I need to vent!!
 

so hubby and i went to a club on thursday night. me and him havent been in good terms for a while because of all we have been through. and i thought we were finally getting better and lovey again. and Im friends with a photographer that was there. this is what im mad about.

random girl came up to him at a bar took a picture with him. he has his arm around her and smiling?!! he doesnt like pictures (because of his weight( and will never take any pictures with me. he will not even take one on a special ocassion. but he is here holding the girl and a full fledge smile! i never even get a smilE! what the $#@/

it jst makes me understand why i am always upset at him. i call him at his job and told em and asked if he loved me. and he was upset that i was a little ticked off by it! No consideration over my feelings ever. but if it was the way around and i had a picture of me with a guy circling around....he would kill me, the photographer and the guy. I am just so upset that i have to hide my feelins to avoid a fight.

here is the pic and a example of a pictures with me . and apicture of me with the girls

does he look as happy with me than the blonde chick? lol

i dont see a pic?? :confused:

i fixed it

You are way prettier than the blonde. I would say it is hos problem and he is lucky to have you and shpuld treat you better. I hope you can work it out life's too short to be treated badly.

umm ok im really not trying to be mean but.... ur stressing over hiim? im straight and all so dont take this the wrong way. ur a pretty girl... if he's not been treating u right, y u still around? u can do BETTER!! once again.. im not tryin to b mean or rude or watever. im just sayin'

First of all you should not be worried-you are way prettier than the blond!
But I would'nt say he looks happier with her anyway, just a different kind of happy. If he has self esteem issues then he was most probably very flattered that this other girl posed for a pic with him, she gave his confidence a boost, thats all. If anything I'd say he looks a little embarassed. He looks way more comfortable in the pic with you, leaning towards you, cuddling up and wrapping his arms around you. Men can be idiots, lets face it:rolleyes:(Sorry guys):rolleyes:They don't realize that sometimes situations that are unimportant or trivial to them might have a huge impact on us, whereas women tend to consider their mans feelings alittle more. I hope you guys are gonna be OK, it sounds as if you really love him, my fella has been a prat many,many,many times!LOL!But you have to forgive 'em, afterall they are men!

thank you guys... I am just getting to that point that I am so fed up with everything that he does. I thought we fixed it over the weekend. but he still doesnt care about my feelings.

I don't think he looks happier with the other girl. I think he looks embarrassed. Just me though.

Actually he looks happier in the pic with you, more relaxed. In the other pic he looks like hes trying to suck in his gut and forcing a smile (which is not a smile by the way lol) don't worry girlfriend, you got it going on. I hope your hubby knows how lucky he is! :)

thank you guys for the boost!

Piptickle - I do see what you mean about him looking that way. it might of made him feel good. I hope that is all he had through his head.


Sexijessi- you are not being mean. I get that ALL the time. There is something about him I just cant seem to get away from. he is adorable to me. and trust me i do feel sometimes that he should be on his knees and thank me lol!


ty patti also :) he said the girl stinked also and he was disgusted by that. its just the fact that he was okay with taking a picture with someone else but when we are out in a event together he will not take one.

I think we have messaged/talked before...MAYBE? But those that know me know I am brutally, brutally honest. I will not lie to save your feelings.

First of all....I sympathize with your husband hating to have his picture made. I HATE having my picure made, too, and it is for the same reason. I need to lose weight, and looking at fat pictures just makes me more unhappy.

#2. I take offense to the statements of "you can do better", and all that., made by another poster. There is something about your husband that made you fall in love, and it is probably more than skin deep.

#3 He looks like he is thinking "I am in deep *&$%, but I don't want to hurt this girls feelings" in the pic. You ARE way prettier than the blonde, who needs hair help, and should have worn a black bra with a black shirt.

You are probably overly senstive right now because you are going thru issues with your husband, but don't make this in to an issue. It was one night, and a stupid picture, and as you know, marriage is a lifetime commitment. I have been in your shoes, thinking my husband doesn't care, but then I had to realize everything we have went through so far, and he has never left :)

Ya'll CAN work it out. I have been dating/married to husband for 15 years, and it would take A LOT to make me leave (Especially since he pays all the bills :D)

I love you guys! thank you for making me feel better and not wanting to start a fight with the hubby lol

In the pick with you, he looks as if he is leaning into you, like he cares. With the blonde, he's straight, kind of stiff, and looks like he might have indigestion, or be embarrassed as someone had mentioned. Just my thought!!

