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... What ???? ... We (my daughter and I) went to the Store to get a few things and as I was putting stuff up at the checkout the cashier (a guy) started talking to my daughter ..... He says 'Hello' and my daughter just stood there and looked at him ..... he goes "you look pretty" and again no response from my daughter ...... so he goes " you can't talk ??? It is rude not to say Hello" .... so my daughter looked at me and I told him that she does not talk to strangers and I want him to stop talking to her ..... he goes ..... "I am not a stranger ..... it is not a crime to be polite ... do you think your better then me ???" :eek: I got irritated cause he would not drop it .... and I told him to shut up .... do his Job and leave my little Girl alone or I will go talk to his manager ..... at that point I yelled and the whole Store heard me .... :mad: I teach my kid NOT to talk to strangers and have to put up with this ???? :thumbdown |
He should have just dropped it. However, I have to agree with him, I think it is rude when someone doesn't speak to the cashier if they have been spoken to. I realize that she is just a little girl, but I do think that it would have been polite for her to say Hello. I know there is a fine line on judging who is a stranger.....but, you were with her. Just my opinion....no one has to agree! |
See I said "Hello" to him .... I understand what your saying ..... but how can I say at one point .... don't talk to strangers and then say ... ohhh it's ok now .... I think it will confuse her .... I don't know what to think .... :confused: |
I totally understand about teaching your daughter to not talk to strangers. I don't have kids of my own, but I have a niece and nephews. I've always been protective of them when I take them out. Having said that, I personally feel that if I'm with them and a cashier at a store says "hi" that it's ok to say "hi" back. JMO I think teaching them to not talk to strangers when you are not with them and they are in different situations and environments is a good thing. I think it's a hard line between wanting to protect kids from strangers and making them too fearful of people in general. You want them to like people and to be polite. That's just my two cents worth, but the cashier should have dropped it! |
I think since you were with your daughter it would have been alright for her to respond. I know the rule of thumb is to teach your child not to talk to strangers but that can be a bad thing too. There is a difference between being polite to a stranger and carrying on a conversation. Children need to know that not all strangers are bad and they may actually need the help of one someday...I would hope they wouldn't but if they did they may be afraid to ask for help. |
That's ridiculous! You should still have talked to his manager. He was completely rude and OUT OF LINE. You are the mother and he needed to shut his mouth. My youngest son is a little shy and I'm sure he wouldn't say hi either. I would have went off on the guy. :thumbdown (My two cents and I might be too paranoid but in this society you can not be too careful especially with girls and men that are too friendly) |
I agree 100% with mayas mommy & chloeandj!! |
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I congratulate your daughter for listening to you. I think it would have been fine if he also spoke to you and not "you sure are pretty". That's alittle freaky. I know my kids look to me when a stranger talks to them and I will say go ahead and say hello or say thankyou. |
You were there and may have picked up on something wierd about this guy but if not I would always want my children to learn to speak when spoken to and be friendly if they are with an adult. Now if they were alone that is an entirely different story. |
Goodness! That cashier carried it too far. He should have dropped it after no response...his undesirable comments upset you. My opinion: I'd follow thru on this and make a call to the manager of that store and give him the details...this guy may need to be "talked to" so future customers will not be harassed. I am sorry this happened to you and your little girl...such an unpleasant experience for you and her to endure. |
You were absolutely correct in your decision. She is your child and you make the rules. I don't think it was rude for her not to speak to the cashier. He should've been speaking to you anyhow, not your child. I would have felt very protective myself if he would've been so rude to my child and reacted like a mama bear. Good for you.:thumbup: |
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While I agree he should have dropped it, saying she sure was pretty seems like somethinng someone would say to a child around here. Just a Southern (US) thing I guess. If you got a creepy vibe maybe you should have talked to the manager. |
However anyone feels about if your daughter should have said hello to begin with- that man was beyond rude, not to mention weird and creepy. For any man to tell your daughter she is pretty and then badger her for not responding... What a nutcase! Perhaps your daughter was intuitive enough to realize this man was odd to begin with and was smart not to encourage conversation. |
This reminds me of the creepy kind I'm sure most of us have encountered. Some men think that you are supposed to be incredibly flattered simply by their notice and if you aren't they turn on you instantly. This is probably the type of guy who makes vulgar sounds to random women and responds to being ignored with "b!tch" or "d!ke". I understand that some people think he was being nice by complementing your daughter's looks but his reaction after that speaks volumes to me. |
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