a funny thing cause my older brother also went to my HS, except he's 4 yrs older than me so when he left i began going there. He is now engaged and has a baby with a girl that also went to the same HS, after meeting up again yrs later. I think its a coincidence but love has a funny way of happening :)

Well now, here is my twisted story of love :p

I met the man I wanted to marry when I was in my last year of HS at 17. He was the most beautiful man I had ever seen .My first true love... We started dating and were always together everyday until one day we had a fight :rolleyes:...He hung up on me and didn't come pick me up that night and I will be damned if I was going to call him back. So I stayed mad , he stayed mad ...neither one would give in and neither of us would call.....So my friend set me up with someone else to take my mind of him...We went out , he proposed , I accepted and we were married a couple months later ....

Walking down the isle I wanted to turn and run back to my ex boyfriend or run anywhere for that matter , I knew in my heart I did not want to be there...I wanted to be with my ex ..I was still totally in love with him...but I was to afraid to turn and run so I married him....we were divorced by our first anniversary...I only married him because I was pissed off about my ex....great reasoning skills there huh?:rolleyes:

Two years later I met my now dh at a party but wouldn't go on a date with him for a long time . Then we started dating, we dated for years and I turned him down three times before I was ready to marry him ( I wasn't making that mistake again !:p) So three kids and many years later , I'm still with him and he is still my best friend and still one of the best men I know.

But sometimes I have to admit I still wonder ..what ever happened to my first love ....we never did talk again.

So thats my story good or bad , it's mine.:)

I knew the day I met my husband that we would get married. I guess I never beleived in love at first sight until then :p

We went on our first date May 5th, and that was that. I still joke that we're on our first date because from that day on we were just together :D

We got engaged in November and were married the following June. It's only been three years but I still know he's the one! Except when I want to kill him :D but for the most part I just know!!

I also had a "love at first sight" situation. My hubby and I were high school sweethearts. We met when my "American Character" class visited his "Chemistry" class to watch their presentations about Nuclear Energy. There was a "spark" when we made eye contact and that's what started it all. We graduated from High School in 1999 and were married in the spring of 2000 after dating for 3 years. We have been married for almost 9 years now and have 2 little boys (ages 4 and 1 1/2), with one more boy on the way (due 3 days after our anniversary).

I met my husband when I was 16, sort of through a mutual friend. He got my AIM name from my friends computer and messaged me one day. He was stationed here with the AF.
When we met I was like "omg this is who I want" well after that night I didn't see him again until I was 20. He had stood me up 3 times then we never talked again. Well one lovely afternoon, I get home from work and a message pops up from him on AIM.. He wants to meet up...I was thinking oh it's payback now..I agreed to meet with him, and I was right back to being "gaga" over him again. We ended up playing cat and mouse for a year. He was a total game player, and when I finally had it with him, he straightened out.
I moved in with him, 1 month later we got the news he was being deployed, he popped the question and I said yes. After he got back and everything we got married.
On the 20th it will be 2 years, and honestly I don't even know if we will "make it" in the end...If I could go back and do things different, I would have turned him down or insisted on a longer engagement because everything I thought I knew about him was a total lie.

I too met my hubby on a blind date, but said no way will this last. That was almost 20 years ago. You just never know with LOVE :D:D

It's hard to remember exactly how I felt about my husband in the very beginning, I had been mucked about a bit before so I was wary of being too trusting.. .I trusted my instincts eventually and knew that he was a decent, caring and loving guy..the first I had ever met!...I think I knew within a couple of weeks that I wanted him around for a very long time!;)
We have been married 15 years in may.:)

I met my husband when I was a senior in high school. We had known of each other for two years before that and had never talked. My best friend and his brother were friends and they got us together. We both knew that we would get married probably about a month after being together. Now we have been together 7 years but only married about a year and a half. :heart to Its funny what love does to you, I never wanted any children before I meet him and know I can't wait to have a family.

my heart just melts when i here these stories,, all of them are so
beautiful, you gals are so lucky,, i wish i had one to tell

Well, how to begin? ;) Does anyone remember the movie in 1999 with Tom Hanks and Meg Ryan, "You've got mail?" For those who don't remember, it was a movie based on a time when personal computers were hot and America On-Line (AOL) was THE internet service provider to have. Well, my life, in a way emulated that movie.

I bought my first home computer in 1998. This was during a time when I was on my own after a terrible, abusive first marriage. I "worked" on healing myself for 9 yrs before I even thought about dating again. Well, of course I subscribed to AOL and began teaching myself all about the internet. I came across the personal ads and have always got a chuckle out of the things people would write about themselves in order to "woo" someone to date them. As I was reading a few I came upon this profile that sounded too good to be true. When I started reading it, this guy seemed to be speaking from the heart. You can tell the cheesy ones from the fruit-cakes. Well, little did I know this profile was speaking to my heart.

Well, to fast forward a little. It took me a month to get up the nerve to e-mail this guy, because my curiosity was getting the best of me. We began e-mailing, then IMing and after two months we decided to share phone numbers. Dh would e-mail me every night before he went to bed so that I had an e-mail waiting for me every morning. For the next 4 months, we IM'd and called each other and sent pictures, then together decided we wanted to meet. He lived 2 hours north from where I was and he was coming to see me for the first visit. We both knew before he showed up at my front door that we had feelings for each other. Seeing each other and spending the weekend together was magic!

Fast forward, we traveled back and forth to each others house on the weekends for about 6 months, then I left my job of 10 years and moved to where he was. Within the next few months we were engaged and married.

I too feel that I love my hubby more every day. We have the marriage I always dreamed about. I say that God answered my prayers from when I was a little girl. I think I found the last one of the really great men around.

sorry for the short novel:p

~Kathy:animal-pa

I loved that movie! Your story sounds so much like mine. Did you think you had lost your mind at first? My guy found me at a singles dating site 12 days after I signed up, there was no hesitating to make contact. He is 7000 miles away right now, the time difference is about 12 hours so I am getting up as he is going to bed. It is wonderful to get up in the morning and find a poem from him in my email in-box. I hope that soon I will be able to post an answer in my own thread. All I can say is that he removed his profile from the singles dating site! :lovewings

I knew he was the one right away!!!!

And we just got engaged on November 4th which was our 3 year anniversary. :) Getting married 9/12/09!