:lol tears

ok im not trying to fight with anybody
1. i didnt know she was literally married
2. im not sayin she can do better only in terms of appearance. believe me im no bikini super model so i shudnt b one to judge.
3. the op said that they have been going thru a rough time for "a while"
4. she also mentions that he doesnt take considerations to her feelings.
this is wat i mean by she can do better. she is too young n pretty to b made feel "less" by another person. especially if like she says "doesnt take her feelings into consideration" he got upset at her for her askin if he loves her??? i mean wat kinda guy wudn't appreciate a lil jealousy from his wife from time to time?? IM NOT SAYIN UR A JEALOUS PSYCHO ABADON LOL


hahahah somneone said he looks like he has indigestion ahhhahaha . u guys r toooo much

lol Sexijessi ..no where near pyscho but thank you for understanding...he is all upset at me now that I even questioned him about loving me. I just dream of the day he will actually tell me baby I do! when its little things like this that bother me. Not fight with me about it . I just wanted some reassurance on his end. Like I do to him every day.

men need to understand that we r crazy just like they r. they go thru their macho moments n we go thru out girly moments. sometimes we just need to be told that we r loved out of the blue. im sure u guys will overcome this. just talk to him about it. good luck

thats the problem. After he gets upset like he did. I cant dare to say it again or it will become this blow out fight. Whenever I have a concern that i want to talk about a fight happens

I really shouldn't speculate because I don't know the facts, but it sounds like he does not feel loved or valued, and is using his macho-ism and anger to cover hurt feelings. I am not saying it's your fault, but if he has self-esteem issues, he may cover his insecurities with anger or nastiness.

I know that when my husband doesn't feel "loved" (how do I put that tactfully?? :p) he jumps down my throat at everything. Then after he gets "loved" he is fine :D. Guys are retarded and sometimes I get sooooo tired of making sure he feels manly and macho and needed. But I am thankful that my hubby is kind of sensitive because lord knows I have dated the most insensitive jerks around!!

I kind of feel sorry for him, it sounds like he really isn't happy with himself. And if you can't be happy with yourself, you can't make someone else happy. Isn't that how that saying goes?

Hubby looked at the pics he says yr husband was NOT happy in the pic with the girl....and he says you are prettier than that girl. Now, my husband has called another girl pretty--I'm mad :p

And that's why I'm not saying a word in this thread... my wife is also a member.:eek:

wow that really opened up my eyes.. I NEVER thought of it that way. I feel like running to em and giving him a big hug! lol He is incredibly insecure and maybe that is what is hapenning. because he always saying "you having with your lil skinny people" so he really does always feel out of place. I just wish he would open up to me about the feeligns he has. He only does when he is extremely drunk (night of club after commin home thoriwn up on floor! lol) telling me how sad he is that he is not apart of the skinny group .

LOL your awesome Darlin Beuxs!

I know it's hard when you're mad, but you should try to approach him that way tonight. Give him a big hug, kiss him and tell him he's the most important thing in your life and you need him, yada yada yada. He is probably embarrassed about his feeling insecure and doesn't feel like he can open up. I bet if you approached him differently and made him feel safe and loved he will open up to you. They can be such children!! I am all about women being able to be independant and being able to take care of themselves, but most men need to feel needed. I don't mind playing damsel in distress sometimes :D I'm actually pretty good at it :p

Wow. I feel so full of wisdom now that I am 26 ;) Maybe it's not that bad..... hmmm.

Your husband looks very comfortable with you, the one with the blonde, he doesn't look happy at all, he does look embarrassed. It is very hard for overweight people( I know, I'm overweight), and I hate my pictures being taken too..I think most likely, he feels like I have before, (my hubby is good looking), like in his head, he doesn't feel like he's good enough for you, and is maybe afraid to really let his love out for you, in fear of being hurt..You are a very beautiful young woman, and I think instead of asking him if he loves you, just make sure you make him feel secure in the marriage and let him know how much you truely love him..How long have you been married?

It will be 2 years on May 20th... and thank you so much ...I never thought of his side to things and will be showing him the affection and confidents he needs when he comes and picks me up from work. i will tell you all tomorrow what happend :)

Good luck...I'm just trying to tell you(from being in his shoes), how I have always felt, my hubby has always been very nice looking and very well built, I was always wondering what does he see in me? But, we've been married (will be 32 years Dec.4)..It took me a long time to realize he loves me for who I am, and not my weight. I've been small and I've been big, and he has never treated me any different at all)..

Yeah, that's why as soon as we got married, I set out to make Hubby fat too! LOL just joking. Bu he gained like most people do when they get married.

It is strange that most of the married people understood!

so we are better and I came to work today and in my inbox was a picture of me andmy hubby! Thank you guys for making me understand his side...instead of my jealous side...it really made me open my eyes and let me treat hubby with more love and understanding. And when I got into our truck we were totally fine and i told him i love him. :) here is the pic

I second that.